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A multiracial mix of queer writers talk about sex, relationships, race, identity, what we like to read, and who we like to read. It's not about food — we just really like the pun.

A multiracial mix of queer writers talk about sex, relationships, race, identity, what we like to read, and who we like to read. It's not about food — we just really like the pun.
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A multiracial mix of queer writers talk about sex, relationships, race, identity, what we like to read, and who we like to read. It's not about food — we just really like the pun.




Bonus!! There's No Such Thing as "Safe Spaces" Part 1 (feat. Zach Stafford!)

(ANNOUNCEMENT) NEW ORLEANS THOTS, We are hosting a Big Queer Pod Fest this Saturday (Sept 1) at 6PM, at Ace Hotel New Orleans with Jeff Masters of LGBTQ&A and Ira Madison III of Keep It! Joining us will be guest-thot Jake Shears of the Scissor Sisters talking about his new album and memoir. Open to the public with a $5 suggested donation to Transgender Legal. On this week's episode, we have Zach Stafford in the haus, coming to you live from Provincetown inside the #StudioByHBO. With the...


Bonus!! You is Kind, You is Smart, You is Problematic.

Who owns who’s stories? How do we begin to tell stories across difference? When done so successfully, what defines that success? Barry Jenkins, a straight man, directed Moonlight one of the greatest queer stories in cinema. Ryan Murphy, a cis white man, conceived POSE, the most inclusive cast of trans people of color in the history of broadcast. If Hanya Yanagihara, a straight Hawaiian woman, can write A Little Life, a story about black queer men, only to have penned literally every...


Sayonara (cock) Suckers!

Fresh starts 4 all! On this, the Food 4 Thot season 2 finale, your favorite Tater Thots come full circle by considering the cycles that govern us all. Whether it’s night and day or life and death, we recognize that beginnings and endings are always present. We pay homage to the place where they intersect and examine our greatest moments of change; for where there is an ending (hopefully a happy ending!), any Thot worth their lube will always find room for possibility—a beginning of sorts....


Shake Shacktivism

You can’t change the world with shirtless insta selfies


We Are Not Lonely, We Just Hate People

This week on Food 4 Thot we ruminate (masturbate?) on the difference between being alone and being lonely.


This Episode is Literally Everything

We're shaking things up a bit. We get tons of topics submitted for suggestion everyday from our fans, so this week, we take on five. First off — drag. Why is drag problematic and when can it be great? Then, HIV/AIDS — how does access to healthcare and human rights a problem for people living with the virus? How can you, if you don’t have HIV, work to destigmatize this global epidemic? How can you have unprotected sex safely, and with whom? Next we we talk about whiteness. We get tons of...


Working Hard or Just Hard?

Ciao bellx, For Food 4 Thot this week, we get into a thick and philosophical question about talent and hard work. When you navigate conversations about your own career, would you say you are talented, or would you say you are hard-working? Are these things in opposition to each other? Is one more important than the other? Do you need both, or if you’re a Kardashian/Jenner, do you need neither? This week, we play our favorite game Bone Block Bench, and have a riveting discussion about the...


Thot Like a Master (feat. Alexander Chee!)

Qyeens, Boi, do we have a treat for you: this week, honorary podfather Alexander Chee is on Food 4 Thot. We talk about his new book and the art of how to tell your own story — whether it’s on Instagram, in your writing, or with your girlfriends over brunch. Who owns stories, and how do you navigate telling them? Is telling your own story cathartic? Does therapy make you a better storyteller? The master Chee tells all. In this episode, we also play a ho-ed up version of Never Have I ever....


Cheaters *Sometimes* Prosper

Sup, sluts. On this week’s episode of Food 4 Thot we are *LIVE* and in color at Buzzfeed HQ chatting about one of our favorite topics: cheating. Being loyal or open with your partner is a hot topic in queer relationships, but a lot of grey areas and miscommunication leave many discussion points open. When is cheating okay? (Or is it ever?) Is physical cheating better or worse than emotional cheating? Why do folks conflate polyamory with infidelity so much? In our advice segment, we open up...


R U OK? (feat. Jenna Wortham!)

Hello little glow worms, Boy, do we have a juicy episode of Food 4 Thot for y’all. This week, the New York Times’ Jenna Wortham joins us in the studio for a thot-provoking little conversation about *wellness* and all its woes. How do we, as queer people, have to overcompensate for our self-care in the wake of trauma? To what extent is “self care” an excuse to be lazy, irresponsible, or a bad friend? What are the best Tips for Thots to up our wellness game? Spoiler: Do not put a crystal egg...


Who R U Wearing? (feat. Jacob Tobia!)

Hey fashionist@s, On this week’s episode of Food 4 Thot, we discuss personal style. In the studio with us is writer and producer Jacob Tobia who’s been around the block before when it comes to those who judge you based on appearances. How do you define your sense of style? Do you dress gay? Can you even “dress gay?” Where does fashion end and style begin? The Thots dive in! In our new segment The Thot Seat, Jacob answers some deep-cutting questions about street harassment, modeling...


A Family Affair (feat. Christopher Soto!)

Hey fam, On this week’s episode of Food 4 Thot, we’re talking about what makes a queer family and all its ties. Pulitzer Prize-winner Christopher Soto is in the haus, and we’ve got questions. Who is *your* queer family? How do you define it? What if you don’t have a queer family, and how do you find one? And we’re just getting started. Also in this episode, we play Bone, Block, Bench. Would you Bone Paul Ryan? Would you Block Omarosa? Would you bench Frank Ocean, if need be? Find out in...


The Hills R Alive w/ the Sound of Faggots (feat. Jayson Smith!)

This week, we talk all about gay voices, and what it means to have one. Our guest-ho this week is writer Jayson Smith who in addition to being a goddamn genius, is also low-key a singer. Did you get made fun of for your voice as a kid? Do you like it or hate it now? Relatedly, Whitney vs. Mariah — who was the most vocally talented? The Thots go in. Also this week! We discuss sexting, angsty teens, and shirtless selfies. Plus Jayson gives us an Impure Thot story that stars a very, very nice...


Mask 4 Mask

This week we talk about ~authenticity~ and how we as queer folk put on personas and masks from time to time. What’s your persona? Do you exaggerate your personality on social media? Is there even such thing as “natural” when it comes to queer composure? Tune in and find out. Also! The Thots talk about the first albums they ever bought (Phantom of the Opera, Lindsay Lohan, Destiny’s Child, oh my!) and then we dive into our advice segment talking about the Life-Changing Magic of Frottage and...


Thots! Camera! Action!!! (feat. Ira Madison III!)

We’re going to *Oprah voice* Hollywooooooooooood. Just in time for the Oscars, we’re discussing…. Literally anything but the Oscars. The Academy will always disappoint us with mediocre guests and bad gay jokes and giving awards to cis people playing trans roles, so we are talking about our favorite queer films of yore. What are your favorite movies? What characters do you see yourself in, even when the film isn’t queer? (Maleficent anyone???) Also, we’ve got the delectable Ira Madison III...


Call Me By Your Obscure Gay Memes

This week, we brought back our *Official* Thot Book Club with this season’s selection: André Aciman’s Call Me By Your Name. As is the case with most queers (for both the book and the movie) our opinions were divided. Was the conceit of this movie too white and wealthy? Was the sex a little lackluster? Should queer narratives be required to have sex in them? Did you feel yourself seen in Elio or Oliver (or neither)? What are the technical logistics and realistic constraints of fucking a...


We (Don't) Belong Together

This week we talked about breakups and everything that entails. How do y’all move on after you’re hurt? Do you have good relationships with your exes? After a breakup do you stand outside his house late at night while listening to Imogen Heap’s “Hide and Seek” over and over again before you cry yourself to sleep? No? Just us? Before dragging our exes for a solid 25 minutes, we dive deep into a *very rare* news segment talking about Barack Obama, Cardi B, a queer-as-hell fashion week, and...


We Don't Believe in Life After Love

It’s almost our favorite holiday, Discount Candy at Walgreens Day, and in honor of that, we’re talking all about love on today’s episode of Food 4 Thot. We thots are all across the romantic spectrum: some of us don’t believe in life after love, some of us love to love you, baby, and the rest of us are all like “What is love?” (Baby, don’t hurt me). Wade into the murky waters with us, bbs. Also! We air out our dirty laundry and read our *worst* DMs ever, on air. Plus, we know Tommy is...


Body-ody-ody Issues

We’ve got a gutting episode this week, all about bodies (and the issues that ensure). When were you first aware of your body? Why do you love your body? Why do you not? We’re joined in the studio by writer Harron Walker who’s got a lot to say about what happens when people tell you what you can and can't do with your bodies. It's like, the opposite of a Janet Jackson song. ALSO, we play our favorite game Homo-nym, wherein the thots debate the gayness of our favorite cultural iconography....


Werking Grl

We’re back after a short break with our most emotionally harrowing episode yet talking about one of the touchiest subjects ever: our careers. What happens when you conflate your identity with your career? What about when a boo-thing comes along and throws a wrench into your whole success trajectory? This week, the Thots cut deep into the topic of love vs. work. (Spoiler! The Thots disagree on pretty much everything.) Also in this episode, we play a game called Sex Toy or Space Craft. It’s…...