Alvean and Doug respond to listener's questions about why couples fight. What are the most common issues and how do you stop the patterns of behavior that lead to quarreling? To read a full transcript of this episode, click here:LL29-Why Do Couples Quarrel?
Doug & Alvean talk about the healing power of love. More than just our emotions are affected by our relationships. Strong bonds can have a powerful healing affect on our bodies, minds and spirit, while some toxic relationships can lead us to a lifetime of pain and hurt. Which is yours? For a complete transcript of this episode, click here:LL28-Can Love Heal?
Alvean and Doug take on the difficult business of making a choice when confronted by strong feelings for more than one person. How do you sort out your feelings and decide what's best for you? Find out in this episode. For a full transcript, click here: LL27-Can you love two people equally?
What can you do when you are in a lopsided relationship and your partner makes everything about them? Doug & Alvean tackle the question of narcissism and selfishness in relationships and methods for coping with them. A full transcript of the episode can be found here:LL26-It is all about me
There are times when being lonely can be healthy and nurturing. Doug & Alvean talk about how to use your time alone to build a stronger sense of your self and prepare for a meaningful relationship with others. A full transcript of the episode can be found here:LL25-Savoring Loneliness
When couples have control issues it's often not pretty. Why do people do this? How can you avoid fights over control in your relationship? For a full transcript of the episode, click here:LL24-You're not the Boss of Me
Alvean and Doug talk about the green-eyed monster, Jealousy, and how it can erode the trust that forms the basis of all successful relationships. Conditionality and the need for approbation are among many causes that Doug & Alvean review, as well as the ways in which couples can overcome the de-stabilizing impact jealousy can have on their sense of security. For a full transcript click here:LL22-Jealousy
Should you ever get back together with someone you were once in relationship? If so, what are the things to look out for so you don't wind up in the same place once again? Doug and Alvean talk about failed relationships and how and when to try to put them back on course. For a complete transcript, click here: LL21-Getting Back with Your Ex
When relationships fail and fail badly, there is always the possibility that things will end with bang not a whimper. Doug and Alvean discuss real life situations and how to handle them when things get ugly. A complete transcript can be found here: LL20-Vindictive Ex's
Those who lack empathy or have lost it, are without one of the most powerful of human capacities and one that is essential to loving oneself and others. Alvean and Doug talk about the power of empathy and how to find it in your life. A full transcript of the episode can be found here:LL19-Empathy is a Lost Virtue
At some point in our lives we have all felt vulnerable. Sometimes we see this as a negative thing and yet it can also be a gateway to relationships that take us beyond our expectations. Doug & Alvean talk about why and when we feel vulnerable and how that emotion can make us stronger and more fulfilled. A complete transcript of the episode can be found here:LL18-Vulnerability
Have you ever wondered what your purpose is in life, or what matters most to you? Alvean and Doug take on the question in this episode, discussing the values and conditions for happiness. A full transcript of the episode can be found here:LL17
Alvean and Doug talk about pain--the emotional downfall and the wisdom that can come from rising above it. What does hardship have to teach us, does it really make us stronger? For a full transcript of the episode, click here: LL16
When it comes to our feelings, we can be cunning at telling ourselves lies. Doug & Alvean explore the ways in which we set out to fool ourselves and sometimes succeed. How does the remembrance of pain shape our future dealings, and how do we set ourselves up for unhappiness by lying to our conscious selves? For a full transcript of the show, click here:LL15
This week Alvean and Doug discuss heartbreak. How do you move on with your life? Is heartbreak something you ever recover from or simply put aside? How can you pull yourself out of the depression and sadness that accompanies heartbreak? For a full transcript, click here:LL14
As a follow-up to last week's episode on infidelity, Doug & Alvean talk about how and if you can prevent your partner from cheating. Is there a difference between those who have cheated and cheaters? Find out in this episode of LoveLife. For a full transcript of the show, click here:LL13
When one partner cheats on another it's hard to imagine how love can survive. Alvean and Doug respond to a listener on this the question of when and how relationships can move beyond this most extreme violation of trust. For a full transcript of the episode click here:LL12
Everyone has advice to offer to couples. What's the best you ever received--and what might have been te worst? Doug & Alvean discuss the lessons they have heard and offer to couples seeking to build enduring relationships. For a complete transcript, click hereLL11
Alvean and Doug tackle the subject of racial, religious, and cultural differences that can divide or strengthen a relationship. How do friends and extended families enter into the equation and add their own support otr challenge? For a complete transcript of the episode, click hereLL10