Untangle Your Thoughts | Trust in God, Hear from God, Mental Health Tips, Negative Thoughts, Relationship with God, Christian Podcast, Emotional Healing, Spiritual Growth
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Hey friend! Do you want to overcome negative thoughts? Do you want to be able to discern whether it’s your feelings telling you what to do or God? Are you praying for a mental breakthrough? I’m here to say that numbing out doesn’t have to be your only option. Hard and bad things that have happened in this world that need a safe space to be processed. And the church should be one of those places. And this podcast is one of those places. I’m Jessica Hottle, a Board-Certified Master Mental Health Coach, author, and speaker. I help women overcome negative thought patterns to regain control of their lives. Most importantly, I’m the big sister who is going to tell you the truth because I care. In this podcast, we are going to be talking about: -> Feelings: The good, the bad, and the ugly -> Practical ways to take care of your emotional and mental health while never losing sight of God -> How to study your Bible so that you can grow a deeper relationship with God and the church So pull up a chair and join me at the table. Let’s get to the bottom of what’s holding you back. Next steps: Get My Free 3-Day Bible Study: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study Have Me As a Coach in Your Corner: https://www.patreon.com/JessicaHottle Untangle Your Thoughts: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Visit My Website: https://www.jessicahottle.com Email Me: jessica@jessicahottle.com (Jessica Hottle, Christian Mental Health Coach)
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Hey friend! Do you want to overcome negative thoughts? Do you want to be able to discern whether it’s your feelings telling you what to do or God? Are you praying for a mental breakthrough? I’m here to say that numbing out doesn’t have to be your only option. Hard and bad things that have happened in this world that need a safe space to be processed. And the church should be one of those places. And this podcast is one of those places. I’m Jessica Hottle, a Board-Certified Master Mental Health Coach, author, and speaker. I help women overcome negative thought patterns to regain control of their lives. Most importantly, I’m the big sister who is going to tell you the truth because I care. In this podcast, we are going to be talking about: -> Feelings: The good, the bad, and the ugly -> Practical ways to take care of your emotional and mental health while never losing sight of God -> How to study your Bible so that you can grow a deeper relationship with God and the church So pull up a chair and join me at the table. Let’s get to the bottom of what’s holding you back. Next steps: Get My Free 3-Day Bible Study: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study Have Me As a Coach in Your Corner: https://www.patreon.com/JessicaHottle Untangle Your Thoughts: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal Visit My Website: https://www.jessicahottle.com Email Me: jessica@jessicahottle.com (Jessica Hottle, Christian Mental Health Coach)
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Episodes
How to Move Through Your Feelings So Your Feelings Don't Control You
5/22/2024
God doesn’t tell us never to have emotions. However, when we choose to abide in our emotions and listen to them without reason, we learn the fruit of that is strife, jealousy, anger, and things like these as shared in Galatians.
In this episode, I talk about how we move through our feelings so our emotions don’t control us. Navigating our emotions biblically and practically involves blending spiritual wisdom with tangible actions. This means taking time to honestly reflect on our feelings, allowing us to address them with humility and openness.
Integrating biblical principles with practical strategies empowers us to handle our emotions with grace, resilience, and a firm trust in God's plan.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:19:47
A Biblical Way to Care for Yourself Without Feeling Selfish or Self-Centered
5/15/2024
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you desperately needed to take care of yourself, but the overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame held you back? This struggle is real, and many of us have experienced it. But why do we find it so hard to prioritize our well-being?
A healthy relationship with ourselves stems from a healthy relationship with God. What we believe about God we will believe about ourselves and then live as though we believe it.
In this episode, I discuss how misunderstanding scripture has led us to deny our emotions, feelings, desires, and wants - especially with our bodies. I also give you a few questions to process throughout the week to help reframe your thinking around the meaning and value of true self-care.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:21:38
How to Feel Seen When It Feels Like You Are Hidden (And No One Understands You)
5/8/2024
Let me start by honoring the part of you that's fighting to be seen. God sees you and He knows. Not only does God know, but I also know this fight.
I pray that, however hidden you feel, you find comfort in knowing that other women are trying to “get loud” so they can be heard, too. In Hebrews, scripture reminds us that we are not hidden from God. He sees and knows us on an intimate level. But even when the world doesn’t see us, will the Father's seeing us be enough for us? Do we believe He truly sees us and wants to comfort us? And do we allow Him to comfort us?
In this episode, I talk through practical steps to train yourself for Godliness, like acknowledging your feelings, reflecting on scripture, and practicing gratitude. You are deeply seen and known by God. Take comfort in knowing that you are never alone, for God's gaze is always upon you, guiding you with His grace and surrounding you with His unfailing love.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.coachjessica.com
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:14
Haven't You Punished Yourself Enough? Receiving God's Forgiveness and Setting Yourself Free
5/1/2024
“I’m just not good enough.” “I should have known better.” “I’m not worthy of forgiveness.” “I always mess things up.” “I’ll never be able to change.”
Behind every one of those phrases, we find a piece of ourselves that feels like it should be punished. So, we impose self-punishment and call it "holy," but punishing ourselves is no way to live.
Let me ask you this - Do you believe you are forgiven? Fully forgiven, especially when you repent? In this episode, I walk through the steps of genuine repentance, redemption, and restoration through Christ.
When we genuinely repent of our sins, God extends His forgiveness to us through the redemptive work of Jesus Christ. This forgiveness brings restoration of our relationship with God and freedom from the guilt and condemnation of sin.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:33
Be the One to Break Generational Sin Off Your Life (You Don't Have to Become a Statistic)
4/24/2024
The topic in today's episode has been on my heart for a while because I've been reflecting on what my life might look like had I chosen to continue to make decisions that kept me headed down the same dark road much of my family has traveled. Maybe you can relate.
In this conversation, I pose 3 questions that can help you recognize where you have been participating in generational sin and how to break free. You don't have to be a statistic. It will not be easy but it can be done. I am living proof that even the smallest choice can lead you down a new path.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:18:51
2 Things You Can Do to Release Stress and Refocus Your Attention Back on God
4/17/2024
Every day, when our alarms go off and our eyes open, we begin making decisions. By the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions. But we have to do it, right? The family needs to be fed, we need to go to work, and our friendships are important, so the question becomes how do we steward what God has entrusted to us without living overwhelmed by stress or filled with anxiety day in and day out.
In this episode, I walk you through two simple, practical things that you can do right away to release stress and refocus your attention back on God.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:20:33
When You Feel Like Too Much and Not Enough All at the Same Time
4/10/2024
Your childhood, what you have done, what has been done to you, what people have said to you, what people haven’t told you - every one of these sentences when answered holds pieces about who you are; a moment in your life that tried to form you into another image other than your Father’s.
Those messages have tried to form this theme: “When you show up as who God has created you to be, you are too much and not enough all at the same time.” However, over the last couple of years, after letting go of some unhealthy relationships, I am thankful for God’s kindness in showing me that who I am in Him is enough, regardless of what it looks like to other people.
My hope for this episode is that you get honest with yourself and see what stories you believe about who you are based on your life versus what is based on a solid foundation of the Father’s love for you.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:15:49
Do You Struggle to Know If God Punishing You or Disciplining You? Learn How to Discern the Difference
4/3/2024
I hear the pain in my coaching client's words when they say, “I feel like God is punishing me.” Many of the women who go through my programs and coaching one-to-one have been taught a view of God that is vengeful, full of wrath, and all punishment. They fear that when they don’t do something perfect God will punish them for it.
If our theology of God isn’t based on His goodness, then when things happen that we didn’t expect or plan for, it’s easy to think God is punishing us. But God doesn’t bring punishment; he does, however, discipline us.
In this episode, I walk through what I've learned about the differences between punishment and discipline. God will prune the parts of our lives that do not bear fruit if we allow Him to.
Do you often view God as a punisher? Do you have a healthy view of discipline? Let’s talk about it.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:19:38
3 Tips for Breaking Through Tormenting Thought Patterns
3/27/2024
"Where did that thought come from?" "Why do I think like this?" Have you ever asked yourself those questions?
In this episode, I break down how a thought pattern is formed, where we get influence for our thoughts, and offer 3 tips (plus 2 bonus ones) to build a foundation to start breaking through tormenting thought patterns.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:21
If God is Good, Then Why Am I in So Much Pain?
3/20/2024
I am very acquainted with this question - if God is good, why am I in so much pain? In this episode, I share my own story of abuse and striving. Through the years, it has been a process of renewing and redefining all the pain I have gone through with others. It’s also taken time to forgive myself for the pain I caused others and the choices I made. I had to fully receive what Jesus did for me so I could not hold myself to any other standard.
When I talk about coaching and counseling women, I don’t come from a place of having arrived or not being able to empathize. I have watched God redeem the broken pieces of my life over and over again and I know He wants to do for you too.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:35
3 Key Factors to Rebuilding Trust in Any Type of Relationship
3/13/2024
Sometimes we have to be willing to love people from a distance because love doesn’t require proximity, other times we commit to love closely. The depth at which we love will be the depth which we can experience pain.
I don't know exactly what happened in your damaged relationship, but in this episode I share 3 key factors anyone will need when rebuilding trust in any type of relationship.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:13:56
Learn How to “Deny Yourself” in a Way that Honors God without Denying Your Humanity
3/6/2024
“I don’t know how to process through what I am feeling and struggle with anxiety daily,” a coaching client of mine told me. She continued, “I have been taught my entire life to deny myself, so how do I honor God but also honor who He made me?”
Maybe, like my coaching client, you have felt the same way, a world where you need to get yourself together before you can go to God. In this episode, I walk through some scriptures about denying ourselves that are commonly misunderstood and explain how denying our flesh allows our life in Christ to grow, strengthen, and develop.
I’m praying you know you can go to God with how you feel. You don’t need to pretend or deny any part of you because He already knows every part. I know this may not feel easy, but freedom is on the other side.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:17:54
God and Pain: How Do We Reconcile the Two?
2/28/2024
A survivor struggles to bring together two irreconcilable realities - God and abuse. “If God is good then why did this not-so-good thing happen to me?” This is a question we ponder when the pain of what happened feels far from anything good.
We can see a world where there is pain and suffering without God, but how do we live in a world with a good God AND pain and suffering?
That’s what we will be discussing in today’s episode. I want to open up the conversation around the question so many people who are hurting are asking.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:42
How to Calm Down When You Are Angry
2/21/2024
Anger is an emotion that hits hard, has some of the most intense reactions, and can be felt deeply in the body. It doesn’t matter if you are someone who feels their feelings, shoves down their feelings, or has difficulty communicating them; anger is unavoidable because we are humans living in a fallen world. That is not an excuse for anger but a fact. Anger is one of the most basic emotions we, as humans, feel and experience.
I aim to help you befriend the feeling of anger instead of running from it. In this episode, I talk about what happens to our bodies when we experience anger and the normal ways we respond to it. I also offer a few techniques that can help you manage anger and biblical practices we are all called to do by God.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:15:46
3 Ways to Ease Your Anxious Feelings
2/14/2024
With the fast pace of this world, it’s no wonder we are finding ourselves in a constant state of anxious feelings. We think to ourselves that we will deal with it later until later never comes, and we find ourselves lying awake at night trying to process everything all at once.
The good news is that the Bible offers wisdom and encouragement in dealing with these feelings. In this episode, I'm talking through a few techniques for overcoming stress and anxiety through both a biblical and clinical perspective and offering practical examples of how to work through anxious feelings.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:14:24
How to Stop Relying on Your Feelings So You Can Start Trusting God
2/7/2024
Did you know by the end of the day, when our heads hit the pillow to do it all over again tomorrow, we would have made an estimated 35,000 decisions? That’s a lot of decisions that can come with a lot of feelings - and not all of them are good. The fact is that our feelings are not going to go away.
In this episode, I explain three differences when it comes to our feelings that we need to recognize so we can stop relying on our feelings.
Today, take the time to check in with yourself - slow down and evaluate where you are with God and your feelings. Remember, it’s about recognizing and honoring where you are and being honest with yourself. It’s about obedience and submission that gives us the strength and courage to rely on God and not our feelings.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Work with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me in my Untangle Your Thoughts program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:16:48
Forgiving the Hurt that is Hard to Forget
1/31/2024
I know how hard it is to forgive. I think the mistake that many have many over the years is by the phrase, “forgive and forget."
First, we must understand there is no limit to which we are to forgive. We don’t get to decide who is worthy of forgiveness and who is not. Despite what they have done or may do, we are called to forgive those who hurt us. Forgiveness is not an emotion.
In this episode, I walk you through what it looks like to forgive the hurts that are too hard to forget. Remember, those who forgive, choose to forgive. There’s nothing automatic about forgiveness. It’s a choice of obedience out of love and relationship with God.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:13:28
The Process You Go Through to Reconcile with Someone Who Has Hurt You
1/24/2024
I know we don't often say that we need to reconcile with someone, but it is a topic that comes up frequently in my coaching. So if your heart is hurting because someone has hurt you and you're trying to figure out how to move forward with this relationship, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I walk through six stages of rebuilding trust.
Some of the stages can take longer than others - some stages we may even need to repeat. However, continually showing someone through our actions that we are committed to them, that we value them, and want to repair the trust that was broken will be the greatest gift we can give someone in the healing process.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:18:16
5 Ways to Handle Difficult Relationships Through the Lens of Faith
1/17/2024
Wouldn't life be easier if you could control the people in it? Unfortunately, it's not that simple. Relationships can be messy and difficult, so in this episode, I'm walking you through 5 ways you can handle those relationships through the lens of faith by seeing them through God's eyes, identifying stressors, and delaying our responses. I also share some biblical suggestions on how to improve the quality of your communication.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:19:02
Forgiving Yourself for the Things You Did And Wish You Would Have Done Differently
1/10/2024
A proper relationship with yourself starts with a proper relationship with God. If you are always judging yourself by your performance, you will have a horrible relationship with yourself and live under guilt and condemnation.
The release of our condemnation doesn’t hinge on our ability to forgive ourselves; our freedom from the strongholds we carry comes through Jesus. We aren’t striving to be set free, we are renewing our minds to stay free.
We can’t forgive ourselves, but we can show compassion, patience, kindness, and gentleness toward ourselves in the healing process through the choices we make. In this episode, I explain two different types of forgiveness in scripture and walk through the differences between decisional and emotional forgiveness.
Rooting for you,
Jessica
Next steps:
Get my free 3-day study and learn how to deal with your emotions in a biblical way: https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study/
Join the member community: https://www.patreon.com/jessicahottle
Check out my biblical studies: https://www.jessicahottle.com/shop
Work with me by joining the Growth-Focused Coaching Program: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal
Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
Duration:00:11:32