Handing the Shame Back

Survivors - We Need to: Have some Fun! I know it sounds weird on a channel like this, but we need to lighten our load. We cant always be in the trauma and struggling. We need to have balance in our lives and enjoy time that is just, well, for Fun!! Repeat after me: I'm going to have some Fun!! Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

SEVERE Trigger Warning Meet Jeanette: Survivor of Satanic Ritual abuse, Advocate and Campaigner. She was raised in a family of satanists. Her family were deeply embedded in a satanic cult, which involved royalty. MK (mind control) was what controlled her existence until the age of 22. She now strongly Advocates for other survivors of SRA, helping them to break their silence. You can reach Jeanette on https://t.me/+U8ve4gDb7E00MTI0?fbclid=IwAR1wzIQYETyVNm5ZdvYCpGtQDp89wDLdeg3_dVB4FX3Kkh9SjVvfYeDHJjw HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Self-Sabotage Appears in our lives and is never welcome. However we do have the power to rid ourselves of this, we just need to understand it first. It can only exist in a place where we are not valuing who we are, let alone giving ourselves what we need. If we can move to self care and start to gently love ourselves, we may be surprised at how we feel les inclined to sabotage our happiness. Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that when we are meant to face into our trauma, we will know without any doubt whatsoever. It will appear, reappear and find you us matter how hard we try to ignore it. We don't need to panic, it is simply our minds letting us know we are ready to face into it. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Meet Corey, Survivor, Father and Truth-teller. Sadly, he lost both parents between the ages of 13 - 15, first, his mother to cancer, then his father a few years later. He was sexually abused between 13 to 16 years of age. He believes that being a Dad was what really helped him and AA/NA. Being clean and sober gave him a way forward. You can reach out to Corey on: FB, IG, TikTok His handle is https://www.facebook.com/Corey.Boden.1974 HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that our potential may still be untapped as the voice in our heads negated who we were and the possibilities we had to shine. What we have overcome, and been able to achieve already is impressive. Take a bow. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Global Awareness Walk This walk is on sat 17th June at 10am (your time) for people around the world, to raise awareness and show support for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse To be part of this, simply do the following: 1. Wear our logo colours red, white, black (or a combo of them 2. Grab a friend, family or group, and: 3. Take a photo and add a caption showing where you are from eg; Alex from Wales walking for Handing the Shame Back 4. Tag us in - We provide the tag 5. Make a small donation $5,$10, whatever you like To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Global Awareness Day We are launching our Global Awareness Day for Handing the Shame Back on Friday 16 June, which incorporates the following focus: 1. Raising Awareness for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse 2. Logo - We are asking everyone on that day to swap their logo out with ours (see below) for that day 3. Sponsorship - Go to our website handingtheshameback.org and choose an amount to donate: $5, $10 or any amount you wish (th 4. Hand Signal for Under 16’s (This video will be released on the day) 5.30am NZT Global Awareness Walk Keep listening, more information will be released over the coming days To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Meet Liz, a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse. She believes that, in part, her parents created the environment where abuse was allowed to happen and continue. She was 8 - he was 16 and the abuse went on for months. Once she found her voice, she never stopped talking. You can find Liz on: www.liz-roberts.co.uk https://www.facebook.com/Liz.RobertsMSc/https://www.instagram.com/liz.robertsmsc/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-roberts-b3889121/ HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors. Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #handingtheshameback #survivors #believesurvivors We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Understand that forgiving our abusers and/or their enablers is entirely our choice. We are not a better person if we do. We are not less if we don't. Trusting our instincts is key, they have never let us down before. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Meet Phil Goldstein Survivor of Sibling sexual Abuse, Poet and Dad of Fur Babies. What helped him emerge through his abuse was Creative writing (poetry), Intensive psychotherapy (4+ years), including EMDR and support from partner/friends/some family. You can reach Phil IG: https://www.instagram.com/philagoldstein/ FB https://www.facebook.com/philgoldsteinpoet/ Twitter, https://twitter.com/philgoldstein HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Start to honour ourselves and our feelings by allowing whatever is emerging in us to come through us. This helps us to further our healing by allowing instead of blocking what is. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Meet Katy Sudano, Survivor, Author and mother of 5. She was abused by her stepfather for years, with her mothers knowledge. She wrote the book Truth gives strength to wings: Its all in the journal (available through the links below). She feels what helped her most was her husband’s strength and insight on how to lead, alongside working with a nonprofit called Voice Today, helping others through healing. plus her own RRT therapy. You can reach Katy on IG: @katysudano ;Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/sudano.katy Twitter: @katy_sudano HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Feeling proud is not available to us as survivors, or is it? We were conditioned to keep quiet and silent, and pride filled moments did not fit within that context. How could we have built feeling proud into our lives? Have a listen to this, and see what leaps out at you. Its worth it. I promise!! Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Build Self care: including resting, having breaks, eating properly. We also need to stop responding to everyone else's needs before our own. Self care sits beside Self Love, lets start honouring that. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Poet. Sibling Sexual Abuse Survivor. Dragica experienced Sibling sexual abuse for over 4 years by her older brother. She believes that what would help other survivors is to tell someone who loves you. She also found being in nature helped as well as learning new things. She felt the safest at school. You can reach Dragica at dragica.ilic@zg.t-com.hr HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Start to understand which one of the trauma responses is our predominant one, and observe that. This will show itself in all our interpersonal relationships. Knowledge of this can help shift awareness and then mastery of it. Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Meet Craig Heiting: Survivor, Husband and Entertainment industry executive He was abused by an older neighbour between 8-14 years of age. They were trusted friends of the family, he is inspiring and entirely authentic - a great voice for men. He helps run an organisation called voices beyond assault. Contact details are: www.voicesbeyondassault.org. IG menofvba and voicesbeyondassault. Email men@voicesbeyondassault.org. www.voicesbeyondassault.orgmenofvoicesbeyondassault.org HELP NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334 USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them. OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok

Survivors - We Need to: Stop gaslighting ourselves through: Thinking its all in our heads: Not validating how we really feel; Putting others feelings ahead of our own and; thinking we don't deserve to be happy! Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback To learn more reach out to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback We are on all Social Media Platforms Twitter FB LinkedIn YouTube InstaGram TikTok