Sam and Erica's Marriage Podcast

Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 3 (Intimate Conversation & Physical Attractiveness) Episode 015 June 25, 2019 Introduction Discussion Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. (See episode 13) Recap See episode 13 for details Questionnaire to identify your emotional need Scripture: Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 2 (Affection & Sexual Fulfillment) Episode 014 June 17, 2019 Introduction Discussion Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. ( See episode 13) Recap See episode 13 for details Questionnaire to identify your emotional need Drive Sexual Awareness Anger (“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”) “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,”‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭4:26‬ Insecure Withdraw Lonely What happens in my marriage if my needs are not being met? ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Bible His Needs, Her Needs- Building an Affair Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley, Jr. https://amzn.to/30TX9xc For Married Men Only- Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/31016k3 For Married Women Only-Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/2QGP4Ht

Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage: Part 1 Episode 013 June 3, 2019 Introduction Discussion How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. Share experience with the book in the past and how we landed on reading the book a second time. What are my emotional needs? ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Bible Emotional needs questionnaire: https://www.marriagebuilders.com/emotional-needs-questionnaire.htm His Needs, Her Needs- Building an Affair Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley, Jr. https://amzn.to/30TX9xc For Married Men Only- Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/31016k3 For Married Women Only-Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/2QGP4Ht

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 4 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Fall Episode 012 May 27, 2019 Introduction What is fall in a marriage? Psalm 74:17 It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth; you made both summer and winter. Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." Galatians 6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Ecclesiastes 3:4 “a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,” ‭‭1. Fall is a time to work and a time celebrate scripture ?***James‬ ‭5:7‬ ‭? “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.” ‭‭ Mark‬ ‭12:30-31‬ ‭NIV‬‬“ Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”” ‭‭ Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. ACTION ITEMS NEXT EPISODE A day in the life of Sam and Erica’s Marriage. Meeting those emotional needs. Oh boy!!

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 3 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Summer Episode 011 April 1, 2019 Introduction Discussion What is summer in a marriage? Psalm 74:17 It was you who set all the boundaries of the earth; you made both summer and winter. Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." scripture ?***James‬ ‭5:7‬ ‭? “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.” ‭‭ ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 2 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Spring Episode 010 March 4, 2019 Introduction Discussion What is spring in a marriage? Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Pro 31:21 NIV When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 1 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Winter Episode 009 March 4, 2019 Introduction Discussion What is winter in a marriage? Rom 1:20 For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse. Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." Pro 31:21 NIV When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 4 of 4: Romance - Celebrating Your Spouse Episode 008 February 25, 2019 Introduction Discussion How to Celebrate Your Spouse! Romans 12:10: Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 1 Peter 4:8: Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. Matthew 6:21: Where your treasures are your heart will be also. ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 3 of 4: Romance - Let’s get away!! Episode 007 February 18, 2019 Introduction Discussion Why is a getaway important? What should we do on our getaway? How long should a getaway last? Who goes on the getaway? Where should we go? What should we do to prepare? What should we take? ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 2 of 4: Romance - Fanning the Flames Episode 006 February 11, 2019 Introduction Discussion Fanning the flames When we notice the fire going out or dying down we we have take action to get those embers going again. We have to be intentional (my word for 2019) if we want to see change. The Drift Meeting the needs of my spouse (Questionnaire) Generalizations Meeting these needs make you irresistible to your spouse Burning hotter then it has in the past There are blessings in meeting the needs of my spouse ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 1 of 4: Romance - Date Night Episode 005 February 4, 2019 Introduction Discussion Making Date Night Spicy! Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all. Ecclesiastes 9:9 Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. She is the reward!!! A.Pick a time that fits your schedule Recreational Enjoyment InventoryACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Money in your marriage Part 4 of 4: Money - How we give it Episode 004 January 28, 2019 Introduction Discussion How we give our money Proverbs 13:22 A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous. Gifts Birthdays Holidays Special Occasions Legacy College Inheritance 1 John 3:17 But whoever has this world's goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? Charity Matthew 6:2-3 "Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. 3 "But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, Tithe Proverbs 3:9-10 Honor the LORD with your wealth, with the firstfruits of all your crops; 10 then your barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim over with new wine. Gifts/ Offerings ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Budget - Excel spreadsheet Our Spending Plan (Budget) spreadsheet Dave Ramsey - Total Money Makeover The Total Money Makeover on Amazon Money and Marriage God’s Way Money and Marriage God's Way on Amazon Follow Josh and Bre on Instagram (just click the links below) Follow Josh on Instagram Follow Bre on Instagram NEXT EPISODE Next we begin our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Money in your marriage Part 3 of 4: Money - How we save it Episode 003 January 28, 2019 Introduction Discussion How we save money Proverbs 13:11 Dishonest money dwindles away, but whoever gathers money little by little makes it grow. Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty. Types and tiers a.Make a list of what you want to get done in the house, together. ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Budget - Excel spreadsheet Our Spending Plan (Budget) spreadsheet Dave Ramsey - Total Money Makeover The Total Money Makeover on Amazon Money and Marriage God’s Way Money and Marriage God's Way on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next week we'll discuss how to give it.

Sam and Erica's Marriage Podcast Money in your marriage Part 2 of 4: Money - How do you see it? Episode 002 January 21, 2019 Introduction Discussion How do we see money Money is not bad or evil. 1 Timothy 6:10 - For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. Hebrews 13:5 - Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. Ecclesiastes 5:10 - He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves wealth with his income; this also is vanity. You use it to build or destroy Build wealth Bless others Buy more comforts Do you want money to: Live a certain lifestyle, buy nice things, a nice home, nice cars, etc. Luxuries Provide security Emergency fund, college fund, retirement savings. Debt The Bible warns against debt Proverbs 22:7 - The rich rules over the poor, and the borrower is the slave of the lender. Proverbs 22:26 - Be not one of those who give pledges, who put up security for debts. Hebrews 13:5 - Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” But we still use debt, why? What is your attitude about debt? Some people hate it Some people love it Some people accept it as “that’s just a part of life” The normal American has $38,000 in debt, not including their mortgage.(CNBC) Is all debt created equal? Good or bad: Credit cards Mortgage Payday loans Student loans The Bible doesn’t discriminate So should you use debt? The amount of debt you have, as a couple, coupled with the risk tolerance of each of you creates the formula for catastrophe in your marriage. That’s a decision that should be made jointly. Debt will impact other decisions. You may not be able to do things the way you would like to because of your debt and the obligation to make those payments. Payments affect: How you spend How you save How you give I would sponsor a family at Christmas or help my children but... So what do we do? Discuss all debts Only add new debt if both of you consider it and agree Develop a plan to get out of debt that you agree on No one would argue that the God’s perfect will is that we, his people, not be borrowers. ACTION ITEMS RESOURCES Budget - Excel spreadsheet http://www.christianswithambition.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/glbl-budget-template_v1_1.xls Dave Ramsey - Total Money Makeover The Total Money Makeover on Amazon Money and Marriage God’s Way Money and Marriage God's Way on Amazon NEXT WEEK’S EPISODE Next week we'll discuss how to save it.

Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Money in your marriage Part 1 of 4: Money - How to spend it Episode 001 January 7, 2019 Introduction Who we are How we got here What the podcast is all about Discussion How should we spend our money To bless our family, especially our spouse. So, what do you want money for? 1 Timothy 5:8 ESV — But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. Proverbs 13:22 ESV — A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children, but the sinner’s wealth is laid up for the righteous. Deuteronomy 28:12 ESV — The LORD will open to you his good treasury, the heavens, to give the rain to your land in its season and to bless all the work of your hands. And you shall lend to many nations, but you shall not borrow. Do you want money to: Live a certain lifestyle Buy nice things, nice home, nice cars, luxuries, etc. Provide security Emergency fund College fund Retirement And of course there’s debt - we’ll talk more about that in a future episode We should spend it with a purpose - The spending plan Find a format that works for you We use a spreadsheet Spending cash/ envelope system (Dave Ramsey) Money and Marriage God’s way has examples of four systems cash/ envelopes pencil and paper Software Apps and web based Begin with prayer Be open to each others concerns Review at the end of the month so you both understand the adjustments for next month. Allocate every dollar Estimate all income then subtract all expenses Allowances are important! Budget money for dates, eating out, shopping, etc. Be honest! Your first attempt won’t be perfect. Stay at it. It will get better. Proverbs 27:23 NIV — Be sure you know the condition of your flocks, give careful attention to your herds; Ecclesiastes 7:12 NIV — Wisdom is a shelter as money is a shelter, but the advantage of knowledge is this: Wisdom preserves those who have it. ACTION ITEMS Try to prepare your own budget Pray for our podcast Share our podcast with your friends Copy and share this link: seasonsministries.org/podcast RESOURCES Budget - Excel spreadsheethttp://www.christianswithambition.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/glbl-budget-template_v1_1.xls The Total Money Makeover - Dave Ramsey Money and Marriage God's Way - Howard Dayton

Welcome to Sam and Erica's Marriage Podcast. On our podcast we'll discuss ways of making better marriages. Join us each week as we have a fun discussion about enjoying the highs and reducing the lows of marriage. You can also find us at seasonsministries.org/podcast.