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When Neal and Judy moved to San Francisco they left a Christian “bubble.” Hoping to bring change, they found themselves on a paradigm-shifting journey of personal change. If We Matter is a podcast for people who want authentic and mutual relationships across dividing beliefs. Together, we’ll explore the issues of human dignity, diversity, and conflict. If you want practical tools for transforming relationships this podcast is for you.

When Neal and Judy moved to San Francisco they left a Christian “bubble.” Hoping to bring change, they found themselves on a paradigm-shifting journey of personal change. If We Matter is a podcast for people who want authentic and mutual relationships across dividing beliefs. Together, we’ll explore the issues of human dignity, diversity, and conflict. If you want practical tools for transforming relationships this podcast is for you.
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When Neal and Judy moved to San Francisco they left a Christian “bubble.” Hoping to bring change, they found themselves on a paradigm-shifting journey of personal change. If We Matter is a podcast for people who want authentic and mutual relationships across dividing beliefs. Together, we’ll explore the issues of human dignity, diversity, and conflict. If you want practical tools for transforming relationships this podcast is for you.

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English


Episodes

07: How does this work in conflict?

12/6/2019
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As Neal and Judy dialogue about several fights that happened between them during the week, they focus on the reality that it was impossible to resolve the argument simply because they both held a very different perspective on how and why it went down. When words that were spoken are remembered in a different order, their meaning changes. When our perspectives collide it feels like someone isn’t being honest, and we should be able to get to the bottom of the mess. But we can’t because no one...

Duration:00:17:12

06: When your ugly brings out mine

11/29/2019
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When is the last time you thought or said the words, “What a Jerk?” The fact that those words come out of our mouths is evidence that we matter to each other. When we don’t feel accepted, appreciated or noticed by our fellow humans it stings. When others don’t live up to our standards it agitates us. Could it have that kind of impact on us if the other person didn’t matter in some way to our lives? Why else would I feel a need to judge or control someone’s impact? When your ugly brings...

Duration:00:24:12

05: Dividing beliefs don’t have to divide us

11/22/2019
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This episode is a conversation about respect in the context of dividing social and religious views. Today’s guest, Danny, is a new friend of Neal and Judy who happens to be gay, and therefore knows what it means to be ostracized and condemned by people just like them. As they dialogue you can almost hear the healing that takes place on both sides of the coin. The episode is not about what we believe, but about how we see and relate with those whose beliefs stand against our own. There is...

Duration:00:29:13

04: What if we stopped trying to change each other?

11/15/2019
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This episode will rock the world of anyone who is willing to grapple with what happens when they see or hear something unacceptable. Differences can be dividing even when tolerance is practiced. Judy, Neal and Paul wonder about the greater freedom and possibilities connected with the choice to actually offer genuine acceptance to the human being in front of us. If we decide in advance to honor the journey we can offer ourselves and each other the opportunity to be where we are without...

Duration:00:21:43

03: Are you missing out on this simple and accessible way to be encouraged?

11/8/2019
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In this episode Neal, Judy and Paul dialogue about what it means to share humanity with the people around us. The research of Brené Brown confirms that we are hard-wired for connection. It’s part of what it means to be human, yet we often avoid it because of the vulnerability it requires. Knowing that we need human connection, most of the time we still settle for the safety of isolation, carefully managing the ways we relate in order to protect our hearts. Looking down at our phones,...

Duration:00:27:05

02: It’s so cool to be a human!

11/1/2019
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In this episode, Judy, Neal and their neighborhood friend Paul, begin a dialogue about what it means to be human. As they wonder together, barely scratching the surface of this huge topic, they invite you to notice your own thoughts and wonderings. As they discuss some of the complexity of the human existence, you may discover a renewed sense of the mystery and beauty in your own humanity. Simple things like breathing, perceiving, reasoning, choosing, dreaming, working and creating are...

Duration:00:22:16

01: No wonder we can't get along!

11/1/2019
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In this episode, Judy and Neal invite you to get uncomfortably honest about the way we see people, and the way it blocks genuine dialogue and mutual relationship. Diving to the heart of the If We Matter Podcast, they offer a way of seeing people that transforms our ability to have life-giving conversations and deep relationships even across dividing beliefs and in the midst of conflict. Clarity rises as we come to understand why we can’t get along. Hope rises as we consider the untapped...

Duration:00:36:10

00: If We Matter...? Welcome to the Introductory Episode

8/8/2019
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What if relationships that are made of conflict could become life-giving? What if you could actually learn to enjoy the things that annoy you? What if conversations you dread, people you despise, and dividing beliefs could become energizing, expanding and inspirational? Judy and Neal Brower introduce the podcast “if we matter...” with questions inviting us to hope that even those things that feel impossible in human relationships can become our reality. Speaking from personal experience...

Duration:00:12:29