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Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You. Fern, from Hastings, UK, and a regular contributor of Kelly and Company, welcomes guests to share in honest discussions about relationships and dating.

Location:

Canada

Genres:

Romance

Description:

Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You. Fern, from Hastings, UK, and a regular contributor of Kelly and Company, welcomes guests to share in honest discussions about relationships and dating.

Language:

English


Episodes
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The Candid Reality of Transexuality

8/2/2023
"In this episode, Fern chats with Kate Hutchinson about what dating is like as a transgender woman. Kate also shares her journey with self-confidence, disclosing her gender to others and what we can all do to support each other to fully be who we are. No matter what your gender identity or who you're attracted to, if you need a hit of inspiration and empowerment, this is the episode for you! Follow Kate on Twitter: @katiekhaos "

Duration:00:30:27

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Pansexuality Unpacked

7/6/2023
"In this episode, Fern speaks to Kate Hutchinson, Education Manager at Diversity Role Models, about her personal experiences of pansexuality. Kate opens up about what it was like understanding her sexuality growing up, how being pansexual can impact her everyday life and why pansexuality is sometimes still not fully embraced, even within the LGBTQ+ community. If you've ever felt different in dating, feared being judged due to who you're attracted to or doubted yourself when it comes to love, this is the podcast for you. Full of words of wisdom and encouraging nudges in the right direction, this episode is guaranteed to inspire, empower and enlighten. Follow Kate on Twitter: @katiekhaos "

Duration:00:28:31

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Defeating Cheating

6/1/2023
"In this episode, we continue our conversation about cheating and betrayal with relationship coach Claire Grigson. Claire shares how technology has impacted betrayal, how being cheated on might affect you on a psychological level and the risks related to not being honest in a relationship. Whether you've experienced cheating first-hand or are simply intrigued by the psychology of it all, this episode is packed full of answers to your most burning questions. From stigma to psychology to statistics, we've got it all! Follow Claire on Instagram: https://instagram.com/claire_grigson_coaching?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:28:59

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How to Prevail after Betrayal

5/4/2023
"On this episode of Into You, Fern delves even deeper into betrayal as she chats with dating and relationship coach Claire Grigson. Claire talks about whether it's ever OK to look through your partner's phone without them knowing, shares her own experience with infidelity and discusses which personality types are more likely to cheat. If you've ever felt suspicious in love, been driven to do things you wouldn't usually in your relationship, or are just as fascinated by the psychology behind it all, don't miss this one. Packed full of insight, intrigue and insider info on all your unanswered questions, it's time to find some peace of mind! Follow Claire on Instagram: https://instagram.com/claire_grigson_coaching?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:27:01

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Beating Cheating

4/6/2023
"On this month's episode of Into You, we continue our conversation with influencer Robbi Jan, whose marriage ended due to infidelity. Robbi describes what it's like to rebuild your life and step back into the dating pool after being cheated on, and shares some of the biggest lessons this has taught her about love. If you've ever feared being betrayed in a relationship, this episode will prove to you that it's not only possible to survive it, but you can also go on to thrive following it. Robbi offers a beautiful blend of emotional support and practical tools to help you discover yourself again after heartbreak and reclaim a life of strength, health, happiness and hope. Follow Robbi on Instagram: https://instagram.com/robbijan?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:22:28

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Cheating Challenges

3/2/2023
"This month on Into You, Fern chats about cheating with social media influencer Robbi Jan. Robbi opens up about how her husband having an affair impacted her mentally, emotionally and even physically. She also explains how she rebuilt her confidence, self-esteem and trust in others after her marriage broke down. If you've ever been burned in love or wondered how to overcome a massive disruption to life as you thought you knew it, this one's for you. You are not alone and that there is a way through it. Understand your ability to overcome pain and build a stronger relationship with yourself, one day at a time. Follow Robbi on Instagram: https://instagram.com/robbijan?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:23:26

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Cultivating Confidence

2/2/2023
This month on Into You, we delve back into the illusive world of confidence as Fern continues the conversation with relationship coach and trainer, Anna Rova. In this episode, Anna talks about why playing "hard to get" in dating is unlikely to get you what you want long-term, challenges us to look closer to home in regards to feeling confident about finding love and shares the secret to how we can stop beating ourselves up when it comes to comparisons with others. If you long to walk a little taller and hold your head a little higher in love, this episode is a must listen. Discover your strengths and get to know yourself better, while learning how to feel more comfortable, confident and secure in your relationships! Follow Anna on Instagram: https://instagram.com/annarova?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:18:42

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Self-Belief Debrief

1/5/2023
"Ever heard that, in order to succeed in dating, you simply need to be more confident? In this episode of Into You, Fern chats with dating coach and trainer Anna Rova, to explore what confidence in dating is really all about! Anna discusses why we may lack confidence, what's keeping us stuck in those same old cycles of doubt in dating and how we can connect more to ourselves in the pursuit of getting what we want in love. If you're someone who is always second-guessing themselves and over-analyzing situations time and time again, this could be just what you need to hear to change that! Follow Anna on Instagram: https://instagram.com/annarova?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y="

Duration:00:26:19

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Being Candid about Being Stranded

12/1/2022
"In this month's episode, we rejoin Fern and her boyfriend, Josh, where we left them: stranded in Josh's broken-down car on their very first date! Josh attempts to explain himself, and also shares what this harrowing experience taught him and what he has learnt from dating a bubbly, blind podcast presenter! Lots of lessons, lots of laughs ... it's the perfect episode to put a smile on your face while teaching you a thing or two about trusting fate - even when fate is looking fatal to your love life! Follow Josh on Instagram: @joshhollandmusic"

Duration:00:24:41

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This One's On Me

11/3/2022
"To mark the 25th episode of Into You, it's time to ""mix"" things up by speaking to producer, sound engineer and podcast perfector, Josh Holland, who also happens to be Fern's other half! We pull back the curtain of Fern and Josh's love affair, with an insider glimpse into how they found using dating apps, what Josh thought about Fern being blind, their (pretty disastrous!) first date and so much more! Join us as we put Fern and Josh's initial meeting under the microscope and find out what lessons you can learn about yourself in the process! Follow Josh on Instagram: @joshhollandmusic"

Duration:00:28:08

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Building Better Boundaries

10/6/2022
"This month on Into You, join Fern for Part 2 of our exploration of boundaries with relationship expert and author Dr Tracy Dalgleish. In this episode, Tracy identifies some factors that can make you less likely to set or stand by your boundaries, explains the psychology behind deciding whether our boundaries are ""reasonable"" or not, and shares the secret ingredient which makes receiving somebody else's boundaries taste a little sweeter. If you struggle to get your needs met in relationships or feel unable to speak up for yourself, this episode will be the reassuring nudge you need in the right direction. Packed full of tips, tricks and giggles along the way, you don't want to miss it! Follow Tracy on Instagram: @drtracyd"

Duration:00:25:54

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Breaking Down Boundaries

9/1/2022
This month, Fern chats with relationship expert and author Tracy Dalgleish all about the social media buzzword "boundaries," and what it really means in modern-day romance. Are boundaries akin to angry, scary school rules, or could they actually help us to build healthier, more loving relationships? How do you know what YOUR boundaries even are? And, once you know, how do you go about addressing them with your partner? Find out the answer to all these questions and so many more in this jam-packed episode, which might just change your perspective and allow you to be more unapologetically who you really are. Follow Tracy on Instagram: @drtracyd

Duration:00:27:06

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Relationship Rifts Resolved

8/4/2022
This month, join Fern as she continues her chat with relationship coach and TikTok sensation Jacob Lucas. On this episode, Jacob shares how your location could be a factor in how easy it is to resolve an issue, and explains how to make amends after a heated disagreement with your beloved. If you're sick of getting sucked into the same old argumentative cycles of pointing the finger, it's time to put your foot down and change the conversation. Jacob gives practical strategies, tips and tools to help you overcome flammable situations or prevent them before they even ignite! You might want to make some notes, because this will save you a lot of time, stress and hard feelings in your love life. Follow Jacob on Instagram and TikTok: @jacoblucas101 Visit his website: jacoblucasdating.com"

Duration:00:24:39

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Dating Disagreements

7/7/2022
This month, Fern chats to professional dating coach Jacob Lucas. With over 600,000 followers on TikTok, you could say Jacob knows a thing or two about attracting people and keeping them interested! The topic up for debate on this episode is arguments and how to have less of them when comes to your love life. Join Fern and Jacob for a light-hearted look into why we argue, how to defuse a heated discussion and when to have your cake and eat it too! All that and so much more, making for an episode you'd be mad to miss out on! Follow Jacob on Instagram and TikTok: @jacoblucas101 Visit his website: jacoblucasdating.com"

Duration:00:27:53

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Recognising Your Own Red Flags

6/1/2022
This month's episode of Into You is Part 2 of our exploration into red flags in relationships. Fern continues her conversation with liscensed psychologist, founder and director of Behr Psychology, Dr Jessica January Behr. Jessica shares why being too quick to spot red flags in others can end up hurting us, how we can identify and start to work on our own potential red flags, what red flags can teach us about relationships and so much more! If you love self-reflection and getting insight into why your relationship dynamics may play out the way they do, you're not going to want to miss this powerful episode of Into You!

Duration:00:20:30

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The Dating Snags of Red Flags

5/5/2022
On this month's Episode of Into You, Fern chats to licensed psychologist, founder and director of Behr Psychology, Dr Jessica January Behr. Jessica explains what red flags actually are, what they can teach us about ourselves and whether there is any hope that the red flags we spot in our potential partners might ever change. If you've been struggling with troublesome behaviour when it comes to your relationships - either from someone else or indeed yourself - Jessica will help you start to unpack why you feel the way you do and what signs might be waving right in front of your face! Jessica's Website Instagram/TikTok is @behrpsychology

Duration:00:28:08

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Attraction in Action

4/7/2022
This is part two of our conversation with Dr James Jackson - a psychology researcher and lecturer on how hormones shape our bodies at Leeds Trinity University. James shares what online dating has done to attraction, whether marriage could be beneficial to your long-term health and if we can MAKE somebody become attracted to us. The sparks are flying, the chemistry's electric and you won't want to miss out! Find out more about Dr. James Jackson

Duration:00:30:25

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The Anatomy of Attraction

3/5/2022
On this month's episode, we dig deep into the mystical phenomenon known as human attraction. I speak to Dr. James Jackson - a psychology researcher and lecturer at the Leeds Trinity University, who reveals why we are attracted to certain people more than others and what is going on inside our bodies at the time. James shares how tricky attraction can be and why so much of how we behave when it comes to attraction is completely unconscious and out of our control. To learn the secrets of attraction and how you can make yourself even more attractive to others, sit down and listen up, because this episode might just blow your mind!

Duration:00:29:42

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Supporting An Anxious Partner

2/3/2022
On this episode of Into You, I talk to content creator, Trey Beckham, who runs a YouTube channel with his girlfriend, Alyssa. Alyssa has had anxiety since the start of their relationship five years ago and Trey talks about what this has meant for him and for them as a couple. Trey shares what Alyssa's anxiety has taught him and offers advice on the do's and definite don'ts to anyone trying to support an anxious partner. Whether you have been affected by anxiety yourself, have ever loved somebody who has or just want a little more insight into relationships in general, this episode has lots of valuable gems for you. From patience to empathy, from compromise to confidence, you will discover a huge amount about how to support a partner, whether they deal with anxiety or not. Alyssa and Trey's YouTube

Duration:00:25:36

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Dating Anxiety Diary

1/6/2022
On this episode, Fern chats to writer and YouTuber Lauren Rose, who has battled with severe anxiety, including agoraphobia and panic attacks, for many years. Lauren shares how anxiety has impacted her love life, giving tips on how to deal with anxiety when dating and opening up about some of her worst fears about the early stages of being in a relationship. She speaks openly and honestly about what having anxiety feels like and what has helped her to cope and build a long-term, lasting relationship. As always, there is something for everyone in this episode. As Lauren points out, we all have our skeletons in the closet, but we all equally want to connect with others and be accepted and loved for who we are. If you have ever doubted yourself when it comes to dating or know somebody else who has, this is the episode for you! Lauren's YouTube:

Duration:00:30:50