Relationship Transformers

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com — What’s The Episode About: It’s Not Your Fault! We’ve been handed an old & broken relationship paradigm that stopped working DECADES ago… and relationships have been falling apart ever since. The breakdown in your relationships (all relationships) is NOT your fault (nor your partner’s). In this episode, I will show you the startling discovery I made about the old & broken relationship paradigm that we’ve been handed, the invisible ways it’s been destroying your relationships and the NEW relationship paradigm we invented to SOLVE the problem! This is revolutionary!! In this episode, I’ll show you the OLD relationship tactics and patterns (that you are unknowingly repeating every day) that BREAK DOWN relationships today… and the NEW relationship tactics and patterns that you can put in place instead… to BUILD UP your relationship! What’s great is… it will feel so much happier and peaceful to use the NEW way, and it brings a huge RELIEF to release the old & broken ways!! And the BEST PART… you don’t need to convince anyone else to DO THIS with you! Everything I will show you can be used by you, single-handedly, to build up any relationship in your life, even if the other person doesn’t want to learn this or hear about it! I made this discovery over 20 years ago… and for the last 14 years, we have taught thousands and thousands of people, from all across the globe, the NEW relationship approach to building up relationships (marriage, parenting, friends, family, work, etc.). And in that time, the students in our RelationshipU program have had a 1% DIVORCE RATE & a 99% success rate over a 6-year study period of their results! Those results are unheard of, and that’s because THIS WORKS! If you don’t know what I share with you in this episode, you are unnecessarily suffering and possibly likely to be blindsided by pain and upset in the future (and it’s not your fault). Don’t be left out… Find out what Demand Relationship™ and Relationship Development® are now! — Key Points Discussed: The old relationship way: Demand Relationship™ (00:00) The breakdown from the win-lose paradigm (03:40) The Two Roles in Demand Relationships™ (05:46) Introducing Relationship Development® (10:20) Final words (14:59) — Additional Links & Resources: 🎧 Listen to the training on relationships being closed loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/ 🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com 👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt 👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com — We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world! Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home! Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/ — We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com — What’s The Episode About: Have you ever felt like everything around you — movies, social media, and society — insists it takes two to change a relationship? Couple’s counseling usually backs this idea, but let me tell you… it COULD NOT be farther from the truth! If there’s one thing we’ve proven from our 14 years of experience in transforming relationships, it’s THIS: One person is ALWAYS changing the relationship — whether they know it or not! In this episode, I share a personal (and unflattering) story from my days of being known as the “Ice Princess” — so NO JUDGING! This story is PROOF that it just takes ONE PERSON to change the dynamics of a relationship (and that ONE person was NOT even me!). If you feel like you’ve tried EVERYTHING to get your partner to change the relationship, this episode is a must!! Tune in to learn how you can single-handedly get the results you want in your relationships…without needing them to agree or get on board! — Key Points Discussed: Story time: That time Stacey threw a sandwich at a guy (00:00) How 1 guy changed everything in that moment (08:13) This 1 act can change someone else’s life forever (10:14) The Closed Loop tool you can reuse (11:30) Final words (13:24) — Additional Links & Resources: 🎧 Listen to the explanation about relationships being closed loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/ 🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com 👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt 👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com — We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world! Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home! Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/ — We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com — What’s The Episode About: Have you ever felt like no matter what you do, it's NEVER enough to make your partner happy? Or you might be pleasing them at your own expense, and at some point you wonder “what about me?” If this is your reality, and you feel resentment bubbling up…let me be the one to tell you: NO, you're not crazy!! There’s a predictable pattern that CAUSES resentment! Until you see it, resentment can keep sneaking into your relationship, even when people have the best intentions. In a long-term relationship… I KNOW you’ve felt the INFURIATING feeling of sacrificing just to please someone else only to wind up in a situation where they are still unhappy! Unlike everything you’ve been taught… PLEASING others in relationship does NOT fix things and it usually BACKFIRES! This is a predictable pattern with a predictable outcome. In this episode, I’m going to REVEAL the predictable pattern that you UNKNOWINGLY keep falling into! There is a way to BUILD UP your relationship, without pleasing, without compromise and without settling for things you aren’t happy with! Let’s dive in! — Key Points Discussed: The predictable pattern loop of pleasing (00:00) In a long-term relationship and STILL pleasing? Here’s what to do instead (03:26) A real-life example of this strategy applied: student’s example (09:25) Final words (14:58) — Additional Links & Resources: 🎧 Listen to the explanation about trigger boomerang loops here: https://martinopodcast.com/podcast/02-can-this-unusual-cesar-millan-tactic-help-your-relationship/ 🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com 👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt 👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com — We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world! Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home! Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/ — We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com — What’s The Episode About: Ever thought a dog trainer could teach you the secret to a happy relationship? (hehe) Before you run out and grab some puppy treats for your significant other (YIKES!) dive into this episode! There’s been an invisible dynamic happening in your HUMAN relationships… that is CAUSING kerfuffles! And it’s happening EVERY SINGLE DAY. In today’s episode, I’m going to reveal this POWERFUL dynamic and show you how you can use this Predictable Pattern to create the results you WANT in your relationship and stop some of the kerfuffles you do not want. And yes… I’m going to share a funny story about how Cesar Milan, The Dog Whisperer, has been teaching something about DOGS for decades…that can be applied to humans too! If you do NOT see these Closed Loop patterns in your relationship, then you are suffering unnecessarily! I’ll show you the piece you’ve been missing, so you can start creating the results you want! If you’re tired of the same old kerfuffles and ready for some harmony at home, this episode is here to help! Let’s dive in! — Key Points Discussed: How Cesar Milan’s approach to dogs is similar to relationships (00:00) How to apply this to humans (04:05) The closed loop of relationships (08:01) Examples of closed loops (11:20) Final words (15:50) — Additional Links & Resources: 🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com 👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt 👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com — We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Methodology. For 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world! Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home! Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/ — We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

➡️ How to fix your relationship WITHOUT couples therapy: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/ — We’re kicking off SEASON 2 of the Relationship Transformer Podcast with this Episode! Join Stacey Martino, founder of Relationship Development and inventor of the Relationship Development Method, as she dives into… Stacey also dives into the 3 Things that MOST people think are the CAUSE of their relationship troubles…but they are WRONG, those 3 things are NOT the cause. She also REVEALS the eye-opening truth… the REAL CAUSE of relationship struggles (that no one showed you before). In this episode, Stacey dives into what WORKS to stop the arguments and increase harmony. She shares about the Relationship Development Method that she and Paul invented that has helped thousands of people, over the last 14 years, to single-handedly transform their relationship, save their marriage and bring harmony back to their home. So that you can be clear on whether or not Relationship Development could work for you, Stacey also shares what challenges the Relationship Development Method is designed to solve and gives a list of issues that the Relationship Development Method is NOT designed to solve. This episode is packed with eye-opening revelations, so dive in. — Key Points Discussed: The old and broken relationship tactics (00:00) Relationship skill sets (04:36) Who Relationship Development does NOT work for (10:20) The results you can get with Relationship Development (18:28) Final words (22:21) — Additional Links & Resources: 🚀 Catapult your relationship to the next level in just 3 days at our upcoming live online event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. Get your tickets here: https://relationshipbreakthroughretreat.com 👉 (FREE VIDEO TRAINING): How to Fix Your Relationship Even If Your Partner REFUSES to Change: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com 👉 Before You Put Your Trust in the Hands of a Marriage Counselor, Watch This: https://relationshipbreakthroughsecrets.com/lmt-optin-c 👉Get “The D.I.R.T.” Daily Inspiration for Relationship Transformers at http://MartinoPodcast.com/Dirt 👉 Book a FREE 1:1 Session with an RDO Advisor: https://HelloRDO.com — We are Stacey & Paul Martino, the creators of the Relationship Development® Method. For over 14 years, we have been helping thousands and thousands of people, from all over the world with outstanding results! Our Relationship Development Method empowers you to single-handedly transform your relationship, create your unshakeable love, and bring harmony to your home! Let’s connect: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staceymartinordo/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StaceyMartinoLPC/ — We are NOT mental health practitioners. The content in this podcast is based on our proprietary Relationship Development® Methodology, which is a skill-set based method for relating between humans. If you need mental health or safety assistance, please seek a professional immediately.

First things first, let’s celebrate the success of the July 2020 Relationship Breakthrough Retreat. This was the first RBR we did online. We reached so many more people than past in-person breakthrough retreats. We delivered multiple breakthroughs, and we were so happy to see people achieve great results. We are reimagining several of our programs to better serve you and we have several releases coming out this fall. One of them is the Relationship Development Parenting Program. It has three courses for you in the program - the 14-day boost program, the quick start program, and the yearlong program. With that said, we’ve retired the 2nd edition of the Relationship Breakthrough Quickstart Program. We are also creating a brand new Relationship Breakthrough Program that will be launching on September 23rd. We are so excited about this because the new program is completely reimagined with some awesome new features. The other huge announcement we want to make is that we will be holding, for the first time ever, a 2nd Relationship Breakthrough Retreat in a year in December. We’ve always wanted to hold two RBR events in a year and it is unbelievable that this year we’ll finally be able to do that. Key Takeaways Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will share a talk that they recently had with their Relationship U students on what is going on in real life today behind closed doors when couples and families are stuck together because of the COVID-19 related self-quarantining. Paul and Stacey have been working very hard in sharing amazing tools and strategies on what people can do to avoid kerfuffles and all sorts of negative issues in their households, but it’s very hard for anyone to really tell just how effective they are. So they decided to share the raw, vulnerable, and real life testimonies of families that are successfully implementing those tools and strategies. One such testimony came from Joe and Adriana, a couple that has really benefited immensely from Paul and Stacey’s programs. The two have been married for 33 years, are empty nesters, and have been navigating the quarantine together so well despite the fact that a few years ago they could not even be in the same room together for even a few minutes. They’ve been having meals together, going out for walks every day, watching shows or plays, and doing many other fun things together. They had previously been separated for a year and a half, but finding Paul and Stacey’s programs changed everything, and now they are a true testament to just how effective Paul and Stacey’s tools and strategies are. Denise is another person who will share how the Relationship U program has changed her life in terms of teaching her to get deeper into the ownership of her happiness, and knowing that no matter what happens in the world, she’s responsible for her own happiness and needs in life. There are several other people who will share how relationship development has changed their lives, especially during the current pandemic where people are stuck together in their homes with each other. Tune in to find out how you can transform your own household and navigate this quarantine time in the best way possible. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share part two of her talk on how couples (and parents) can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times. She will talk about what she sees as two of the most common causes of kerfuffles that are going on right now and how to solve that, and how to deal with the effects of the current pandemic on our lives. She will also dive into how to look at everything that’s going on in a way that's empowering, as opposed to feeling like it’s all just happening to us. One of the things one must get rid of is unreasonable expectations and control. We must all drop a lot of our levels of control right now because our desire to want things to be a certain way will only lead to misery for us and others around us. One cannot control everybody else but they can set reasonable standards for others to follow when it comes to basic things in life. When something is complicated and out of one’s control, one should just let go of it. A great example of that is homeschooling. People have certain invisible expectations about what it should be like, but what they don’t realize is that it’s a full-time job, takes a lot of commitment, and is very stressful. Stacey will share her insights on how to really go about that and so much more, so stay tuned to learn how you can navigate this from the same place, increase the peace and harmony in your home, and decrease the kerfuffles. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will talk about how couples can maintain their sanity during these social distancing and self-quarantining times where parents have to be at home all day every day with their kids. She recently did training with their RelationshipU students on the same subject and it had immediate phenomenal results for those who applied the tools and strategies they learned in their households. Right now families are having a hard time being quarantined at home, and parents are having to navigate things that they’re not used to navigating. That is making frustrations and kerfuffles arise much more frequently and it’s causing more harm than good. Parents always have an uphill task of raising their kids while also working and making sure everything runs smoothly, and a lot of the times they take on too many things at the same time because they feel it’s their responsibility to do so. Running a household, for example, is a full-time job all on its own, and it can be quite taxing. Especially if the parent responsible also has to work a regular job to make ends meet. The first step to gaining some sanity is to look at all the things one takes on every day and dropping those that can be done by someone else. Stacey will talk about living a life in reaction and living a life by design, and how living a life by design is the only way to regain sanity, joy, and happiness in any household during these difficult times. Stay tuned as she shares some tools and strategies for reducing kerfuffles and increasing harmony during the current quarantine (and any other time you and your family find yourselves stuck together) to help you navigate everything as best as possible. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Stacey will share a recording that she made to talk about pivoting instead of canceling their Breakthrough in Paradise live event in Jamaica. She will talk about the decision that they made to pivot the event, what they will be doing instead, and how they made that decision in confidence and not fear. The live event was planned for next week, and Paul, Stacey, and 120 of their relationship students were going to Jamaica. They were all so desperate to get to that event and have an amazing time together on the islands, but it was not to be because with the whole Coronavirus pandemic going on, international travel was not so safe, and they wanted to ensure that their students were safe and protected. Despite that hiccup, they did not cancel the event and instead decided to pivot it and do it virtually. Stay tuned as she also shares how her and their team are working tirelessly to make the virtual event a reality, and hopefully, this episode will teach you how to make decisions in uncertain times in every aspect of your life. Enjoy! Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a common point of view that most people in a relationship have that negatively affects their relationships without their knowing. And that is the view that they have something figured out more than their partner and so they have to get their partner to subscribe to it too so their relationship can become better. That’s a common thing that Paul and Stacey hear from their program participants all the time. One particular relationship transformer who was doing the 14-Day Boost Program posted on the relationship transformers Facebook group about how she loved the program module on alignment, especially where they were learning about how to get to the win-win, instead of staying stuck in the win-lose. She felt that it was a great module for her husband to learn from, but she needed advice on how to make him listen to it. That’s a great example of that detrimental point of view and Paul and Stacey will seek to deal with it in this episode. It’s part of our natural wiring to think that way because it comes from the demand relationship wiring that is just so deep in our blueprint, and we must learn to shift away from it by first realizing that there is no “me and you” in a relationship. Partners in a relationship are one, and if one partner loses in any way, then the other one loses too. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey lay out all the steps you will need to take to build a win-win relationship with your partner. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a dynamic where someone in a relationship gets stuck in the false belief that their way is the right way and that their partner’s way is all wrong. The issue between a couple could be just about anything, but with this dynamic, one partner feels that their way of solving the issue or their perspective on the issue is the correct one while their partner’s is not, and so they feel that they must make their partner see their way and agree to it. Paul and Stacey see this dynamic all the time among couples, and it sucks the energy out of people, causes kerfuffles, doesn’t solve anything, and in the end completely breaks down a relationship. A great example of that dynamic is with Susan, one of Paul and Stacey’s students. Susan and her husband Daniel were at loggerheads with each other over their parenting styles. Daniel preferred a disciplinary approach with their kids while Susan was trying to implement a relationship development parenting kind of approach. This made them go head to head all the time, with each being frustrated with the other because they were both trying to convince each other to go with each other's approach. This dynamic is very destructive, but it’s not anyone’s fault because it’s deeply wired into our blueprints. Most people have been conditioned to think that they must always convince others to see things from their perspective, and this is what Paul and Stacey will seek to help us break away from before they can give us the relationship development tools we need to move forward in the best way possible. If you’re familiar with that dynamic and you wanna learn how to make it a thing of the past in your relationship or marriage, then listen in to this episode. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a very common complaint that they get from women about how their husbands are too blunt and mean in their conversations, and how that triggers or embarrasses them. Stacey will share the story of one of their relationship transformers who asked them what she should have done when she asked her husband if she could take a certification class for her work, but he responded in a rude way. The lady felt her husband was an ass and treated her like crap, which she didn’t deserve. The root cause of such an issue is the fact that masculine and feminine perspectives are worlds apart. For the feminine, when a man speaks in very blunt and direct language, a woman feels like the man has made his decision, and she either has to go by it or against it. But in reality, what happens in such a situation is all a misunderstanding of how the masculine is wired. If the woman in that situation gets a similar response from another woman, she wouldn’t find it mean or rude. The same applies when men talk to other men. When a man asks another man for his opinion on a subject, he gets a very blunt and direct response because it’s in men’s nature not to sugarcoat things, and they understand each other in that regard. They are wired to be logical and assertive when tackling issues. So really, the best way to deal with such situations is to understand how other people are wired, and interact with them in a way that brings out the best in them, instead of assuming everybody's wired like us and interacting blindly, which then triggers the other person. Paul and Stacey will talk about that farther, and tell us where we can start in implementing that solution, so we can start experiencing kerfuffle free interactions with our loved ones. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the invisible expectations that women have of their partners and the harm they cause their relationships. They will start off by sharing a story from a long time ago of how Stacey ruined their Valentine’s Day. Paul had told Stacey that he would take her out to dinner for Valentine’s when he got back from work, and she was so excited about it. She got a nice new outfit and was expecting Paul to send her a large bouquet of flowers to her office. So every time a truck drove down the street, she would think it was her delivery. As time went by, and she hadn’t gotten any deliveries, she started thinking that maybe Paul was planning to bring the flowers himself, but when he finally got there, all he had for her was a single red rose. Stacey didn’t express any disappointment to his face, but deep down she couldn’t believe that Paul had just given her a single red rose for Valentine’s. She then started thinking to herself that maybe Paul would make up for that by taking her to some really magical place for dinner, but to her shock, Paul took her to a restaurant they were both familiar with, and he had not made any reservations. It was Valentine’s so the place was packed, and thus they didn’t get a table. They went to two more places and still couldn’t get a table, so they just got take out (Chinese food) and went home. At that point, Stacey was so grumbly and unhappy with the way the night had turned out, and at some point Paul asked her why she was so upset when all he was doing all night was trying to make things nice for her. To him, everything was alright, and he was just doing his best to show Stacey that he loved her, and give her a great Valentine’s experience. This story highlights the root cause of the problems brought about by women’s invisible expectations, and it all boils down to the differences in the feminine and the masculine. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive deeper into that and share the best action steps to take to ensure that the problems caused by invisible expectations will be a thing of the past in your relationship. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will cover part three of busting the myths series, and talk about the “But my partner is …” myths, which are all about how one partner thinks that their partner is keeping them from having their desired relationship because they behave a certain way. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: Daily Inspiration for Relationship TransformersYou can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a topic that is literally fundamental to what we think of when we think of relationship struggles. And that is the tendency of taking sides when we re-tell stories or people re-tell stories to us, mostly about terrible situations, either with their partners, or their parents, or somebody at their workplace. And when they tell us, we immediately go right into it with them either to console them or to hopefully give them some advice. In the process, we end up taking sides because we have the best of intentions with that person. Even in life in general, when we're looking for advice, or we're giving advice, we always get into that pattern of taking sides. That whole pattern is fundamental to relationship situations, and we can literally hear it everywhere we go. You could just be walking through the grocery store, and you will hear people telling stories about how horrible somebody else was to them, or whatever the situation was. That tendency has insidious and destructive effects, and if we don't awaken to it, it's can destroy things for us as we know them. Paul and Stacey will turn that pattern on its head, show us how destructive it is, and what we can do instead to not only learn to take personal responsibility in all our relationship situations but also strengthen those relationships for the long haul. Take out your pen and paper because you won’t wanna miss the lessons from this. Enjoy! Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about a persistent and repetitive kerfuffle that they used to have often in the car when Paul was driving, and it’s a kerfuffle that a lot of couples can relate to. They’re going to share a clip from their previous three day live immersion event, the Relationship Breakthrough Retreat, where they ended up sharing the story of that kerfuffle in great detail. It all revolved around how Paul drives, and to give a little context to that, Paul is a very confident driver and can drive pretty fast. He spent more than a decade of his youth as a professional driver and so he’s always keen when he’s driving. But with the fast driving, Stacey, who is not a fan of intensity, used to constantly have issues when they were on the road. She actually used to be terrified, and that would in turn distract Paul. He used to get pissed off about it because he felt like Stacey didn’t trust him and her reactions would endanger them on the road. That became a trigger for Paul and he didn’t know how to deal with it. Stacey tried to sort it out by shifting her reactions from yelling and making all sorts of sudden movements, to tapping her hand, which meant that she was still terrified. That was until one night when they were driving and Stacey realized there was a huge difference in their eyesight. Paul could see really far ahead, and that’s what made his driving so good despite going fast. Stacey on the other hand couldn’t see as far, and so to her, Paul always seemed to be driving fast somewhat in darkness which is what made her feel scared. From then on, she started leaning on that skill that Paul had that she didn’t, and that was the breakthrough for both of them that put an end to the kerfuffle. Stay tuned for more on that and how you can apply the lessons from it into profoundly changing your marriage. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

This week we are replaying one of our most popular episodes! In this episode, Paul and Stacey will talk about the invisible force that stops people from living with a relationship development mindset and instead continues to enslave them in a demand relationship mindset. That force blocks people from getting the results that they desire in their relationships and keeps leading them in the wrong direction. Paul and Stacey will expose it and teach you how to overcome it. Key Points Discussed: - Additional Resources: YouTube Video: Fault Vs Responsibility by Will SmithThe Relationship Breakthrough Retreat 2019- You can find this episode and more at: RelationshipDevelopment.org/listen - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. - If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will do part two of the two-part series on relationship development parenting. They will share the second clip from behind scenes of their filming for the Relationship Development Parenting Program that they will be releasing this year. In this particular clip, they addressed the issue of misery in parenting. This is a topic that might ruffle some feathers with a lot of people, but it’s a not so open secret that it affects a lot of parents in our society today. Most, if not all parents, have moments when they struggle with their parenting, and it’s an issue that they don’t like to talk about or admit because they fear that it may make them sound like bad parents, but this issue has to be discussed openly for it to be solved, and Paul and Stacey will do just that. When a parent finds themselves being miserable in their parenting, they usually think it’s because they hate their kids, but the reality is that it all comes from the fact that they hate demand parenting because it never works. Stay tuned as Paul and Stacey dive deeper into that, and share how you can solve it today so you can stop demand parenting, break its chains on your family's legacy, create a new foundation for your kids based on relationship development parenting, build up your relationship with them instead of watching it deteriorate over time, and prepare them for a future where they will be able to navigate life. Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!

In this episode, Paul and Stacey will do part one of a two part series on relationship development parenting. They teach a lot of tools on how people can stop doing demand parenting with their kids, and start doing relationship development parenting so they can create peaceful harmonious households, build up their relationships with their kids over time, and reduce the kerfuffles that they have of parenting. They are actually building a relationship development parenting program which will hopefully be released in 2020. It's going to be a substantial program with lots of tools and strategies, and they've so far been recording and filming content for it. They will share a couple of pieces from that filming that are so key to helping parents in their relationships with their children. Parents always have the absolute best of intentions, but parenting kerfuffles keep happening because they don’t realize that they’re applying demand parenting by using their leverage as the power players to try to get the results that they want from their kids. It's a really predictable pattern, and it's only so easy to fall into demand parenting because nothing can ever prepare us for being parents. To help us out on that, Paul and Stacey will break down how to apply relationship development parenting, so that we can learn from that and create shifts in our households that will help us build phenomenal relationships with our children. Listen in and enjoy! Key Points Discussed: Additional Resources: The 14-Day Boost Programwww.MyRelationshipDevelopmentCommunity.comwww.RelationshipBreakthroughRetreat.com- Ready for the next Relationship Breakthrough Retreat? Click here to get your ticket now! - You can find this episode and more at: MartinoPodcast.com - Subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Stitcher or anywhere else you listen to your podcasts. If you haven't already, please rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts!