The Solve

Today we’re going to talk about the one thing that, surprisingly, a LOT of women are STILL too shy to discuss. Caring for our ‘Ginas. Whether we’re partnered or not, sexually active or not - we NEED to be thinking about (and properly tending to) our vaginas. So, today, I’m talking to the incomparable Dr. Jackie Walters (@therealdrjackie). You may know her as gynecologist to one of your favorite Atlanta housewives or as a cast member of Bravo’s Married To Medicine. She is an award-winning...

Sisters, it’s time we explored the nuances of cheating. Yes, physical intimacy outside the boundaries of your relationship is considered cheating...but what other types are there? What is micro-cheating and how does it start? How do we build better communication habits with our partner? America’s #1 Relationship Therapist, Kiaundra Jackson (@kiaundrajackson), is today’s guest and listen - she gets down to BUSINESS. Listen up because she will get you and your relationship all the way...

It’s an age-old debate: Can long-distance relationships really work? The stories are out there - once red hot with passion and devotion - growing cold after a few weeks or months apart. Are there keys to making it work when perhaps you work in a different state or your boo has to travel quite a bit? How do you figure out your own personal balance? Danielle Cadet (@dbcadet) - Managing Editor of Refinery 29’s Unbothered brings some insightful answers this episode. Danielle splits her time...

Whips, chains, tight leather and a safe word thrown in for good measure. That’s what most of us think of when we hear the word ‘kink’. But what if I told you our view is severely skewed and limited because of the porn industry and movie franchises like Fifty Shades? What if I told you that the world of kink is deeper and more intricate than bringing handcuffs into the boudoir? On this episode, professional dominatrix Taylor Freeman aka The Chocolate Domme "Mistress Marley" breaks down the...

Do your exes all have the same rap sheet? Do they all kinda resemble one another in looks and/or behavior? Ladies, we are the BEST at securing the bag and career success but when it comes to love, sometimes we make the same mistakes. What if dating isn't hard? What if we just haven’t honed our focus to the things that really matter in a mate? On this episode of The Solve, we are deep-diving with Kelli Fisher and Tana Gilmore - The Matchmaking Duo into why we seem to date the same (Read:...

Sisters, it’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month so we wanted to close out October with a special episode of The Solve for those who may be fighting this battle. There are so many resources on preventing cancer, understanding the diagnosis, and fighting it physically. But it’s not often that we have candid conversation about how such a terrible disease can impede our relationships. Today’s guest, Dr. Racine Henry, LMFT (@SankofaTherapyNYC) offers incredibly helpful tips on how to keep a...

My sisters! Have you been stuck, wishing for a great relationship but life keeps handing you duds instead of fireworks? Have you been trying to find the right key to unlock the lifestyle you desire but it just seems so out of reach? At one point or another we’ve all found ourselves struggling to get beyond hoping to actually living out our biggest, most beautiful visions for ourselves. Well, today, empowerment coach, Abiola Abrams (@Abiolatv)- shares the keys to manifesting our best loves...

What absolutely untrue narratives were you taught about your body? Sex? Relationships? For those of us who’ve been severely miseducated, sexpert, Shan Boodram aka Shan Boody (@shanboody) is HERE on our first crossover episode between The Solve and Yes,Girl! She’s here to clear up, clarify, and re-educate all of us who have at any point in life been terribly miseducated about all things relationships! The best things about this chat with Shan are her 100% honesty and relatability, and the...

Sis! Can we talk? When was the last time you actually had an orgasm? Recent studies show that almost half of women either struggle with or just do not have…orgasms. Girl, what? Climaxing (properly) is a sexual topic that remains hush-hush among women, even in 2019. But today is a new day. This can’t happen and we want to help. On this episode of The Solve, we checked in with clinical sexologist Nikki Morgan (@NikkiExperience) to get a deep-dive into what it actually means to orgasm and to...

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in love with someone that your family didn’t approve of for some reason? You definitely raised your hand and your definitely not alone. Look, you can’t control other people’s feelings, but they do affect you (and your relationship) at times. Why does it take your family so long to come around? What do you do if they just don't approve? Who's really being immature in the situation? Luckily, friend to the show and star of OWN’s Family or Fiancé, relationship...

ESSENCE Family, former editor and relationship expert, Demetria L. Lucas (@demetriallucas) has a word for those unsure of whether it's time to walk away from the relationship. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to matters of the heart, everyone has an opinion, but very few have the answers. So step away from that group chat, and bring your problems to The Solve. Join ESSENCE’s love guru, Charli Penn and her girl gang of outspoken friends and experts as they share hilarious anecdotes and get-to-the-point advice for navigating some of your biggest dating dilemmas. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at...