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Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....

Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....
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Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....

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Episodes

Play is The Lube of Life!

9/10/2019
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Life is Hard. It's like a long game full of rules and regulation that you need to follow in order to "win". Play can help it be much more easy and fun. Come see how and why LUBE IS THE LUBE OF LIFE through examples from coffee shops, the clinic, my marriage, parenting and more. Practical tips on how to lubricate the game of life are given. Recorded live on FB. www.potentialstate.com Come read The Potential State Blog:...

Duration:00:07:28

OWNURSH!T 19 - PRESENT TENSE Your Communication!

8/27/2019
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Do you or your loved ones speak in past tense (I realized, I though, I discovered, I reflected...)? If so, that type of communication is often a defense mechanism that keeps you safe and less vulnerable, but also kills the possibility of synergistic, co-created relationships. In this talk I explain why people do this and the impact it has on intimacy and communication. Examples from the clinic and workshops illustrate how the move from past tense to PRESENTENSE can actually change...

Duration:00:06:35

OWNURSH!T 18 - stop waiting for your partner's approval!

8/13/2019
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Does your partner disappoint you by not celebrating your achievements? Do they sometimes even discourage, mock or belittle your personal or professional growth? If so, then no need to be insulted, surprised or disappointed. The solution is simple: STOP WAITING FOR THEIR APPROVAL! For most partners, they resist your growth because they are part of your system. In this talk I explain why the people who love us the most, often stop our growth. Examples illustrate how this unfolds in the...

Duration:00:07:46

Ownursh!t 17 - Core Beliefs - The Hammer You Hold in Your Hand

8/9/2019
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"For he who holds a hammer, the whole world is a nail." (Maslow) We all have core beliefs about ourselves and the world (for example: I'm damaged good, the world is dangerous place, kids are a burden, anger is bad). They all originally served and protected us. Over the years, some might have become limiting and constraining through the years. In this talk I describe how these core beliefs are adopted, how they serve us and when is it time to refresh them. Examples will be given from the...

Duration:00:08:53

Ownursh!t 16 - The Art of Sharing - Spewing vs. Opening a Shutter

8/4/2019
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Do you (or your loved one) often flood the conversation with strong feelings, traumas or dramas? If so, that is called Spewing and although it has gains, it is actually detrimental to your relationship. In this talk, I explain why it is better to open a shutter instead of spewing. Examples from the clinic and teaching illuminate the negative effects of spewing. Practical tips on the art of sharing will help you deepen your relationships. Recorded live on FB. www.potentialstate.com Come...

Duration:00:08:45

Ownursh!t 15 - Your Shadow is Always Bigger Than You

8/2/2019
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You shadow (the parts of you that you hide) is always bigger than you are. This shadow points to your next growth, inviting you to own your shit and be bigger. If you run away, deny or dissociate from it - the shadow will just get bigger. The best way to work with your shadow is to face it and lean into it - resulting in your true light shining brighter than every. Come see this concept in a simple and powerful way. Recorded live on FB. www.potentialstate.com Check out the video of this...

Duration:00:02:38

Ownursh!t 14 - The Six Phases of the Wanting Spiral

7/22/2019
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Do you keep expecting your loved ones to do or say things and they keep disappointing you? That is probably because you are at the earlier stages of the wanting spiral: Wanting, Expecting, Demanding, Asking, Wishing, Baring. Come hear how to move upward in the wanting spiral in order to feel more understood, loved and differentiated. Examples are given from the clinic and my life about the different phases of the spiral and its consequences. Practical tips will send you up the spiral in no...

Duration:00:09:54

Ownursh!t 13 - Talk 2 me in Numbers! The Highway 2 the Crucible

7/19/2019
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We all want to protect ourselves and our relationships, so we tend to keep things vague by over-verbalizing (and not conveying a clear stand) or not communicating at all. This leads to mind reading, reactive, symbiotic dynamic that is a huge WASTE TO TIME AND ENERGY. The solution? TALK IN NUMBERS. This talk explores why people purposely keep their opinions and feelings vague in their intimate relationships and how communicating in numbers can help. Examples from the clinic and my life are...

Duration:00:11:58

Ownursh!t 12 - The Holy Trinity of Blocking: Surprise, Insult and Disappointment

7/15/2019
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Do you or your loved ones tend to be Surprised, Insulted or Disappointed when you two encounter heat, tension, constructive feedback or conflict? If so, then you are experiencing The Holy Trinity of Blocking: Surprise, Insult and Disappointment. In this talk I describe why people choose these reactions, what they gain and lose from these behaviors and how this trinity can be avoided. Examples from the clinic and my life are described throughout. Practical tips are given that will help you...

Duration:00:09:19

OwnUrSh!t 11 - I GOT IT - Take a load off your partner and Grow!

7/11/2019
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We all love the G.S.D. (Get Sh!t Done) people at work. You might even be that person. And yet many times we are not the G.S.D. person and resist telling our partners "I got it.". Why? In this talk I'll describe the different reasons we resist managing projects or aspects of our personal relationships and the prices we pay for it. Examples are given from my life and the clinic. As usual, practical tips are given on how to be more often the G.S.D. person in your relationships. Recorded live...

Duration:00:10:39

OwnUrSh!t 10 - You feel superior to your partner. Here's what to do.

7/7/2019
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We all believe secretly that we are superior to our partners in certain areas (EITHOR 3 - the 95/70 dichotomy). This results from our insecurities and the necessities of building a stable system of distribution of power. Instead of feeling ashamed or hiding it, you should practice ownursh!t and say it to yourself and to your loved ones. In this talk I'll explain how I discovered this EITHOR 3, how it manifests in real relationships (my marriage and in the clinic) and end with practical tips...

Duration:00:16:27

Develop your own SECRET LANGUAGE to increase intimacy

7/2/2019
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Having a secret language has many benefits, mainly increasing intimacy and minimizing misunderstandings. It activates your 'upstairs' brains and reduces trauma mind. In this talk I will explore why you should start developing secret code words with the people you love. I will share examples from my life, the clinic and the theater world. Practical tips are given on how to build such a language in your life. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:13:05

Ownursh!t 9 - Stop saying SHOULD, You don't HAVE to do anything!

6/23/2019
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We all SHOULD be doing more in our life and certainly with our loved ones. But what prices do we pay when we believe or say that we SHOULD? This talk explores the individual and relational consequences we all face when we use (or don't use) SHOULD. Practical tips are given how to go beyond the SHOULD to WANT/WONT. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw

Duration:00:09:43

Ownursh!t 8 - 'I don't understand' as a buffer for connection

6/20/2019
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Do you find yourself or your loved ones 'not understanding' something emotional or relational? There is a big relational price for not knowing. This talk explains why 'I don't understand' is sometimes a very effective defense mechanism, yet actually creates distance in your relationships in the long run. Examples from the clinic and life show what happens when you don't know. Practical tips are given on how to dare to understand your intimate relationships. Recorded live on FB. Come see...

Duration:00:13:01

Ownursh!t 7 - Take 2 - Give Your Love a Second Chance

6/16/2019
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Every day we hurt, ignore or just disappoint the ones we love for different reasons: we're too tired, too angry, not paying attention, focused on ourselves and more. Over time, these ruptures create a negative sentiment override where we tend to interpret our partner's behavior in a negative way. This talk details a simple technique that can help you overcome these unavoidable ruptures and maintain a happy, healthy relationship. Examples are given from the clinic and real life. Practical...

Duration:00:12:17

Ownursh!t 6 - Why do we empower others but often belittle our loved ones?

6/14/2019
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We truly want our partners and loved ones to succeed in life. But many times we subconsciously belittle them to actually feel better about ourselves, because we might have a core belief of "Either You or Me/Strong or Weak" (what I call EITHOR 1). This talk explains why we do it and includes examples of how such depreciating manifests in the clinic and life. Practical tips are given on how to allow yourself to really celebrate your loved ones. Recorded live on FB. Come see more Potential...

Duration:00:14:32

Jewish Marriage - A candid talk with author David Lester on love, intimacy and the secret to 'happily ever after'

6/10/2019
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Join us for a candid conversation with author, therapist and teacher David Lester​ about his new book Jewish Marriage: The Ceremony, The First Year, and the Journey That Follows. We talk about love, intimacy, the different stages of marriage and about the secret to living 'happily ever after'. Recorded live on FB. Follow David and his book at https://www.facebook.com/Jewish-Marriage-2978196602222842 The book can be purchased...

Duration:00:39:04

"To Each Their Own (Pain)" - You are NOT responsible for our partner's feelings!

6/7/2019
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Do you feel responsible for most of your partner's feelings? Do you feel like their pain is your responsibility or fault? This talk might shock you when you see how these core beliefs limit your relationship and keep you feeling lonely and dependent. Examples are given from the clinic and life and tips are given on how to be closer to your loved ones without feeling the burden of guilt. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:13:27

One Up and One Down - The essential seesaw of Status in your life

6/4/2019
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How do we present ourselves to the world? We usually have a preferred way to bring ourselves in the world: either high status/one up, or low status/one down. Come hear more about these concepts and how these two positions shape your relationships and your life. Examples from the clinic and life illustrate this issue . Practical tips are given on how to master the see-saw in your personal and professional life. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:17:22

Ownursh!t 5 - The power of ALSO to open your mind and your relationships!

5/30/2019
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Good relationships (sometimes) have a good balance of give and take, co-creation and ALSO collaboration. By adding ALSO (and SOMETIMES) we actually improve the collaborative potential for synergy, thereby inserting some vitality and excitement to our everyday conversations. Examples are given from the clinic and life and practical tips how you can use also and sometimes to open your mind and your relationships. recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:16:01