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Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....

Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....
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Welcome to the Potential State Podcast with Dr. Assael Romanelli. Here we will explore topics of psychology, psychotherapy, improvisation, spontaneity, art, relationships and more. Every week I share experiences, thoughts, realizations and learnings from my work as a therapist, trainer and performer. Come inside the world of the multi-potentialite....

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English


Episodes

Saying NO to someone else is saying YES to yourself - Meditations on 'NO'

5/14/2019
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Most of us dont like saying NO (to others or to ourselves) because it can result in hurt feelings, anger, loss or frustration. Yet that avoiding NO makes us feel helpless, flooded and disrespected. Instead we should start bring back the Yes to the NO. By giving a Positive No (Ury) we gain more time, respect and happiness. Examples are given from the clinic and my life. Tips are given how to say more No to others, in order to say more Yes to Yourself. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our...

Duration:00:16:10

How do we actually learn things? What is the process that helps us learn, remember and grow? A conversation with the anthropologist Dr. Marcy Brink-Danan on Educational Processing

5/10/2019
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How do people learn and integrate what they learn? What are the processes that aid in that process? How can we help ourselves and our loved ones integrate, understand and use what we learn? Come listen to my conversation with the anthropologist Dr. Marcy Brink-Danan on this topic. Examples and practical tips are given as usual. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw

Duration:00:39:42

Stop Holding on to People and Things and Connect to Life!

5/7/2019
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We all want to live forever so we hold on to things and people (hoarding) so we can keep existing. But holding on negates the very essence of nature and our humanity. Come hear why you should let go of things and people that are not serving you or making you happy. Examples from the clinic as well as my personal life are described. As usual, practical tips are given. Come and release yourself! Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:14:15

Crucible 3 - What is differentiation and how it can change your life (like it did mine)

5/3/2019
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You are invited to celebrate with me my birthday and learn about the concept that has changed my life: Differentiation - My ability to be myself and close to others. Throughout this talk, I share my personal and professional journey with this paradigm. Come hear more about the theory, listen to examples and get some practical tips how to be more you and closer to others in your life. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:19:38

Crucible/Ownursh!t part 2 - How to hurt the ones you love more freely and dare to love deeper!

4/28/2019
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*THIS EPISODE DOES NOT ENDORSE OR ENCOURAGE OR NORMALIZE ANY FORM OF VIOLENCE OR ABUSE OF ANY KIND* You always hurt the one you love. We want to only be altruistic and benevolent. But we aren't. We either repress our anger and let it out as passive aggressive or act it out as violence and abuse. Come hear why denying/suppressing your aggression leaves you frustrated and dis-empowered. Come learn how you should express your aggression toward your loved ones (NOT acting out through...

Duration:00:13:42

Crucible series 1 - Authentic conversations through 'broadcasting live' with self-disclosure

4/22/2019
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In this first installment of the Crucible series, I explore how to communicate authentically. We will understand why and how people use self-presentation to protect themselves and the impact it has on the relationship and your sense of self. Come learn how to recognize self- presentation of yourselves or others and 'leap to freedom' toward authentic self-disclosures by 'broadcasting live'. Examples will be given from the clinic, lectures and personal life. As always, practical tips are...

Duration:00:18:43

'Meaningless' conversations as a reservoir for happy relationships

4/19/2019
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Life is short. Relationships are important. We don't have enough time for small talk. But without 'meaningless' conversations, our relationships become serious, heavy, somewhat burdening endeavors. Come hear why wasting time with 'meaningless' conversations is actually a reservoir of happiness and play in your relationships. Examples will be given as well as practical tips on how to waste time together. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:12:27

How can improvisation help you heal (in therapy and in life)? a lecture in English (with German translation) - Recorded live in Berlin, 23.3.19

4/12/2019
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We all know that improvisation can help people grow and heal. But how does improvisation actually help us grow ourselves and our relationships? What are the micro and macro processes that happen when we improvise with another person? In this talk, which is translated to German along the episode, I explain the psycho-therapeutic theory behind the healing power of improvisation, in therapy and in life. The talk is filled with theoretical concepts together with real examples from life and...

Duration:00:44:19

Finding the Good in Goodbye - purposeful Parting as a way to celebrate life!

4/5/2019
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We want to live forever. We hate saying goodbye to people and things. We want to have all our options open all the time. That can make us weak or apathetic or bored. Come listen why we should all purposely, consciously part with more people and things with gratitude in our lives - in order to feel good. Examples willl be given from the clinic, workshops and my personal life. Practical tips will be given how to find the Good in Goodbye. Recorded Live on FB. Come see all our videos...

Duration:00:14:38

If you want to really live, go down to the DANCE FLOOR!

4/1/2019
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In this episode I explain gains and losses from being up on the balcony, looking down at life, as well as being down on the dance floor. I show how the vitality of life is waiting for us on the dance floor and why you should try to follow the fear and head down there. I give examples from the clinic and my life to show you the benefits and costs of daring to be on the dance floor. Bring your dancing shoes and come listen! Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos videos on our YouTube...

Duration:00:19:18

The power of 'I don't know' for life-long learning, richer relationships and a wonderful life

3/24/2019
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Most of us don't want to admit we don't know things. But admitting openly that 'I don't know' liberates us into life-long learning as well as equalizes the power dynamics in our relationships and allows us to reclaim our authenticity. This episode includes different examples from the clinic, workshops, performances and personal relationships that show how honest not knowing actually benefits your life in many ways. As always, practical tips are given on how to lean into not knowing for a...

Duration:00:13:06

Want to feel truely loved? SHOW YOUR SHADOW!

3/19/2019
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We all want to really feel loved. We usually present our best selves to the world. These two wants sometimes lead to us often feeling that people who say nice things to us or love us, don't really mean it or don't really know us (because if they knew who we REALLY are, they wouldn't love us). The solution: LET THEM SEE YOUR SHADOW! Come listen to my claim that this is the way forward in relationships. The episode includes examples from the clinic and real life and concludes with...

Duration:00:13:32

Empathy is all we need - Rethinking compassion

3/14/2019
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In this talk I compare the concepts of empathy and sympathy in relation to compassion and show many examples where we over-sympathize in a way that actually doesn't help the other. Examples are given from different contexts about different ways of 'doing' compassion. The episode concludes with practical tips how you can love and empower others in a deep way. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw

Duration:00:14:13

Keeping our Mind AND eyes open - Owning our prejudices and stereotypes

3/10/2019
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In this episode I talk about how to not let our fears from our own prejudices and stereotypes blind us into not interacting or seeing. I share several examples on how my determination to 'radically accept' everyone and everything actually blinded me from seeing certain truths. The episode concludes with some tips how to ownursh!t and be respectful of others WHILE maintaining your personal integrity. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos videos on our YouTube channel:...

Duration:00:16:27

My, myself and I - The mertis of Self-talk

3/8/2019
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In this talk, I explain the merits of self-talk for your mind, your soul, your life, for your loved ones and the world. The video details five benefits of talking to your self and includes examples. Practical tips are given at the end of the video. Recorded live on FB. Come see all our videos videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw Come hear all our talks on the Potential State podcast iTunes -...

Duration:00:12:02

The Price of being Nice, and the Gain of being a Pain

3/3/2019
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In this episode I'll explain why being nice can slowly kill relationships and create boredom in your life. I'll detail the benefits of 'saying the thing' and 'following the fear' and how that can lead to deeper, more vital relationships. The episode concludes with some practical tips on how to introduce more honesty to your relationships in a generative way. recorded live on FB. Come hear all our talks on the Potential State podcast iTunes -...

Duration:00:16:05

Intimate, committed relationships are like a MARATHON - special from the Tel Aviv Marathon 2019

2/28/2019
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Being in a committed, long-term relationship is like a marathon. You need to allow yourself to feel the whole range of feelings, from Love to Hate. Once you allow yourself to truly hate your partner, your heart can open to truly loving your partner. Then you almost always will hit the 'wall', as I did in the 32nd kilometer, and that is the point where the relationship is at it's lowest and you must persevere... And how does it end? This episode concludes with some questions and suggestions...

Duration:00:19:03

OwnURsh!t part 1 - Being insulted as the ulimate interpersonal block - and how can we choose otherwise?

2/25/2019
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In this episode we explore why choosing to be insulted is the ultimate block in relationships. How does it ironically maintain our sense of superiority while devaluating the other? We will see some examples from the clinic and then tips will be given on how can you choose otherwise for the sake of your relationships? Recorded live on Facebook. see the videos on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw?view_as=subscriber

Duration:00:17:31

Can the apple fall far from the tree? On inter-generational scripts

2/22/2019
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Can the apple fall far from the tree? Which behaviors and values did we inherit from our parents and what can we do about it? In this episode I will explain several theories of inter-generational transmission of scripts so you can better understand how you are operating. This episode also describes ways in which you can reflect and expand your repertoire in your personal and professional life. Recorded live on Facebook.

Duration:00:19:04

A fresh approach to (systematic) female empowerment

2/17/2019
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In this episode I introduce a fresh approach to (systematic) female empowerment, which focuses not only on your strengths but also your shadow/faults, in order to generate a second-order change in your environment. The episode includes examples from the my work with women in psychotherapy, improvisation and educational settings. The episode concludes with some tips on how to empower yourself and your loved ones.

Duration:00:21:23