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What Is The Goal Of Sex In Your Relationships And Life?

When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? Is it something else? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. My orgasm mostly, but at times her orgasm was my priority as well. I picked that goal up from porn, from media, from peers. Sometimes the goal of sex for me was to fulfill the expectation (and sometimes obligation) of...


How Much Life Can You Handle? 7 Ways To Show Up Powerfully To The Life You've Created

As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well? For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created.


How To Bounce Back Quickly When You're Dealing With Disappointment In Your Life

How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered and you're feeling extraordinary disappointment? I recently watched three men have their world's get rocked, and witnessed some extraordinarily powerful responses to life kicking them in the butt. In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast! Also, check out the Life By Design, Not...


The Day I Became A Father: A Story Of Feminine Power, Personal Transformation And Unconditional Love

What is a moment or experience that completely transformed who you were as a person? For me the biggest one was experiencing the birth of my daughter, Maya. Today is Maya's 2nd birthday (September 11, 2018), and on this special day I wanted to do something different on the podcast. So I'm sharing the story of her birth, from the early signs that Sarah and I realized labor was starting, to when we welcomed her Earth side in our bedroom (Maya was born at home, right in our master...


Do Something You've Always Wanted To Do This Fall

What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. You don't need any more prep, any training, any confidence, any more confirmation. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things...


What Being Arrested Taught Me About Surrender

What does surrender mean to you? When I started working with a coach I would hear the word "surrender" a lot. "Surrender to healthy feedback" "Surrender your ego" "Surrender to what you don't know" "Surrender to the universe" I had a hard time with that word, because for a long time "surrender" was a weak word, it meant giving up, giving in, and why would I want to do something out of weakness? Today my context around surrender is much different, and I use the word all the...


I'm On Vacation (Maybe You Should Be Too)

When was the last time you intentionally created time for you to check out and recharge? Last week I talked about balance and gave you a different way to think about the elusive work-life balance. Well today, I'm putting it into practice! Sarah and I decided to take an impromptu vacation. We were feeling the impact of going hard for the last few months, and recognized we needed a break. Today's episode is a big THANK YOU to the HIA community for holding me accountable to being the person...


Change The Way You Experience Life

How are you currently experiencing life? I'm not talking about the results you're creating. I'm talking about your EXPERIENCE of it all. In today's episode I'm digging into why your experience of life is truly what matters, and how you can change it for the better.


How To Balance Out Your Health And Fitness In A Holistic and Sustainable Way

What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? I'm all about shifting paradigms and offering you new beliefs on this show, and today's episode does just that. In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. Whether you're in the camp that believes balance is achievable, or on...


Codependency and Unhealthy Attachments In Relationships

How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? I don't know where I picked it up, but somewhere in my adolescence I adopted the belief that a healthy relationship was one where I could not be happy if my partner was not happy. It's simply a belief, and I'm not saying it right or wrong. Some of you may feel that way about your current relationship. What that belief created for me was a level of attachment to my partner, maybe approaching full blown codependency, where I...


Your Personal Growth Depends On 3 Types Of Feedback (Are You Open To Them?)

How willing are you to receive and surrender to healthy feedback that comes from a trusted source? Be honest with yourself. Feedback is an integral part of the growth and evolution process, whether we're talking personal development or primates over the course of millions of years. Feedback (aka information) is what is needed to make tiny corrections and adjustments, which over time can result in huge changes. In today's episode I'm sharing the three types of feedback that exist,...


How Much Do You Really Trust Yourself? (Special Announcement)

How full is your personal TRUST account? I'm not talking about a financial trust account. But the account we all have within us that measures how much TRUST we have in ourselves to do the things we say we're going to do. So, what's your balance at right now? Chances are, it could use a few more deposits! Join us in the TRUST Challenge and make the commitment to daily deposits for the month of August 2018, and experience the massive impact that showing up for yourself constantly has on...


Sexual Consciousness & Vulnerable Masculinity with Robert Kandell

So, in terms of your present comfort level, how do you feel about conversations about sexuality, intimacy, masculinity and vulnerability? Got any butterflies in your stomach? Then this episode is totally for you! A few months ago, in an episode I did with my friend Kyla, I talked about Orgasmic Meditation. If you don't know what it is, you will soon! I've been practicing OM for 3 years now, and all this while I knew one person as the creator of OM --- Nicole Daedone. She has a Ted talk...


Paying Forward Positivity

Today is a bit of a deviation from the normal episode. I was very inspired last night by something I saw on Instagram (it's rare, but when it happens it's potent), and I wanted to share this message with you all. There are people in your life who you know, and many who you don't, who are influenced and inspired by you everyday. They see who you are choosing to be, and it gives them strength and hope that they can overcome the situations in their lives. So if you are able to, I ask that...


Releasing the Myths and Stereotypes Around Masculinity

What are the myths and stereotypes around masculinity that you’re holding and giving strength to? Throughout my 31 years I've picked up all sorts of ideas around what it means to be a man. So many of those ideas reinforce dated and unhealthy stereotypes, and I'm ready to release them and adopt beliefs more accurate with the experience I want to have in life. In today's episode I share my biggest stereotypes around masculinity, the things that trigger thoughts of comparison and feeling...


Learning How To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life? So many of us struggle with saying no when people make requests of our time, space, energy, money, or love. We want to please. We want others to like us. We don't want to be seen as unhelpful or unavailable. So we say "yes" even when it doesn't serve us. Do that enough, and we become "yes people", who are known for bending over backwards for others. That's great and all, but saying "yes" too easily will always come back to bite us. Often...


What Does It Look Like To Create Your Ideal Life RIGHT NOW?

What does it look like to create your ideal life RIGHT NOW? I want you to seriously ask yourself this question. Because chances are you're reciting some version of this to yourself: "My ideal life is when I have XYZ, or when I accomplish 123, or when ABC things happen for me". It's a normal thing to do. But what's on the other side of that coin is the feeling that we are not able to create and experience our ideal version of our lives UNTIL some point in the future.


3 Beliefs That Have Radically Transformed My Life

What is one belief that you know has radically transformed your life for the better? Beliefs are something I talk about a ton on this show. The beliefs that you choose to wear on impact your actions, your habits, your relationships, your perspective on life. I use the phrase "choose to wear on" incredibly intentionally as well! Because beliefs are things that you can put on like a piece of clothing, wear a while to see how they fit, and keep or discard at your choosing. In today's episode...


The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 2

Today's episode is part 2 of my series where I share with you the rituals that I've cultivated and use to help me win in my health, relationships, business and spirituality. Today I'm talking about Business and Spirituality. --- How are your rituals impacting your life? Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day. Rituals are simply actions you perform in a certain order. You have rituals for waking up,...


The Success Rituals That Empower My Health, Relationships, Business and Spirituality Part 1

How are your rituals impacting your life? Big question, I know, but the point is to get you to reflect on your rituals and how they are impacting your day-to-day. Rituals are simply actions you perform in a certain order. You have rituals for waking up, going to sleep, and a whole host of other things. Many times we don't think about our rituals, we just get into them and our bodies go on autopilot. But when we're intentional about our rituals, we have a major opportunity to...