The DNA of Mindful Relationships
Self Development
Dilek (Di) is an experienced Psychologist and Couples Therapist and Alex is...not. They are a couple who are building a consciously mindful relationship and who love to discuss the ups and downs of relationships with episodes about effective communication, having a fair fight and how to reduce the drama in your life. This podcast is not only for couples searching for ideas to enhance their relationship but also for single people seeking to establish a meaningful relationship. Di and Alex also dive into the world of non-intimate relationships such as work colleagues and parent-child interactions. Web: https://www.thednaofmindfulrelationships.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DNARelationships
Location:
Australia
Genres:
Self Development
Description:
Dilek (Di) is an experienced Psychologist and Couples Therapist and Alex is...not. They are a couple who are building a consciously mindful relationship and who love to discuss the ups and downs of relationships with episodes about effective communication, having a fair fight and how to reduce the drama in your life. This podcast is not only for couples searching for ideas to enhance their relationship but also for single people seeking to establish a meaningful relationship. Di and Alex also dive into the world of non-intimate relationships such as work colleagues and parent-child interactions. Web: https://www.thednaofmindfulrelationships.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DNARelationships
Language:
English
Episodes
Ep 26 - Keeping the Romance Alive
12/6/2020
Alex's episode and Di interviews him •How to keep the romance alive beyond the honeymoon period •Love languages: •Acts of service •Acts of touch •Quality time •Gifts •Words of Affirmation •Who is responsible for romance? •Micro-romance •text messages •compliments •gratitude
Duration:00:34:06
Ep 25 - Am I Co-Dependent
11/22/2020
Do you use up all of your energy in meeting your partner's needs? Do you feel trapped in your relationship? Are you the one that is constantly making sacrifices? Then you just may be in a co-dependent relationship. Co-dependency is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of co-dependency is an excessive reliance on other people for...
Duration:00:31:46
Ep 24 - Breaking Up is Hard to Do
11/8/2020
A relationship break up is one of the more stressful life events anyone could go through but sometimes its just plain necessary. Sign #1: A loss of the Us-ness •Do they tell the 'story of us' in positive playful way keeping irritability and emotional distance in the closet. •When negativity takes over its hard to remember the good times. Sign #2: Weak Fondness and Admiration •There is a major difference between couples who last and couples who separate. Happy couples tell their Story of Us...
Duration:00:35:01
Ep 23 - Two's Company...
10/25/2020
•In any monogamous intimate relationship there are often people and things that can interfere in the strong connection between two people and become the third 'member' of the relationship. Instead of a strong bond or connection the relationship is diluted by this third entity. The energy that you need to put into the us of the relationship is shared between three components instead of two. This could include: •This 'threesome' could include: •a friend •a parent or family member •a child or...
Duration:00:29:50
Ep 22 - Surviving Menopause
10/11/2020
Overview Menopause is the time that marks the end of your menstrual cycles. It's diagnosed after you've gone 12 months without a menstrual period. Menopause can happen in your 40s or 50s, but the average age is 51 in the United States. Menopause is a natural biological process. But the physical symptoms, such as hot flashes, and emotional symptoms of menopause may disrupt your sleep, lower your energy or affect emotional health. There are many effective treatments available, from lifestyle...
Duration:00:29:10
Ep 21 - Liar, Liar. Pants on Fire!
10/4/2020
Intro: Is it ever ok to tell a lie? What is the impact of lies and secrets on our relationships and how do you recognise a lie when its disguised as something else? •The different types of lies you can tell •Is it ever ok to tell a lie? White lie. •What's the impact of secrets and lies on a relationship •How do you deal with lies when they show up. Relationships thrive on trust. It is the solid foundation that the relationship framework is built on. Lets say that the framework is made of...
Duration:00:33:57
Ep 20 - High Anxiety
9/27/2020
Intro: Are there times when you feel anxious, worried or stressed and don't know how to help yourself feel better? Or does your partner have similar anxious episodes and you're at a loss as to how to support them? Anxiety: A feeling of apprehension and fear, characterized by physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, sweating, and feelings of stress. Anxiety is more than just worry or stress, which is a common feeling that we all feel. In the absence of an actual life event that creates...
Duration:00:35:54
Ep. 19 Living in Lockdown
9/20/2020
It's always ok to not feel ok but right now during COVID-19 it's especially ok to not feel ok. •It's ok to not feel ok: Feeling of uncertainty and lack of control. In a time of little control, find something you do have control over and control the heck out of it! Like organising your closet or the pantry. It can be very grounding and give you a sense of mastery amongst the chaos. There can also be an underlying feeling of grief and loss: •Routine and dress: create a morning routine and...
Duration:00:33:43
Ep. 18 We're Back!
9/13/2020
After a break of almost 2 years, we're back! What have we been up to? Are we still together? Has Alex improved his dad jokes? Join us as we catch up on what has been happening as we begin season 2.
Duration:00:34:58
Ep. 16 Family Feud
12/17/2018
In this episode Di interviews Alex about that time of the year where there are family events and gatherings and what can you do if there is bad blood or tension between you and a family member. We also reflect on our 1st year of 16 episodes of The DNA of Mindful Relationships and thank our listeners for their feedback and look forward to a new year of interesting podcast topics in 2019.
Duration:00:27:03
Ep. 15 Let's Talk About Sex Baby
12/3/2018
What is sexual intimacy? Sex is an act shared between you and your spouse that feels great and brings you closer. Intimacy is a close emotional bond between you and a partner. Bring the two together and you have a deep connection that will strengthen your marriage. Being intimate means more than just getting physical with your partner. Having sexual intimacy with your partner creates a deep emotional connection that contributes to a more satisfying sexual bond. Not everyone will find it easy...
Duration:00:35:57
Ep. 14: Desperately Seeking Intimacy
11/19/2018
What is intimacy? The concept of intimacy involves a mutually consensual relationship where two individuals reciprocate feelings of trust, emotional and physical closeness toward each other. The 4 main types of intimacy include: 1. Intellectual intimacy Are you both on the same wavelength? Do you "get" each other? Can you talk 'til all hours of the night about anything and everything? 2. Emotional closeness Many couples may be together for a long time, but lack this type of intimacy. That's...
Duration:00:35:22
Ep. 13: Relationship Ready
11/5/2018
Let's talk about getting relationship fit. We get fit and healthy for summer or we get a service or tune up for our cars. Why don't we place as much effort and care into getting ready for a relationship as we do with other things in life? 1. Know what you want and what you don't want: •make a list of what your future partner's values would be •Family, money, relating to others, kindness •Not a shopping list of superficial things like looks, body type, height etc.. 2. Know your boundaries:...
Duration:00:32:59
Ep. 12: Lost In Translation
10/22/2018
Dr Gary Chapman wrote The Five Love Languages in 1995. Chapman suggests that to discover another person's love language, one must observe the way they express love to others, and analyze what they complain about most often and what they request from their significant other most often. He theorizes that people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love, and better communication between couples can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person...
Duration:00:30:16
Ep. 11: Assert Thy Self
10/8/2018
In this episode, Di and Alex explore the difference between different styles of communication including Assertiveness, Passiveness and Aggressive behaviour and how some people confuse aggression for assertion. Di states that the main aim of effective communication is to create a win-win situation to get what you want without walking all over the other person.
Duration:00:34:01
Ep. 10: Unravelling Travellings
9/24/2018
Holidays are meant to be a time of fun and unwinding but sometimes travelling with your partner can cause stress from being out of your normal routine and having to make decisions on things such as what to see and do. In this episode Di & Alex discuss practical tips for achieving a win-win when away, all from the back seat of a taxi in Indonesia.
Duration:00:28:22
Ep. 09: The Gender Agenda
9/10/2018
Di and Alex explore the two worlds of Mars and Venus and men and women. They discuss how females are great multi-taskers, while men excel in highly task-focused projects. They also share the notion that men's deepest fear is about being incompetent and not good enough whereas women can be unconsciously afraid of being worthy of love. Di brings up Mr fix it, man caves and touches on different love languages. Finally, they discuss the top 3 mistakes men and women make in relation to their...
Duration:00:35:16
Ep. 08: Mindfulness Matters
8/27/2018
Di and Alex discuss what Mindfulness is and how it can help us in our relationships. When we practice mindfulness on a daily basis, we develop an awareness that helps us stay in the present moment with our partners which in turn makes it easier to deal with issues as they arise without getting tangled up in past emotions and future worries.
Duration:00:29:38
Ep. 07: Attachments Included
8/13/2018
Attachment styles are patterns of intimacy developed in our formative years that may have an impact on future relationships. Di shares with Alex the model developed by Stan Tatkin to simplify attachment theory using the metaphor of waves, islands and anchors, from his book, "Wired for Love." Waves have an up and down style where they want to be close but push people away; the Island likes to have alone time and their own space whilst anchors have a nice balance of both waves and islands. The...
Duration:00:33:15
Ep. 06: Help Me If You Can
7/30/2018
How do you know when it's time to seek outside help for your relationship? Di and Alex explore the triggers to identify when to look outside of your relationship for advice, how to find that professional help and how to know if they are a good therapist. They discuss the difference between a psychologist, psychiatrist, counsellor and life coach and help you to identify which one is appropriate for any given situation.
Duration:00:33:23