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5 Money Challenges To Increase your Savings [Episode 44]

“Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people that they don't like.” --Will Rogers You might have heard that quote before. It’s becoming a cliché but the brutal honesty is what makes it so powerful. During my Chapter 13 Bankruptcy, I had to rethink my approach to saving and spending money. Not only do I talk about 5 spending challenges that helped me build up a nice cushion, but how I stacked them to protect my bank account from those...


Detaching from Toxic Situations [Episode 43]

V “True detachment isn’t separation from life but the absolute freedom within your mind to explore living.” Ron. W. Rathbun The good news is that detachment is a skill that you can learn. The bad news is that detachment is a skill that you can learn. Skills take time to learn. There will be moments when we let ourselves get caught up in the moment. That’s human. Emotions are there to serve us, not control us. We must master them, not the other way around. Today we discuss 4 tips for...


Picking Your Battles- When to Fight and When to Flee [Episode 42]

The desire to win is human nature. Winning gives us satisfaction, but is winning always a good thing? People might quote Winston Churchill when he said, “Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never–in nothing great or small, large or petty–never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.” I used to use this quote to justify my actions, however, Churchill said this during the second...


Biding your time with a Toxic Boss [Episode 41]

A reader sent me an email about a situation with a toxic boss. She writes, “[My boss] rules with fear, and has fired/made redundant/bullied out many of my former colleagues. She essentially picks one member of staff each week to be her least favourite person - she calls them out in front of everyone, creates issues, overreacts if something goes "wrong". She will email text you in the evenings and on weekends, and it always stresses me out for hours! We don't have HR so I don't really have...


Celebrating Life Milestones amidst Toxicity [Episode 40]

“Just because one person’s problem is less traumatic than another’s doesn’t mean they’re required to hurt less.” J.A. Redmerski This is the 40th episode. I am 40 years old. I have lost 40 pounds. So that’s 40-40-40. How's that for timing! There are two issues I address in this episode. First, there are seasons to life. There are the dark times and the good times. There is a time to celebrate, and a time to buckle down and deal with the issue at hand. Second, during the dark times, be careful...


Dealing with Controlling Parents Webinar [Episode 39]

Here's a webinar I did some time ago. You will discover... 1.Why do controlling parents...well...control 2. 11 ways they control and how to counter it 3. Your best defense against them


3 Early Warning Signs of a Narcissist [Episode 38]

Narcissists are emotional parasites. They don’t care about the people in their lives. They just care about getting their emotional“fix.” They want you dependent and broken. Whether a romantic relationship, platonic relationship, or even a work relationship, getting involved with a narcissist is a miserable experience. So, today we cover the signs to watch out for. Subscribe, Rate, and Review. I would be most grateful.


Why Are My Coworkers So Cutthroat? – Listener Question [Episode 37]

Are you in a working environment where people would throw you under the bus without the slightest hesitation? Does getting ahead mean selling their souls and backstabbing you? One listener demands to know why. In desperate times, people tend to do desperate things. When you look beyond all the posturing, you will see the fear that’s driving toxic work conditions. Subscribe, Rate, and Review. I would be most grateful.


Are Toxic Co-Workers Making you the Bad Guy? [Episode 36]

Here’s another listener question. The person states, “How to deal with toxic environments where you, the victim, are turned/labelled the negative or toxic person. Especially when you know you aren’t.” There are three powerful methods to deal with this situation. Don’t be deceived by how simple they are. Send your questions to


Controlling Parents: How Does An Adult Child Deal With Them? [Episode 35]

How old must you be before you can live your own life in their eyes? Today, we explore some reasons why controlling parents are the way they are and how to deal with them. Click on the link to sign up for the Controlling Parents Webinar.


Does Being Nice Work on Toxic People? [Episode 34]

Have you ever tried to be nice to toxic people? People are often surprised to hear me say that I am not a nice person. Of all the virtues in the English language, being nice would be at the very bottom of my list. When it comes to being a nice person, I will explain whether or not it works and what to do instead. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! I would be most grateful


Getting over a Grudge [Episode 33]

Getting over a grudge is a process. I would love to say “do these 3 things and the grudge will be gone” but that’s not necessarily true. It’s not about letting go of it. It’s about it letting go of you. The mind can go to some dark places. In this episode, we discuss how to deal with these negative thoughts.


When Family Members Sabotage Your Efforts [Episode 32]

It’s frustrating when someone sabotages your efforts. It’s even more hurtful when that someone is a family member you love. Why do they do that? How do you handle it? Let’s shine some light on the subject today. Rate and review, I would be most grateful.


When Should You Call It Quits and Cut Your Losses? [Episode 31]

Are you speeding down a dead-end road? Are you throwing good money after bad? Are you on a ship to nowhere? I was there too. What happens when we don’t want to abandon a path after we put resources and time into it? Should you call it quits and move on with your life? In this episode, we give you some questions to consider before making a big decision. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! I would be most grateful.


How to Get Over the Fear of Looking Stupid [Episode 30]

Just a heads up, I will be updating on Mondays only for the next two-three months. I am recording episodes in bulk and will return to a multi-day update in the future. Until then, here are 3 gold nuggets you can use to help you get over the fear of looking stupid. Enjoy! Subscribe, rate, and review! I would be most grateful.


Listener Question – Why Do Toxic People Accuse Me of Being Selfish? [Episode 29]

Are you doing your best to be an awesome human being and toxic people think that you’re being selfish? Well, we all have selfish tendencies, but we also have our virtues. A listener wants to know why toxic people feel the need to call other people selfish when they themselves are obviously being selfish. Today, I talk about a simple, yet powerful observation to help you but this into perspective. Subscribe, Rate, and Review; I would be most grateful!


Toxic People & Emotional Eating – How to Cope [Episode 28]

What is at the heart of emotional eating? How did I gain 100 lbs.? Simple. I wouldn’t admit it to myself at the time but emotional overeating not only led to weight gain but to Type II diabetes. It was a mess. At the time of this episode, I lost 25 lbs. so I still have 75 more to go. In terms of technology, we have it good these days. I can log on to a language website and have a conversation with a Spanish instructor from Ecuador. I can connect to past classmates on Facebook. I can walk...


How To deal with Difficult Clients After-The-Fact [Episode 27]

We have another response to an email from a listener. If you are a freelancer, contractor, etc., what happens when clients or customers want to come back to complain after services have been rendered? What happens when they come back weeks, months, or even years after the fact to complain about your good work?


How to Deal With People Who Like To Impose [Episode 26]

When you rearrange your life to appease/accommodate people, especially toxic people, don’t be surprised if those same people who you tried to accommodate won’t be with you when it counts. If they are, it’s more of a backseat driver type of thing. People are quick to dictate the terms of your life, but they very rarely take action. Let’s take a look at how to deal with these types. Questions? Comments? Email us at


The Ideal Mindset for Dealing With Toxic People [Episode 25]

In today’s landmark 25th episode, I am summarizing the previous 24 episodes in to 6 key points. These points represent the ideal mindset for dealing with toxic people.