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How to Be a Girl

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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.
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How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.

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Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School

8/20/2018
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My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month. It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender. How do I handle this? How do I advise her? Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? At the end of this episode, I'll be asking for your advice: What should I do? MUSIC CREDITS: "Sensitive" and "Constellation" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).

Episode XXIII: Moving & Marrying, Part II - Won't you be my neighbor?

7/31/2018
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We've moved. To the suburbs. We're getting to know the new neighbors, and we're wondering: Will they accept us here? MUSIC CREDITS: "Glitter" and "Chauncy" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0).

Duration:00:18:04

Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince

5/17/2018
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Did you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride? Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental couple's forthcoming nuptials! (And hear what my daughter thinks of her soon-to-be stepdad.) MUSIC CREDITS: "Lord of the Land," "Evening Melodrama," "Master of the Feast," "The Rule," and "Bossa Bossa" by Kevin MacLeod

Duration:00:12:42

Episode XXI: Going First

5/10/2018
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In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes. Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world. Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come. MUSIC CREDITS: “Springtime,” “Quartrefoil,” and “Blue” by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) “Helice” by Monplaisir (licensed under CC0 1.0) “Comedie” by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0)

Duration:00:23:20

Episode XX: The Betrayal

4/26/2018
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Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually. But that didn't make it any easier when it did. Music credits: “Chicxuclub” and “Transient” by Podington Bear “Undaunted” by Kevin MacLeod “Dormir rien de plus” by Monplaisir

Duration:00:17:00

We're back! Welcome to a new season!

4/19/2018
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After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back! The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week. Here's a little taste of what's to come. Music credits: "Lode Runner" and "Sorrento" by Podington Bear.

Duration:00:08:15

We Shall Overcome

1/15/2018
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Duration:00:01:25

A little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!

12/24/2017
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This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits: Dee Yan-Key, "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) Borrtex, "Buying Presents" (licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)

When it rains it pours

7/6/2017
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How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. M. tries her hand at TV journalism. Music credit: David Mumford, “Singing in the Rain (Instrumental)" (licensed under CC BY 4.0)

Duration:00:12:29

Episode XIX: Red State Mama

2/22/2017
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I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state. Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence

Duration:00:26:00

A little update from Marlo

2/17/2017
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This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious. I also have some news. Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listening-party) MUSIC CREDITS: "Quirky Dog" by Kevin MacLeod (www.incompetech.com) "Mama" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence (Thank you, Benjamin Doerr!!)

Duration:00:06:50

Episode XVIII: Big Sister

2/1/2017
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I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me: A transgender big sister. Music credits: “Dormir Rien de plus” by Monplaisir (public domain)

Duration:00:13:19

Episode XVII: The Window

1/11/2017
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In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close. I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. MUSIC CREDITS: “Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com “Homeless California” by Monplaisir (public domain) “King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle (CC-BY-NC...

Duration:00:17:07

Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl

12/21/2016
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It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time. What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager? Music credits: Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0) Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0)

Duration:00:21:44

Episode XV: Just Maybe

11/30/2016
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She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy. How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? Music credits: "Child Come Home" by Michael Howard (Licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0) "Flagger" by Blue Dot Sessions (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0) “That Old Harpoon” by Gillicuddy (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0)

Duration:00:18:24

A post-election message from my 8-year-old trans daughter

11/21/2016
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My 8-year-old transgender daughter is not giving up. She's eating popcorn and singing and telling jokes and she has some advice for you.

Duration:00:01:09

Episode XIV: My Friend Lauren

11/9/2016
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When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know. My friend, "Lauren," in 1979. Music credits: “George Street Shuffle” and “In Your Arms” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) “Evenhanded” by Podington Bear “From here to Iceland" by Loch Lomond “I Enjoy Being a Girl,” performed by Christine Jorgensen "Mars Landscape: Moon Set” by Julie Maxwell...

Duration:00:21:40

Episode XIII: Play Date

10/19/2016
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My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls. But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because sometimes you just need to hang out with somebody who's just like you. Music Credits: "The Temperature of the Air on the Bow of the Kaleetan” by Chris Zabriskie, “Hélice” by Monplaisir, and “Rainbow Street” by Scott Holmes. Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Ann Frossard, Lorna McCarthy, Maricia Scott, Lyle Mattson, Ryann Grove,...

Duration:00:16:20

Episode XII: How to Be a Dad

9/28/2016
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When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this. So I did. And this is what he said. (I asked him a few other questions, too.) Music credits: “The Father’s Name” by Gianluca Sgalambro Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com: Chris Wright, David Roswell, Laura Kivlen, Britt Tanner, Robyn Kanner, Nicole Villacres,...

Duration:00:28:43

Short and Silly

9/4/2016
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This isn't a full episode. Just a little update on what we've been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter. (What can I say? It's been a silly summer!) There's also an important announcement about the future of this podcast and some news on my daughter's love life (and mine too!). Music credits: "Fudge" by Gillicuddy