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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

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United Kingdom

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Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.

Language:

English


Episodes
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Episode 131 - Cheating Introduction

5/3/2024
Can you move from cheating to a “successful” polyamorous relationship and what needs to happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:24:24

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Episode 130 - Deprioritised

4/12/2024
If you know you’re being deprioritised and you just feel you can’t leave, can you actually make it work. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:26:26

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Episode 129 - Struggling to Be Together

3/29/2024
You can’t live your life only making decisions based on what will or won’t disappoint other adults. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:18:51

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Episode 128 - Stopping Emotions

3/8/2024
Is there really a way to stop your emotions in their tracks or fully control them especially if you’re in a difficult housing situation? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:18:09

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Episode 127 - Polyamory for Straight Dudes

3/1/2024
Giving my best recap of what straight men might face when it comes to the lifestyle of polyamory. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:13:41

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Episode 126 - Living With Partners

2/16/2024
Living with people is already hard but living with a new partner and a metamour you don’t have a connection with can add to the challenge. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:20:18

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Episode 125 - De-escalating from Polyamory

2/2/2024
Is there a way to do polyamory without doing polyamory or de-escalate when you figure out that polyamory is not for you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp⁠ for 10% off your first month. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:24:07

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Episode 124 - Reasonable Boundaries

1/19/2024
Knowing what boundaries are “reasonable” and which aren’t can be complicated in polyamory, especially when difficult feelings are involved. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:24:22

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Episode 123 - Keeping Things Equal

1/13/2024
How do you keep things equal between your partners especially when it comes to introducing them to family? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:19:00

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Episode 122 - Jealousy vs. Envy

12/22/2023
Sometimes long distance is difficult and the emotions it makes you feel aren’t always jealousy. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠⁠! Email ⁠⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:17:15

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Episode 121 - Q&A

12/8/2023
I asked on my Instagram @NonMonogamyHelp for people to submit questions they had. Here's the result! That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠⁠! Email ⁠⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:31:05

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Episode 120 - Forced Primary

11/17/2023
You’ve been happy as a secondary but slowly your partner is requesting more and more time after a recent breakup. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠⁠on my website⁠⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠⁠albery-jones.com⁠⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠⁠domduong.com⁠⁠! Email ⁠⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:21:12

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Episode 119 - Brutal Honesty

11/3/2023
Your partner outright tells you that they plan on prioritising someone over you. It’s harsh but is it what should happen? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode ⁠on my website⁠. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at ⁠albery-jones.com⁠ and the art was made by Dom Duong at ⁠domduong.com⁠! Email ⁠ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com⁠ with your question or record your question on ⁠nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:24:21

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Episode 118 - Don't Ask, Don't Tell

10/20/2023
When you agree to a DADT relationship with a closeted partner but it’s not moving fast enough into a more polyamorous relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:29:42

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Episode 117 - Metamour Management

10/6/2023
Sometimes knowing way too much about your partner’s relationship with their metamour can seriously impact your relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:25:42

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Episode 116 - Authentically Polyamorous

9/22/2023
Telling the difference between a couple of bad dates and polyamory just not being for you can sometimes be difficult. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:28:14

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Episode 115 - Compersion Required

9/8/2023
Is it unethical or wrong to not want to date someone who doesn’t feel compersion? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:22:07

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Episode 114 - Creeping Paranoia

8/25/2023
A partner who reacts to a little bit of paranoia by accusing you of calling them a liar isn’t the best sign of moving forward in conflict in a relationship. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:31:59

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Episode 113 - Slowly Losing Time

8/11/2023
You’re slowly and slowly losing the time you have with a metamour and you’re not quite sure how to navigate their boundaries around their time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:27:07

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Episode 112 - Happiness Is An Inside Job

7/28/2023
Staying with someone to make them happy may not be what you think it should be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/non-monogamy-help/message

Duration:00:25:59