Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

It's International Masturbation Month!! My guest is Kya Blackstone. Kya is a pleasure activist who believes that pleasure is a key component of living a wholehearted life. After noticing a gap in the market for intimate wellness products that focused on self-pleasure and catered to BIPOC women, Kya founded so(l)o. so(l)o creates all-natural, sustainable intimate wellness products that are specifically created for self-pleasure. Kya was so passionate about so(l)o that she quit her corporate gig and moved to Berlin....after a great deal of strategy and thought, of course. You can follow Kya’s life in Berlin on @brooklyntoberlin and follow so(l)o @mysoloislove on Instagram. Grab a bottle of Glow Intimacy Oil Formula No. 1 and use discount code Open15

This episode features Dr Chelsia Potts, an educator and content creator. Dr Potts and host Kristen Thomas discussed sex and neurodivergency. Have you found that when you're dating, it's easy to be all hot and heavy when you're still in the new relationship energy but then you suddenly feel disconnected? Are you overwhelmed once you have to merge the emotional and physical in a relationship? Worry that your autism or ADHD will prevent you from finding a caring and understanding partner? This episode is for you. Topics include: Aging, shifting, and unmasking - how we mourn removing our mask Dating with autism or ADHD Recognizing red flags Learning to build connections Overcoming shame Find Dr Potts TikTok @heavyonthedr Become a member of The Pitch and get a copy mailed got your house every month.

The conversation you are about to listen to between my guest D Rashaan Gilmore and I is...Maybe not going to make some of you very happy. Sorry, not sorry. I don't really care. We live in Missouri and we no longer have the time to mince words. Our conversation covered topics like houselessness, classism, voter apathy, and allyship. D Rashaan is a serial entrepreneur, community connector, organizer, collaborator, and an Emmy Award winner. He is particularly passionate about making a difference and has found a home for his voice in service of marginalized and stigmatized communities. He is the founder and CEO of BlaqOut, a grassroots movement organization that seeks to organize and mobilize the black LGBTQ community in Kansas City. Consider becoming a member of The Pitch for as little as $5 a month, you could get The Pitch delivered directly to your house no matter where you live.

I know I say this a lot, but I'm constantly excited about the guests that I have on the show. I'm extra excited about today's guest, Alicia Sinclair. She's also a Certified Sex Coach. We went through the same program at Sex Coach U. Sinclair is the CEO and founder of Children of the Revolution, which holds the brand's b vibe, Le Wand, and The Cowgirl. She'd already been in the sex toy industry for a long time before becoming a Sexologist, and when she saw that there were some holes to fill in that industry (wink, wink), specifically about pleasure education, she got her certification and started her own companies, and a pleasure revolution while she's at it. She believes heavily that education and pleasure go hand in hand. If you don't feel like you have learned enough about anal from me and my podcast, then you need to check out their Anal Academy. Also since it's Women's History Month, I asked her about women in history that she looks up to. We also discussed overcoming vibrator objections, favorite positions for integrating vibes with a partner, and what's next in sex tech. If you are not local to the Kansas City area, or just have not had a chance to pick up your copy of The Pitch on newsstands, read my March column Still Got It: Aging doesn't have to slow you down in the bedroom.

When my guest today came over to my office to hang out and chill one day a couple of weeks ago, I was intrigued with her because it was refreshing that we had had some pretty similar experiences, but this also seemed like someone I could learn some lessons from. Ellie Berland is a sacred life and business coach, and she is a big believer in pretty much everything can be seen as divine - that even includes your kinky side. Her pendulum has swung from purity culture into the poly lifestyle, and then into swinging, and now, into a celibate lifestyle as she learns more about herself. We talked about a lot of things in this episode, including BDSM and finding a Dom, connecting to your body, and learning to captain her own ship. Find Ellie on Instagram or her BioPage. Learn more about afterglow and use code XOKRISTEN to get a 7-day free trial.

Curator of the soon-to-be-unveiled KC Rainbow Tour Joel Barrett joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming. Joel shared stories of this city's queer past, including the influential 1966 meeting of the North American Conference of Homophile Organizations or NACHO, pronounced NAY-KOE, which was the ember of activism that helped spark the Gay Rights Movement; stories of an open lesbian Bunny at the Playboy Club named Lea Hopkins; the Jazz District; the Gay and Lesbian Archives of Mid-America; and Womantown. We also discussed showing respect via pronouns, finding long-lost gay family, and Anita Bryant. Find the KC Rainbow Tour on: Instagram JoelSpeaksOut.com Happy Singles Appreciation Day! Enjoy this playlist Single and Vibin' on Spotify.

Friend of the show Lucy Rowett, CSC primarily focuses on helping women and non-binary femmes with embodying pleasure. In this episode, Lucy and I are talking all about the variety of documentaries discussing sex cults and sex scandals, including NXIVM, Jerry Falwell Jr, Teal Swan, One Taste, among others. We covered some feel-good shows that are about sex, too, like How To Build A Sex Room and Goop Lab, as well as Sex, Love, and Goop. You can find Lucy at LucyRowett.com or Instagram.

Some of you are fresh out of Dry January and are wondering if you could be dating differently moving forward. Others of you have been sober for years and struggle with being bored on dates. Whether you're a sober dater or simply want fresh and creative date ideas, you'll love this episode of Keep Them Coming. Melissa and Kristen discussed tips for talking to your date about not drinking, where to find people besides a bar, and what Melissa finds sexy in a man. She went on 66 first dates, so she's got some opinions! Melissa Saubers is a Quantum Manifestation Teacher, Healer, Facilitator, and Coach, who has developed a holistic manifestation and healing approach rooted in science, psychology, and spirituality. She has a fascination for the subconscious mind, the quantum field, manifestation, and expanding consciousness and helps clients on their healing, expansion, and manifestation journeys with a variety of healing modalities including breathwork, quantum hypnosis, hypnotherapy, cacao, and energy healing. Melissa hosts many events around the Kansas City area including the weekly love-donation-based Sunset Breathwork event every Tuesday night at 7pm. Melissa can be found online at HealandExpand.com and on Instagram @MelissaSaubers Listen to Kristen's Red Light Special or Singles Appreciation playlist on Spotify. Try afterglow for 7 days FREE with the code XOKRISTEN: https://afterglow.ubpages.com/xokristen/

Ever wonder why men seem to be Mr. Wonderful at first but really start to show their asses after a few months? It's as if they couldn't keep up the act once they thought they had you hooked. You may have found a selfish short-term thinker rather than a generous long-term thinker. Chantal Heide - AKA Canada's Dating Coach - is a dating and relationship coach and expert. She's the author of 10 books (plus two workbooks), and it's her book, No More Assholes, that caught Kristen's attention on TikTok. Chantal is so good at dissecting situations and behavior. She mixes the nerdy science-y stuff with romantic actions to help people change their relationship trajectories. Topics include: how to stop fighting with your spouse, why no kissing for 90 days may be the bold dating move to change your life, dating after divorce, addressing mismatched libido, and much more. Find Chantal Heide on TikTok or Instagram, or grab her books on Amazon. Read my January 2023 column from The Pitch - Please Cancel My Monthly Subscription

Kristen is joined today by friend and fellow Sexologist Mieke Stapelberg. They met through Sex Coach U at a SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) workshop. What better time to make a friend, than when you're being your most vulnerable and exposing yourself to new things? In addition to talking about her some of her brands - including Mind Sex and Karma Mind - Mieke and Kristen talked about mental health, bias, stigma, self-reflection, and the recent Andrew Tate scandal, of course. They also discussed ethical porn and supporting sex workers. So there's a little bit of something in here for everyone! Find Mieke on Instagram @karmamind_

Back on Keep Them Coming for another episode - it's my friend, colleague, and co-host Kristine D'Angelo. She's a Portland based Certified Sex Coach and we are hosting a couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX in a few months. We discussed who our retreat is for and some of the topics we will cover. If you and your spouse or partner really love each other, buuut - come to the retreat and we will help you over come that "but". Also included - responsive desire, being an interesting partner, extreme unity vs extreme autonomy, empty nesters and divorce, and moving beyond talking about it to fixing it! Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information or to complete the interest form. You can get more of Kristine by going to doyoursexlifeafavor.com

Mariah Grant is the Director of Research and Advocacy for the Sex Worker Project at the Urban Justice Center. The midterms are coming, and if the blue wave succeeds, the conversations around decriminalizing sex work could result in action. In the meantime, we discussed ways that everyday people can reduce harm for sex workers. We also covered topics like the Safe Sex Worker Study Act, how to speak to legislators to drive change at the state level, and how cops aren't the answer in solving the current issues. Also, pay attention to where you spend your dollar. Lots of big corporations and banks discriminate against SWs. Find your way over to the Urban Justice Center's website and give them a donation! Visit rejuvenateintimacy.com for more information about my couples intimacy retreat in Puerto Vallarta, MX April of 2023.

CSC Kaci Mial joined KTC to discuss all things sex and pregnancy! We talked about the unique challenges that trying to conceive (TTC) couples face. She shared ways to relieve the pressure, to make sex less mechanical, and she provided some great resources for listeners. If you've ever been scared to have sex while pregnant, you need this episode! New moms, dad, and parents alike need support to adjust to their new role as parent and partner. Kaci also talk about what she thought, as a new Mom, was sexiest about her husband after she had their first child. Website : sexcoachkaci.com Email : sexcoachkaci@gmail.com Instagram : @SexCoachKaci ResourcesWhy Did No One Tell Me This? The Doula’s Honest Guide For Expectant Parents, Natalia Hailes and Ash Spivak (Pgs.185-186) And Baby Makes Three: The Six Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives, John Gottman PhD and Julie Scwartz Phd Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy, Stephanie Buehler Phd Planned Parenthood Reproductive Justice Timeline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkvGmGNKvSU&ab_channel=PPGNYAction

AJ Cheyfitz is both a sex therapist, as well as a kink and BDSM educator in the DC area. AJ taught me all about The Violet Wand, including great information about care, such as cleaning, safety protocols, and more. If you have been a BDSM or kink practitioner for a while, and you've been playing with different things that give you those stringy or those thuddy sensations, and you're looking for something a little bit more interesting, electricity play could be something for you to try.

My new friend, Anna Koehler, joined me. She and I are co-hosting a workshop coming up called Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date. If you feel like the pandemic has made you start holding back, something has made you feel like you're having a harder time putting yourself out there, or maybe you became single for the first time in a long time in the last couple of years. You're not alone. And we have solutions for you in this workshop! Ana also discussed her one woman show called Cold Showers. We threw in some of our ideas about how to get the second date. I also gave my opinion on who should pay for the check on the date. Found out that I got nominated for The Pitch's Best Of For 2022. I got nominated for two awards - Best TikTok and Best Local Personality. I'd appreciate your vote.

Dr. Amanda Olson is a Pelvic Floor Therapist and she treats a host issue. Her company Intimate Rose makes FDA approved medical devices to treat pelvic floor disorders. And Dr. Olson helped explain what the process is like when you first go and what the treatment journey can look like. On top of discussing the benefits of some of her devices, which I do have one on my office shelf, we also discussed some of the shifts that we have seen that have enabled growth in her industry. Gen Z is not putting up with not having answers and solutions to their pain, that's for sure! Mentioned in the episode intro: Workshop September 18th, 2022 Ask Me Out: How to approach them for a date

Friend and fellow Clinical Sexologist Erin Wallis has her hands full with 3 queer teens, including 2 that are transgender. In fact, no one in the house is straight! Her experiences in Cumming, Georgia are like something out of a novel. Have you ever had a pastor call your house to harass you? Erin was frank about the conversations and considerations about safety, playing sports, and having an exit plan. No parent should have to worry about their child's safety in the ways she does, but we are watching in real time as people are being emboldened by radical Christofacists. We both feel our fathers were radicalized by Fox News. I was very appreciative of her sharing her and her family's story (and everyone in the house gave her the green light to discuss their lives). Even if you don't have a household like the Wallis', you're sure to learn something from today's episode.

Breaking up is never fun nor easy, no matter how long you've been together. But, sometimes it's simply necessary. You should definitely consider some things before you make a final decision. Today's episode covers when is it time to break up with someone? How do you break up with someone effectively? And what should you do to get past a breakup?

Artist. friend, and Kinsey 6 Corey Green joined me to just kind of tell me the story of his life. I truly savor when I get the opportunity to hear someone tell me not only their coming out story, but also what was it like exploring sex, especially when you grew up where you didn't get much information about it. If you lived that small town teenage life, you will certainly appreciate Corey's tales. So, whether you have been considering how you can understand more about your proclivities for kink, understanding your queerness, and so much more, listening to this conversation can hopefully help you feel a little bit more comfortable with yourself. The answer to "am I normal?" is "yes!"

Thank you for joining me for another episode of keep them coming. Fair warning, the content of this episode is freaking amazing! However, I majorly f*cked up on my setup. I guess I didn't have it recording on my microphone. So...my apologies! Guest Katie M has several intersecting identities and it has made it challenging for them to date. Their identity can give people a lot of opportunities to make inaccurate assumptions. There's so much variety with asexuality. There almost is like no two that are truly alike. It can really just manifest in a variety of ways. So, if you've ever wondered what asexuality is like, Or you have heard of demisexuality, graysexuality, or sapiosexual and have questions, then this episode is absolutely for you. Also discussed in this episode - thoughts on pride, who are some influencers out there who are ACE or non-binary, and what have some asexual or ACE portrayals been like in movies and media. Also, what does queerness really look like and how can it be explored when it's removed from sex?You are absolutely guaranteed to learn something in this episode!