Pure Desire Podcast
Religion & Spirituality Podcas
A weekly podcast helping you take back your life from the effects of unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma.
Location:
United States
Description:
A weekly podcast helping you take back your life from the effects of unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma.
Language:
English
Episodes
356 - Reconciling Addiction & Theology
4/30/2024
When Christians are faced with the word “addiction,” there can be a significant reaction against something we don’t see clearly in Scripture. The word “addiction” doesn’t naturally seem to fit into our theological framework.
Today, we’re joined by author and speaker, Ben Bennett, to give us a new framework for reconciling addiction and theology. We explore how Scripture speaks directly to addiction, how to integrate psychology and theology, and how the recovery and healing journey can enhance our faith in Jesus.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Free To Thrive (Book)
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Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:01:16:44
355 - Porn & Mental Health
4/23/2024
The term “mental health” can be fuzzy. Are we talking about anxiety? Depression? Something more? All of the above?
Ben Bennett joins us today to talk about the connection between viewing pornography and mental health issues. Ben speaks of porn’s role in his personal battle with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations and how recovery impacts our mental health, our faith in Jesus, and our ability to follow Him.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
FASTER Scale
Seven Pillars of Freedom
Unraveled
Online Groups
Local Groups
Unwanted (Book)
Two Roads (John Lynch)
Pure Desire Counseling
Free To Thrive (Book)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:01:03:33
354 - Healthy Communication
4/16/2024
We all know communication is important. But what does healthy communication look like for a couple on the recovery and healing journey? Shari Chinchen, a Pure Desire Clinician, joins us today to discuss what makes communication healthy or unhealthy. We also discuss how to keep healthy communication a priority AND how to train our kids for healthy communication in their relationships.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
The Four Horsemen (Blog by Gottman Institute)
Pure Desire Counseling
FASTER Scale
Pure Desire Summit
Connected
Keep your Love On (Danny Silk)
Family Values Exercise
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:59:22
353 - Becoming A Compassionate Warrior
4/9/2024
Many men who’ve been through the Pure Desire recovery process have asked, “What’s after Seven Pillars of Freedom?” Well, today’s episode is all about answering this question. Clinician and speaker, Robert Vander Meer, joins us to talk about our new resource, The Compassionate Warrior (to which Robert contributed). We talk through what this resource is, how it helps men see their life and recovery through the lens of “story,” and how it helps create a lasting legacy of health.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
The Compassionate Warrior
Seven Pillars of Freedom
Hero With A Thousand Faces (Joseph Campbell)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:46:54
352 - Stories From The Church: Faith Chapel
4/2/2024
Today, we get to hear from Robert Nelson and Annie Burt (staff members at Faith Chapel in Billings, Montana). Robert and Annie talk us through their journey of implementing Pure Desire groups and resources at Faith Chapel. We talk through initial hurdles, challenges they’ve faced, the fruit they’re seeing from their efforts, and lots in between.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Betrayal & Beyond
Unraveled
Sexual Integrity 101
Conquer Series (Soul Refiner)
Seven Pillars of Freedom
Group Leader Training
Fearless Series
Immanuel Garraway (Church Relations Specialist)
Connected
Pure Desire Counseling
Free Tools
Have PD Come Speak
Pure Desire Summit
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:01:16:22
351 - FAQ #17
3/26/2024
Today’s episode is one of our favorites! We have another Frequently Asked Questions episode where you, the listener, has sent in topical questions for us to discuss. We are joined by Traci Wright, one of our beloved clinicians, to talk about idolizing recovery, anniversaries of trauma, disclosure in dating and engagement, and more.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Pure Desire Online Groups
Connected
Pure Desire Counseling
FREE 15 Minute Counseling Consultation
Seven Pillars Of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)
Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)
Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)
SA
Cliff & Joyce Penner
IITAP
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:56:32
350 - Slippery Slopes
3/19/2024
Though true healing and freedom from sexual addiction and brokenness is possible, it doesn’t mean the journey will be easy. The world we live in is still hyper-sexualized and full of things that can pull us away from health. On today’s episode, we talk about slippery slopes—areas or aspects of our lives that can be problematic in our sexual health. And there may be some that surprise you! We talk about what can be a slippery slope, how to be mindful of them, and what to do to ensure we don’t slide back down the hill of unhealth.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
FASTER Scale
Three Circles
Thoughts/Feelings Log
Crash Site Analysis
Tech Action Plan
Pure Desire Online Groups
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation
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Duration:01:00:27
349 - PTSD & Betrayal
3/12/2024
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is often associated with major trauma—wartime experiences, rape, and abuse. Studies increasingly show that PTSD is also experienced by betrayed partners. Rather than ignore or minimize it, let’s do something about it.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Betrayal & Beyond
Dr. Steffens Research
Stress Index
The Body Keeps The Score
Pure Desire Groups
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:56:55
348 - 7 Lies That Will Ruin Your Life w/ Joshua Broome
3/5/2024
For those who regularly listen to the show, we have a return guest. This guy has shared his story about the journey from porn star to a pastor.
Today, we’re excited to have Joshua Broome back on the show to talk about his new book, 7 Lies That Will Ruin Your Life. We talk through all seven lies, identifying how they impact sexual brokenness and disrupt our healing. We also discuss some initial steps we can take to combat these lies and reclaim God’s truth in our lives.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
7 Lies That Will Ruin Your Life (Joshua’s book)
Joshua’s TikTok
Joshua’s Twitter
Joshua’s Instagram
Share The King (Joshua’s Ministry)
Joshua’s Website
Killing Kryptonite (John Bevere’s book)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:51:31
347 - Living UnDEFILED w/ Matt McCaulley & Kevin Whisman
2/27/2024
We know sex trafficking exists in our world and is a growing problem. But it’s not something that’s talked about in many faith communities.
On today’s episode, we’re going to talk about it! We’re thrilled to have Matt McCaulley and Kevin Whisman on the show: two guys who have spent the last few years writing, directing, and producing a full-length feature film called unDEFILED. We’ll talk about Pure Desire’s involvement in creating a follow-up study to the film and how sex trafficking is connected to sexual brokenness.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Light of Life Films (LOLF)
UnDefiled Movie
Living UnDEFILED (Follow Up Study)
LOLF socials
https://www.facebook.com/lightoflifefilms
https://www.facebook.com/undefiledmovie
UnDEFILED trailer (YouTube)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:36:07
346 - Myth Busters: Marriage Will Fix It
2/20/2024
“Just wait until I get married, then it will all get better.” These words have either been said or thought by many of us in the church. We assume being married and having sex with our spouse will rid us of our sexual brokenness or compulsive behaviors. Unfortunately, this is a myth.
On today’s episode, our Clinical Director, Tyler Chinchen, joins us to talk through why this myth exists, the damage it creates, and how to work against it.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Seven Pillars of Freedom
Unraveled
Betrayal & Beyond
Pure Desire Counseling
GET STARTED
Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:46:07
345 - In Sickness & In Health
2/13/2024
When addiction, brokenness, and betrayal enter a marriage, it can significantly impact a couple’s sexual relationship. Unfortunately, sexual brokenness and betrayal are not the only things that can hijack a couple’s sex life.
On today’s episode, we’re joined by Brent and Nicole Breining, who are part of the Pure Desire family. Brent, a clinician for Pure Desire, and his wife, Nicole, share how some major life events limited their sexual relationship. They talk through how to stay committed and connected, specifically in the area of sex, in sickness and in health.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Betrayal & Beyond
PD Counseling
Full Disclosure Process (product)
Connected
Genesis Process
Eight Dates (John Gottman book)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:01:08:09
344 - The Order Of Intimacy w/ Phil & Priscilla Fretwell
2/6/2024
For many of us who are on the recovery and healing journey, understanding the full scope of intimacy can be confusing. If you’re in this camp, you won’t want to miss this episode! We are excited to have Phil and Priscilla Fretwell on the show today! They are co-founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and authors of Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction —their story of addiction, betrayal, and freedom that they use to help others find healing. They join us to talk through the order of intimacy, what intimacy is, the different types of intimacy, and how it transformed their lives and relationships.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Savage Marriage Ministries
Savage Marriage Book
FASTER Scale (Tool)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:51:02
343 - Preventing Relapse (Principles of Recovery)
1/30/2024
Relapse is returning to the place we promised God, ourselves, or others we wouldn’t go back to. So preventing relapse is a worthy goal. But can relapse be prevented proactively and practically? The answer: yes. On today’s episode, Mike Maxwell leverages his many years in recovery and leading Pure Desire groups to help us learn tools and techniques for preventing relapse.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
The Compassionate Warrior
Three Circles (Tool)
FASTER Scale (Tool)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:49:42
342 - Honesty In Community (Principles of Recovery)
1/23/2024
It’s difficult to understate the importance of community in recovery. But honesty in community isn’t easy. It requires intention and a willingness to be fully known. Dishonesty leads to shame and isolation. Honesty leads to freedom. Brent Breining, a Pure Desire Clinician, joins us today to discuss how to break secrecy, how to be honest in daily life, and why this actually matters.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Recovery Resource For Women
Recovery Resource For Men
Resource for Betrayed Spouses (Women)
FASTER Scale
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:52:26
341 - Healing Our Trauma (Principles of Recovery)
1/16/2024
Unprocessed trauma has a way of making itself known. Triggers reveal areas in our life where something isn’t quite right. If we’re not willing to address these areas, they can become a major obstacle in our relationships, workplace advancement, and breaking free from addiction. Heather Kolb is on the podcast today to talk about how the brain processes trauma and how we heal from trauma.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Altogether You (Book)
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:54:59
340 - Addressing Our Shame (Principles of Recovery)
1/9/2024
Shame is often used as a motivator. But shame only motivates us to do one thing: hide. Shame causes us to hide because we start to believe the lie that our mistakes and missteps are proof that we are disqualified to receive love and acceptance. But Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection are evidence of the immense worth and value of humans. Rodney Wright joins us today to talk about why shame perpetuates the cycle of addiction and how we can break free from its grip.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Recovery Resource For Women
Recovery Resource For Men
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:51:22
339 - Breaking Free From Isolation (Principles of Recovery)
1/2/2024
Solitude is an intentional time alone for renewal and centering yourself on God. Isolation is a pattern of disengaging from or intentionally not engaging in relationship with others. In this episode, we identify what isolation is, how it’s different from solitude, and why isolation is like gasoline on the addictive fire.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Recovery Resource For Women
Recovery Resource For Men
Three Circles
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
Schedule Your Free 15-Minute Counseling Consultation
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Duration:00:41:32
338 - 'Tis The Season: Attainable Goals
12/26/2023
When we get toward the end of the year, setting new goals perpetually comes up. Why is this? And how can we create goals we’ll actually stick to? Our clinical director, Tyler Chinchen, joins us on today’s episode to talk about yearly goals, how to set them, how to maintain them, and why they matter on the recovery and healing journey.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
The Compassionate Warrior
Unraveled Kit (Resource for women who struggle)
Find An Online Group
Start Counseling
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:41:51
337 - ‘Tis The Season: Proactive Self-Care
12/19/2023
Self-care isn’t selfish. Yet, establishing rhythms of self-care can impact the people around us both positively and negatively. If we want to practice proactive self-care, it will require an intentional, thought-out plan that is communicated to our loved ones. Kelly Johnston, our Online Women's Groups Coordinator, is on the podcast today discussing how to maintain self-care, how to find things that qualify as self-care, and why all of this is especially important during the holiday season.
RESOURCES
Full Episode Video (YouTube)
Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)
Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)
Pure Desire Online Groups
Kelly Johnston’s Email
Kelly’s Blog On Shalom
Three Circles Tool
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Free eBook: 7 Keys To Understanding Betrayal Trauma
Free eBook: 5 Steps to Freedom From Porn
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Duration:00:53:31