Pivot Parenting

The role of mother can be very lonely. We don't want to blab our teen's struggles to our friends, we are pulled in every direction, trying to be there for everyone, all while the list of things to do grows by the day. Why is it important to have friends amidst the chaos and how does one go about fostering meaningful friendships amongst everything else? This is exactly what Jody and I discuss today in Pivot Parenting. Women need each other and this isn't a selfish thing. Listen in as we break it down and Jody gives us the one hack to remember in friendly interactions. To learn more about parenting your teen and order my best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: After having her first two kids, Jody Moore struggled with work/life balance, embracing motherhood, and liking herself. As an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints she felt guilty for not loving the role of mother and wife, and turned to life coaching for help. The transformation she experienced not only helped her at work and at home, it strengthened her testimony of Christ leading her to dive into learning the tools of coaching and to leave her position as a corporate leadership coach to launch her own coaching practice. Jody is certified through The Life Coach School and completed Master Coach Certification in 2018. Today, as an LDS Life Coach, Jody has helped tens of thousands of people through her top-rated podcast Better Than Happy as well as her coaching membership program Be Bold. She has 4 children ages 7 – 17 and resides in Spokane, Washington with them, her husband, and their French bulldog Finn, mini cavapoo Milo, and cat Oscar. Website: https://jodymoore.com/masterclass/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodymoorecoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jodymoorecoaching/

Today I have Jennifer on to talk about all things consent, self- abandonment, teaching healthy sexuality, and advocacy. I get that talking about such topics can feel awkward, intimidating, and confusing as to how to go about it. Stress no more! One of my favorite things Jennifer said was, "if you want someone's approval it puts you at a disadvantage." She was referencing the story of my first kiss, which I tell in my book, How I Fixed My Teen, and how I really wanted him to like me and how I let things go too far in an effort to win his approval... and also because I totally froze. We talk about that as well. You don't want to miss listening in as we spill all the tea in the best of ways. To order the book that we reference, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About Jennifer: I am a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. I wrote my dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, and have taught college-level courses on human sexuality. I currently teach online courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, I offer limited private and group coaching services to individuals and couples who have benefitted from my podcasts and courses and are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships. I am a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts, including the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” podcast series. My husband and I are the parents of three children and are active members of the LDS church. You can find Jennifer at: finlayson-fife.com

Many parenting issues boil down to one specific struggle: Confidence. Advocating for our kid, standing up to them, following through with consequences, loving unconditionally, having peace, and so many other things all have this common root struggle. Today, Tony and I discuss the details and help you find more confidence and therefore less struggle and more joy. To learn more about parenting and order best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest, Tony: So, you may be asking yourself…How did this guy become so interested in Women’s Confidence? My path to standing here, in front of you right now, is 100% because of my daughter…my amiga…my best buddy…Rachel. Our story begins when she was about one. That’s when Rachel’s mom and I parted ways and circumstances led to me being a single dad at the age of 27. Here I was raising a daughter on my own. A daughter…a gender of the human species that I thought I knew about, but in reality, had absolutely no clue! Although I didn’t know it at the time, it was the beginning of ‘girl’s world’ bootcamp for this guy and it changed my life. For the better. That epiphany led me to lean into my passion for helping others through therapy and coaching. I went back to grad school at 30 to get my Psych degree. Then my doctorate. In 2011, I opened my own counseling and coaching company, which in turn led to the “She Talks Confidence” podcast, YouTube channel (Tony Dufresne, PhD), and the book (Surrounded by Idiots). My podcast, speaking engagements, and online True Confidence program are labors of love that have come from three decades of success, failure, setbacks, challenges, breakthroughs, and comebacks. Find all things Tony at tonydufresne.com

There are a few specific key ingredients to effectively correcting and guiding our kids and they may not be what you think they are. Discipline is a necessary part of parenting and greatly influences the trajectory of their self-esteem, confidence, emotional skill level and general life satisfaction. Too little talked about, but a giant portion of parental responsibility, I'm taking the bull by the horns in showing you that discipline is not scary, impossible or even has to be a negative experience. Listen in as I share the "why", "what" and "how" of discipline. To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Routine is shown to help manage stress and anxiety, help in productivity and make life feel generally better. Enter, a parents morning routine. Helping teens get out the door each day, fitting in time for ourselves while doing all of the other things on the list can feel daunting. In todays Pivot Parenting episode, I chat with morning routine expert, Ahna Fulmer. We discuss all of the things: why it can be helpful, how it can work for everyone, when one should begin a routine and everything in between. To learn more about parenting your teen, and ordering my best seller, How I Fixed my Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my Ahna Fulmer: am passionate about helping women Rise Well A dual-certified nurse practitioner with 10 years of emergency medicine experience, I want to empower you with practical, data-driven strategies to rise emotionally, mentally, physically, socially, and spiritually well, fulfilling your God-given purpose with more confidence and joy – one imperfect day at a time. Whether you join me in the Early Morning Habit™, a premier virtual program helping busy women rise well with a morning routine that starts each day with God’s Word and a workout while offering hope to a child waiting to be adopted into a forever family, on my top-rated health & fitness podcast, imPERFECTly emPOWERed™, or on the blog here at ahnafulmer.com, you will be inspired to embrace imperfection as perfectly beautiful and mistakes as part of your unmistakable uniqueness. Because your story matters and YOU ARE LOVED. Get Ahna's free guide: Busy Woman's Morning Guide

"Time heals all wounds." "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" "Blood is thicker than water." We've all heard antidotal phrases that sound nice but may not feel as good. The truth is, within families we wound each other. Sometimes unknowingly, sometimes with the best of intentions to be helpful, and sometimes out of our own anger and emotions to hurt another. Maybe time alone isn't going to heal what we said. Perhaps our teen doesn't think their painful family ties are thicker than friend ties. Maybe mom's feelings shouldn't be the object of everyones efforts... In todays Pivot Parenting episode I break down the pain caused within family relationships and how we can work to repair them better than ignoring, spending time and money to win favor back, or otherwise manipulating them into forgiveness. The good news is, you don't need to be perfect- never upsetting them or getting it wrong. (Even when it's out of anger and we meant to lash out in the moment.) Listen in as I explain the very simple, one step process of how to effectively repair relationship wounds. To learn more about parenting your teen, or to order my Amazon best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It's common that our kid's teen years intersect with loss. The passing of our parents (their grandparents), their peers, pets, and even loss that isn't death- loss of friendships, anticipated futures (like making the team or getting the part) and other hoped for expectations that never become realized. Grief is a hard time for us and our kids. It can feel awkward and we may not know how to approach it or help them, so we often do nothing. There is a better way to help our kids and ourselves through inevitable dark times. Tune in as I talk with grief expert, @lifecoachkrista about grief myths, what is helpful, what isn't, and what is normal for grief as a family. To learm more about parenting your teen and ordering my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista’s website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/

When they say... "I know, I know" "Thats not what you said..." "It wasn't because of me, they caused it" "WHY ARE YOU SO MAD! you hate me, I can never do anything right!" There are many ways our teens justify, deny and avoid being wrong. Why? This drives parents crazy and then it just gets worse. Fighting, us refusing to be wrong, nit-picking details, and causing strain on our relationship. But did you know, that when we approach our never-in-the-wrong teen properly, we can foster connection and strengthen our love? Tune-in to find out how. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen or order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It can feel like our teens are a shrouded mystery of hormones and hoodies... until now! Today I have a teen therapist, Ashley Hudson, on Pivot Parenting to discuss how their behavior makes sense and what they mean when they say things like, "I Hate you!", give you the silent treatment, lie, or coddle your feelings. You don't want to miss our informative conversation! To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Ashley Hudson is a mother of 3 boys, licensed teen therapist, and parent coach, with over 12 years of experience. Her group private practice, Ashley Hudson Therapy, is based in Orange County, CA, focusing on empowering adolescents and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, sport performance anxiety, grief, and parent-child relational conflicts. Drawing from her extensive experience working with thousands of teenagers, Ashley loves working with parents of teenagers and helping them reconnect with their teens. Ashley has created online parenting courses: The Connected Parent and Social Media & Your Teen designed to help parents establish open communication and build meaningful connections with their teens. You can follow her on instagram @ashleyhudsontherapy or the links below. https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/connectedparent https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/social-media-and-your-teen

When you're stuck and feel like it's never enough, you try and try, but end up exhausted with little to show for it. When you feel like you're holding on sooo tight but still feel unstable. When everything is so obiviously one thing or another but also nothing will conform to your way of seeing it... You may be getting in your own way of parental happiness with a "check-the-box" parenting approach. Listen in as I describe how and why we have boxes and what to do when they're pretty in theory but causing a huge problem in reality. xoxo To learn more about parenting and order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It's infuriating when our teens yell, swear, rant, take it out on us and their siblings... Having an angry teen is one of the common complaints I hear from parents. Listen to this weeks episode of Pivot Parenting as I break it down: Why this happens and what to do about it. There are better solutions then yelling back, cowering from them, or jumping through hoops trying to avert their wrath and win their favor. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen and to order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We invest in real-estate, the stock market, cryptocurrency, NFT's and other forms of business.. but what about our kids? Parenting isn’t a vending machine, its a charity, and education, and in invitation to evolve. Listen in as I break down some unexpected returns when we think of our kids as something we deserve a return on. To learn more about parenting your teen and order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Tune in as I highlight 10 common tricks our brains pull on us that sabotage our best parenting. We all do them, but don't worry, once you learn to recognize them you'll never unwittingly fall victim to them again. Knowing whats what is the biggest hurdle to overcome in being your best parenting self. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Being wrong is bad, right? nope, it's magic. Come with me on a journey of finding peace and freedom in the simple embrace of one basic truth. It will immediately and forever positively effect the way you interact with your children and self. If things aren't shifting and you're about to throw in the towel when it comes to your teens, this could be exactly what's missing. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com

Feeling triggered? Life and teens have a way of lighting up our nervous systems. Our brains are very complex beautiful helps to life- until they aren't. In today's episode I break down how we can use our brain's instincts to help us rather than leave us in the, post-yelling (or passive aggressive, or totally avoiding them and everyone) slump of shame. If you've ever thought: "why did I just do that? Why couldn't I have responded better, what's going on that I can't be the parent I want to be?!" Then this episode is your key to understanding so that you can feel like you're back in the drivers seat of how you behave, see things, and parent. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, and check out my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

All of the things we don't want our teens doing: Drugs, sex, porn, suicidal ideation, cheating, lying, vaping.... there's a common thing parents tend to say. Repeatedly. "How did I NOT know!??" There are specific reasons parents do this and effects this has. Tune in to understand and therefore have more power and peace in your parenting. To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

With kids, a spouse, a household to run, work, friends and family, it's easy to feel like there isn't enough of us to go around. We want to be there for our teens, we also have so much going on that we don't want to drop the ball on. We're falling into bed, dead on our feet, not having done it all, feeling defeated. Tune in to todays Pivot Parenting episode as I talk about coaching so many parents on this tired, lonely spot that we all find ourselves in. There's a two step fix to the issue, and I'm here to help you with it. To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and check out all of my parenting resources, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Is modesty a key player in your home? Is it what they're wearing? Is it how they act? Are modesty and sexuality linked together? Let's discuss all things teens, modesty, sexuality, appearance, and how to parent through all of it. It can be tricky, as many adults are uncomfortable around these topics, but they're important to help our teens navigate. I never shy away from an awkward discussion, so lets go! To preorder, How I Fixed My Teen, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parents like to help. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes it's not. Want to know what makes the difference? Listen to this weeks episode to find out. It's the deciding factor for if the help will actually help or hinder. To learn more about parenting your teen and to preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com xoxo

We say we want one thing- Love, kindness, quality relationships... But sometimes our behaviors give us away. It's easy to prioritize chores, grades, and obedience above what we think we want. There's an easy explanation as to why we do this. There's also a simple fix. I've got a simple exercise for you that will expose if your parenting actions align with your values. Want to make 2024 your best year? The one where you feel calm, in control and at peace? Let me show you how. Ready to align your values and your parenting? Tune in to this weeks Pivot Parenting episode to learn how. xoxo To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com