Cheating: When Love Lies
Marriage
Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions.
Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves.
On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking.
Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?
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United States
Description:
Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions. Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves. On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking. Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?
Language:
English
Episodes
A Renowned Matchmaker On Infidelity & What His Clients Won’t Tolerate
5/7/2024
Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy, Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the world who are seeking a traditional wife. So….how many of you are scratching your heads right now in disbelief that the traditional wife role still exists? And how many of you are thinking “finally- we’re going back to the way things should be.” Also, is this “one stays at home and the other one works” paradigm relevant to same-sex couples? Let’s hear what my guest has to say. Let’s find out what high net worth men from all over the world are looking for in a wife. Not all wealthy men, but some-and most definitely Edwige International clients. Is the Trad Wife a walk back into the fifties or a strut into the future? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. IG is @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows.
Duration:00:28:15
My Husband’s Affair Partner Stalked, Taunted & Harassed Me
4/30/2024
Sometimes an angry affair partner attacks her married lover, his wife and even his children. The affair partner will stalk, cyber stalk, physically attack or threaten her married lover’s wife, children, and extended family in order to taunt, threaten or intimidate them. These affair partners are sometimes called bunny boilers, based on the mentally unstable mistress character in the 80s hit movie Fatal Attraction. My guest Helen spent years facing down her own real life bunny boiler. Join marriage coach and Soulifywellness founder Beth Miller and me as Helen tells how hundreds of phone calls from her husband’s affair partner turned into full blown harassment. Then find out how Helen fought back against the abuse to reclaim her peace. To be a guest on the show please write to Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. IG is @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:35:14
My Boyfriend Fooled Me, 2 Couples Therapists and His Unsuspecting Lovers
4/23/2024
There are times when your partner’s lies, deception, and gaslighting are so carefully crafted and meticulously masked, he not only fools you, he hoodwinks multiple women and your professionally trained relationship counselors. What happens when the full extent of his deception is revealed? Is it just another bad breakup, or are the implications much greater than that? My guest whose real name is Samantha experienced this level of deception. Samantha says the deception changed her outlook on life and deeply affected her family and friends. Has this happened to you? Could this ever happen to you? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:37:31
Blindsided by Betrayal That Nearly Broke Me
4/16/2024
Being blindsided by an affair or a divorce can bring you to your knees. Even the seemingly most powerful people who are typically in command of their careers and their lives can become petrified by fear and anxiety. This is exactly what happened to my guest Rob Malkani. Now Rob counsels people just like himself who were blindsided by divorce and sometimes the affairs that lead to them. Rob has taken all that he’s experienced and learned during the course of his own traumatic 7 year divorce to help others. Surprisingly, most of the people he counsels are those you’d never expect would need him the most. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:29:06
Should You Confront Your Spouses Lover?
4/9/2024
How many wives would choose to meet their husband's lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let's call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his lover and her husband. But when Tiffany told me how her husband's young lover described their affair, I thought "Wow - this husband really got duped!" Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:28:17
I Caught My Boyfriend Messaging Trans Men
4/2/2024
You meet a guy and he love bombs you. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, it's when a guy first meets you and showers you with compliments, gifts and attention, and tells you "I love you" though he barely knows you at all. You fall for this and you suddenly you're wrapped up in a faux romance that's often the precursor to emotional and sometimes physical abuse. This is what happened to my guest today whom we'll call Genevieve. But this was just the tip of the iceberg after years of cover ups and abuse that plagued Genevieve's relationship. Join me as we hear her story of how time and time again Genevieve believed her boyfriend and many other men she thought she knew, but discovered she really didn't know at all. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com.IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Please like, subscribe and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:37:35
Your Partner’s Secret Obsession With Instagram Models
3/25/2024
On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:00:54:44
Don’t Let Your Husband’s Affair Partner Intimidate You
3/19/2024
Imagine your husband’s former affair partner belongs to your church, is a mom at your kids’ school, a member of your club, or is even your neighbor. What if proximity means you could end up seeing her all the time? Would you avoid going to those places where she could be? Would you make yourself scarce when you know she might be around in order to save yourself from embarrassment or confrontation? Join me and Beth Miller, marriage counselor and founder of Soulifywellness to hear how after dreading the thought of running into her husband’s lover, Monica shows strength, conviction and dignity when she comes face-to-face with the woman who tore her world apart. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com
Duration:00:35:08
Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?
3/12/2024
Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet?
Duration:00:43:32
Why “Mr. Nice Guy” Is The Cheater You’ll Never Suspect
3/5/2024
Nice guys versus bad boys. Bad boys are the ones you fantasize about, you’re dying to date, and want to have sex with. Nice guys are safe because they’re trustworthy, faithful, and honest. “Not true,” says my guest Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and author of “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Nice guys he says, are constantly holding up a facade of good and acceptable behavior to make people like them, while they hide parts of themselves they don’t want people to see. All this pretending makes nice guys dishonest. And dishonest people cheat. If all this is true does that mean we can’t trust the bad boys or the nice guys? Join me as Robert debunks the nice guy myth. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Dr. Robert Glover: drglover.com nomoremrniceguy.com datingessentialsformen.com
Duration:00:26:02
He Says He’s Committed, But Acts Like He’s Single
2/27/2024
Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It’s different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we’ll call Lisa — she was tortured her husband’s lying. Lisa found out about her husband’s affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her question if what her husband was saying was in fact was he was doing. Join me and relationship coach and founder of Soulify Wellness, Beth Miller to talk about what happens when a cheating partner says they’re committed to fixing the marriage, but acts with the same suspicious, inconsistent, red flag behavior they’ve always had. Lisa is here to share her story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com
Duration:00:39:48
CHEATING HUSBAND AFRAID TO LEAVE 16 YEAR AFFAIR PARTNER
2/20/2024
For President's Day we are featuring one of our favorite past episodes. My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks about his guilt and deep self loathing for having this 16 year affair, and about his quandary: should he leave his affair partner who appeared to be falling apart? This is a guilt ridden, shamed and fragile man. Join me to hear his story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamilton podcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for show highlights. Please like, subscribe and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.
Duration:01:00:38
The One Simple Fact About Your Partner It’s Critical That You Know
2/13/2024
You find out your spouse has been living a secret life with an affair partner for 4 years while you suffer in your barren, sexless marriage that you hold together for the kids. You immediately file for divorce. Now you’re free and you rediscover your sexuality and erotic fantasies with a new, sexy partner. Sounds dreamy right? Nope. For my guest whom we’ll call Laura, her new relationship became her biggest nightmare: so horrible, so unimaginably awful she’s convinced she can get never find love again. What happens when your new relationship starts to feel as traumatic as your soon-to-be-ex husband’s affair? Join me, marriage coach Beth Miller of soulifywellness and our guest Laura to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com
Duration:00:53:02
The Crazy, Illogical Lie I Concocted To Hide My Affair
2/6/2024
A cheating husband who is remorseful, openly apologetic and more committed to his wife than ever: that’s just one of my guests today. My other guest is his wife who forgives her husband and believes that their marriage is finally a “real marriage” ever since he’s confessed, become sober and committed to intense therapy. But before this couple got here, the husband (whom we’ll call Greg) did something so outrageous, so manipulative and so underhanded to try and hide his affair, that it’s worthy of cinematic screenplay. In fact his wife Brenda (not her real name) said: You think you’ve heard just about every cheating story or affair cover up possible? Well just wait until you hear this. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:38:30
How I Turned His Cheating and Betrayal Into A Thriving Business
1/30/2024
Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess and turned it into her message. Join me to hear her journey of turning heart break and betrayal into a unique and thriving relationship app. Clara for Daters is an app that you can use to radically transform and enhance how you date and evaluate your romantic relationships. Clarafordaters.com @clarafordaters Be a guest on Cheating: When Love Lies: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:45:41
I Found Out My Boyfriend Was A Cheater At His Memorial Service
1/23/2024
This week we are bringing back a fan favorite. You think you're in a committed relationship. You and your boyfriend are nesting with his daughter and living as a family in what feels like a dream. Then one day your boyfriend is killed in a tragic accident. Overcome with grief, you host his memorial service only to find out that several of the women attending are also in a relationship with your boyfriend. This real life tragedy happened to country music sensation, Stephanie Quayle. Stephanie shares her story in her album called “On The Edge.” Join me to hear this deeply emotional story of cheating, grief and betrayal that Stephanie has kept silent for more than 12 years. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-the-edge-with-stephanie-quayle/id1674241152 @stephaniequayle Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:36:00
Your Subconscious Keeps Picking The Cheater
1/15/2024
For years the buzzword was attracting, as in “you attract the partner you have in your life.” Then the term “manifesting” took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner. But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps clients to stop acting out toxic behaviors in a promising relationship by using what he calls a Schema Framework. This Schema Framework ends the toxic patterns, freeing clients to build healthy, intimate, infidelity free relationships. Dr. Vahedi wants to celebrate 2024! Go to his Instagram @drsajadvahedi to find out about limited complimentary sessions he’s making available to Cheating: When Love Lies listeners. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been effected by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:36:17
When Is An Affair Just A Distraction From Your Real Problems?
1/9/2024
Think about the chaos that ensues from any love triangle. Is it two people vying for one person’s love, or (at times) is it a melodrama that distracts people from their legitimate life problems? How many times is an affair, whether we are a cheater or a betrayed partner, just a means of distracting ourselves from real hurt and pain in other parts of our lives? My guest Sandy may be emblematic of this. Sandy invests so much time and energy into her live-in cheating boyfriend even though something immeasurably more important in her life demands her full attention. Is Sandy chasing love or just a dramatic distraction to ease her deep pain? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you
Duration:00:27:36
Can You Trust Your Spouse On A Business Trip?
1/2/2024
Tom "The Suit" Forst has been touring the world as what one critic calls a "blues ass-kicker" for decades. He's traveled the world without his wife as a blues musician and before that as "a suit" in the corporate world. Because of this, Tom has an up close and personal view of how tempting cheating and affairs on the road can be. In our talk, Tom gets vulnerable, raw, and very real as he shares anecdotes about life on the road, and reveals how infidelity has at times become a theme in his music. Fans of Tom "The Suit" Forst will also hear snippets from his latest album the "World Of Broken Hearts". Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:49:30
When Your Spouse’s Affair Is The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You
12/26/2023
Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon’s husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon’s baby shower. Josh’s wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both lived through the pain of an affair, but just like the blessings of the Holiday season, they unexpectedly found joy and hope after one of the most heartbreaking experiences of their lives. Their stories are a true holiday inspiration! Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!
Duration:00:56:12