Dirty Nanay: A Nod to the Unfiltered Filipino American Mother
Family
Dirty Nanay is hosted by Filipinx American mom pals Rissa and Zee. In typical mom fashion, the bottles pop open once the kids are asleep, mom lenses are off, and we become unfiltered "dirty nanays" that have the liquid courage to talk about unique experiences of Filipinx parenthood and to rail against unnecessary parenthood expectations exacerbated by white supremacy. This is dedicated to all our listeners. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Now sit back, relax, get your drankkk ready (i.e. San Miguel, lambanog, Crown, etc.) and enjoy the sweet sounds of shit talking with Rissa and Zee.
Location:
United States
Genres:
Family
Description:
Dirty Nanay is hosted by Filipinx American mom pals Rissa and Zee. In typical mom fashion, the bottles pop open once the kids are asleep, mom lenses are off, and we become unfiltered "dirty nanays" that have the liquid courage to talk about unique experiences of Filipinx parenthood and to rail against unnecessary parenthood expectations exacerbated by white supremacy. This is dedicated to all our listeners. YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Now sit back, relax, get your drankkk ready (i.e. San Miguel, lambanog, Crown, etc.) and enjoy the sweet sounds of shit talking with Rissa and Zee.
Language:
English
Episodes
EP 021 - Dirty (& Sandwiched) Nanay: Living In The "Sandwich Generation"
1/6/2023
Being a part of the Sandwich Generation can feel really burned and sticky all at the same time. What is the Sandwich Generation, you ask? "We are the generation of people, typically in their 30s or 40s, responsible for bringing up their own children and for the care of their aging parents." Zee and Rissa discuss how this shows up for them, the sacrifices made to make sure the peanut butter of their parents and the jelly of their children are healthy and happy, the conflict that shows up with...
Duration:01:57:52
EP 020 - Dirty (& Scared) Nanay: Let's get spooky!
10/31/2022
It's that time of the year when Zee and Rissa contemplate their decision to feature a scary Halloween episode! Zee and Rissa invite a friend in this scarefest of an episode to tell Filipinx scary stories, hypothesize how monsters smell, dialogue about unexpected sources of fear, explore a Filipinx mythological creature, and play a bastardized version of D&D just so they have a variety of flavors to inspire dread when the lights turn off.
xoxo,
Rissa & Zee
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Duration:02:12:54
EP 019 - Dirty (& Transitioning) Nanay: The Unicorn Episode
10/30/2022
***NOTE: This episode was recorded in September 2022***
Transitions are hard! It's like living in constant limbo. Zee and Rissa get philosophical and process the concept of changes and transition and how that plays into our world as parents, as working moms, and as human beings with lots of different roles we cherish. It's like living in constant limbo without the certain of... well, certainty.
xoxo,
Rissa & Zee
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Duration:01:57:35
EP 018 - Dirty (& Ageless) Nanay: Age Ain't Nothing But A Number
7/29/2022
Be a doctor at 23, get married by 26, have babies at 27 (make sure it's twins so you get your multiples done!), find an uninhabited new island and claim it your own by 30. Ever feel this low (maybe high?) hum pressure of needing to fulfill these things by 30 or else you're labeled as a failure? Zee and Rissa delve into these arbitrary timeline expectations and talk about how this showed up for them, how it continues to impact them, and what they intend to do to protect their kids from these...
Duration:01:59:29
EP 017 - Dirty (& Friendly) Nanay: Maintaining Friendships
6/25/2022
Ah the magic of friendship! In this episode, Zee and Rissa explore the natural changes in friendships while we parent toddlers--- the celebrations and also grief of trying to maintain these meaningful connections. We start the episode off with imagining our parallel universe selves coming up with a new TV show that involves matchmaking parents with other parents (because, finding parent friends is so much harder than finding a friend just for you--- especially after our 30's!), followed by a...
Duration:02:18:44
EP 016 Dirty (& Pretty) Nanay: Filipinx Beauty Expectations
4/29/2022
What is pretty? Oh so pretty? It's apparently Eurocentric and patriarchal dictated and it's the WORST. Zee and Rissa dialogue about the harmful expectations of beauty on Filipina women, how we've seen it intentionally and unintentionally perpetuated in our childhood, and our daily efforts to combat its harm as it continues to rear its ugly head as we try to live our life free from its manicured, dangerous grasp.
xoxo,
Rissa & Zee
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Duration:01:58:30
EP 015 - Dirty (& Sexy) Nanay: The Bastos Episode - Let's Talk About Sex
2/25/2022
Ay Bastos!! If you're Rissa or Zee's parents, for the love of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph--- do not listen to this episode!
Rissa and Zee get bare (lmao) about their feelings and perspectives about love, sensuality, and sexuality and dialogue about how coloniality impacted various aspects of the three topics. The two dialogue about their respective and different journeys of sexual liberations, sensuality, and sexuality after giving birth, and the impact of their Catholic upbringing and its...
Duration:02:16:11
EP 014 - Dirty (& Grounded) Nanay: It's Our 1st Birthday, Talking About Our Unique Immigration Stories
1/28/2022
Guess who just turned one?!
We are so excited to reach our first year mark! As we turn over a new year, we follow our mantra of grounding and growing and reflect on where we came from (delving into our different immigration stories and our unique and shared experiences) and where our show will be going. This episode is jam packed with some shout outs from previous episodes so if you hear a reference from an episode you've heard before, drink you dirty mother*!
*Mother in the most inclusive...
Duration:01:56:17
EP 013 - Dirty (& Merry) Nanay: THE PASKO SPECIAL
12/17/2021
Maligayang Pasko (Merry Christmas in Tagalog), dirty nanays*! For this episode, we invited one of our favorite people to play a little game to (hopefully!) help fellow Filipinx folks who experience mixed feelings about going to a Filipinx party a little less alone. What's the game you ask? It's a frankenbaby of D&D and escape rooms where we play a protagonist who just really wants to get through a Filipinx party without losing her shit. If you like role playing games and escape rooms,...
Duration:01:43:11
EP 012 - Dirty (& Superstitious) Nanay: Diving Into Filipinx Horror Folklore and Exploring Filipinx Superstitious Beliefs
10/29/2021
HAPPY HALLOWEEN and HAPPY FILIPINO AMERICAN HISTORY MONTH!
This episode required a ton of liquid courage as we dive into the frightening world of Filipinx horror folklore! We talk about a couple of our favorite Filipinx monsters and analyze how folklore impacts our upbringing, how they play a role in our parenting, and of course, its association with coloniality!
Lay down, relax, or drive, or chest feed, or sit there in silence after getting your baby to finally go to sleep... but whatever...
Duration:01:40:08
EP 011 - Dirty (& Working) Nanay: Being A Badass Working Mama
9/24/2021
Hello Dirty Nanays/Tatays/Titos/Titas/Mga Kapatid! We are so excited to be back after 3 months of family time, self-care, big transitions and [frightening] but memorable vacations that will leave a lasting impact. After a quick-ish update (that’s a lie—it’s not quick, but it’s meaningful #qualityoverquantity), we dialogue about our experiences as Working Nanays, and trying to find ways that we don’t lose ourselves in the rat race. Enjoy our long ass episode—we had a lot to say after 3 months...
Duration:01:46:28
EP 010 - Dirty (& Artistic for Justice) Nanay: Amplifying Narratives of Filipinx LGBTQ+ Artists
6/30/2021
MaliGAYang Pride Month part dalawa!! We are still celebrating Pride month and we are super stoked to invite back a special guest! Can you guess who? We play a fun game that involves Vicks (cuz you know, Vicks fixes everything...) and we get to spend time with a special Tita! We like to celebrate the creative Filipinx LGBTQ+ artists and celebrate their stories because narratives of color need to be amplified. xoxo, Rissa & Zee Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dirtynanay Follow us on...
Duration:01:59:10
Ep 009 - Dirty (& Queer) Nanay: Exploring The Intersectionalities of Being Queer, Parents, and Filipinx
6/18/2021
MaliGAYang Pride Month!! In this episode, the nanays sit cozy with their drinks in a space filled with warmth, laughter, and honesty as their special guest Ti, helps them create an environment that facilitates their dialogue about coloniality's impact on living authentically as a queer Filipinx. The nanays reflect on their pasts to create a future that ensures that their children can live in authenticity.
xoxo, Rissa & Zee
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Duration:01:42:02
Ep 008 - Dirty (& Average) Nanay: Being AAPI, Mental Health, and Being A Mom
5/28/2021
May was a big month! We had Mother’s Day on May 9, AAPI Heritage Month, and Mental Health Awareness Month, and we had one opportunity to make an episode, so instead of a couple of episodes, you get one long ass episode where we address ALL of this. This Halo Halo Episode is filled with tearful storytelling, and boisterous Tita laughter as Rissa and Zee invite one of their friends, Jen, to some heart to heart dialogue followed by a drinking game. We celebrate the averageness of being Dirty...
Duration:01:50:12
Ep 007 - Dirty (& Healing) Nanay: Holding Space For Ourselves, Our Family, and Our BIPOC Community
4/30/2021
Yes, we are a week late (and no, this doesn't have anything to do with a pregnancy reference). WE HAVE BEEN STRUGGLING!! Not only are we exhausted as social justice workers and Filipinx parents, we literally have no answers on how to address the rise in Asian hate crimes and supporting our Black Community because we are dealing with our own stress and emotions when it comes to holding space for ourselves, for our family, and for our BIPOC community. So, let's address the elephant in the...
Duration:01:42:55
EP 006 - Dirty (& Quarantined) Nanay: Parenting In A Pandemic
4/9/2021
YO! WE HAVE BEEN IN QUARANTINE MODE FOR 1 YEAR! Here are some direct quotes from Rissa and Zee: "This was supposed to be 6 weeks!" "We will be done by Easter..."... Remember that?! Well, this episode is a nod to our fellow Filipinx parents (and all parents/guardians out there) that had to parent and DID THE DAMN THING during the pandemic. Is it worth a "HAPPY QUARANTINE ANNIVERSARY"? We think of who we were prior to the pandemic and who we have become during this pandemic. This was a...
Duration:01:41:17
EP 005 (PART 2) - Dirty (& Still Exhausted) Nanay: Parenting Filipinx Kids
3/26/2021
Welcome to Part 2 of our discussion on parenting Filipinx kids! We talked for over 2 hours and felt this episode would be great in smaller increments (you know... a lot to process and reflect). In this particular episode, we continue to examine which Filipino parenting traits we would like like to keep/toss as we navigate our own parenting styles and we also call bullsh*t on White parenting techniques. This episode made us realize that navigating parenting as a Filipinx American caregiver is...
EP 005 (PART 1) - Dirty (& Exhausted) Nanay: Parenting Filipinx Kids
3/12/2021
Welcome to Part 1 of our discussion on parenting Filipinx kids! We talked for over 2 hours and felt this episode would be great in smaller increments (you know... a lot to process and reflect). We challenged ourselves to enumerate the different parenting traits that we have encountered being children of Filipino parents (in one minute) and find that it was hard as shit! Want to play along with us? And we discuss typical Filipino parenting traits that we would keep/toss as we navigate our own...
EP 004 - Dirty (& Coupled) Nanay: Relationships With A Non-Filipinx Partner
2/24/2021
This episode is a nod to our non-Filipinx partners. After all, they are part of our children's lives. We reflect on our adolescent crushes and share our "celebrity free pass" all while analyzing the cultural differences we encounter as partners to non-Filipinx folks--- such as courting rituals and how we address our in-laws. We also laugh at our cluelessness when it comes to dating in 2021 (Do you swipe left?! Swipe right?! Do you even have a conversation with folks if you want to...
Duration:01:25:43
Ep 003 - Dirty (& Filipina) Nanay: What Does It Mean To Be Filipinx?
1/29/2021
We invited some friends to our 3rd episode and we are enjoying our virtual happy hour! Welcome Shubzilla (@shubzilla) and Matt DC (@iamyourhomie), two Filipinx American artists from Washington State. One of them is a Steve Kornacki (@steve01450) fan. Can you guess which guest is obsessed with him? We have an extensive drink menu tonight and we play a game of "Tabo" to help us reflect on what makes Filipinx folks unique. This is a fun one, y'all! Join us for all the laughs and shenanigans a...
Duration:01:30:10