Tales From the Toolbox. Stories from Hand in Hand Parenting

In this episode, join four of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Lara, Stacy, Belynda and Alice, for a warm and welcoming conversation on how the Hand in Hand Parenting tools really allow our children to FEEL the love and connection we offer. If you want to get to grips with why connection is so powerful as an antidote to the busyness and stress that can get in the way of relationship, this is the episode for you. You’ll hear more about: Micro moments of connection Unconditional love - what it is and why it matters Mummy hockey and how it brought connection How long it took us to bring play and listen to big feelings Why you are enough for your child How these tools can be a foundation of connection, especially if your child is struggling to feel your love How having a Special Time practice helps children learn to seek connection in their lives, and gives them a beautiful anchor point How ‘being present’ can be enough - we don’t have to ‘fix’ things. You might enjoy some of the following resources on connection. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2022/01/games-for-kids-all-ages/ https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2013/08/build-connection-with-your-child-through-play-playlistening/ https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2015/01/children-need-connection/ Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about all the Hand in Hand Parenting tools (and is also available as an audiobook): https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner, see our previous episode all about this amazing parent support tool at https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listening-partnerships-the-missing-piece-in-the/id1652623498?i=1000587203616 If you’d like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 You can connect with Belynda in Australia at hello@belyndasmith.com.au You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a five star review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

Join all five of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Kelly, Belynda, Stacy, Alice and Lara, for a short bonus episode where they geek out a bit about the science behind Hand in Hand parenting and taking a connection-based approach. If you’re curious about what happens in our brains as we seek safety and connection and the practical implications of this through childhood and adolescence then this is the episode for you. You’ll hear more about: Join us! If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner, see our previous episode all about this amazing parent support tool at ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listening-partnerships-the-missing-piece-in-the/id1652623498?i=1000587203616⁠ If you’d like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: ⁠https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8⁠ You might enjoy some of the following resources on connection-focused parenting. This article discusses the ETR study we mention in the episode. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2011/11/parent-child-connectedness-takes-us-beyond-emotional-intelligence/ Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Seigel is a wonderful book if you want to learn more about the interpersonal neurobiology and attachment research that’s happening in a parent-child relationship, whether we realise or not. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2017/01/science-behind-hand-hand-parenting-tool-staylistening/ https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2019/09/brain-science-of-childrens-emotions-replay/ Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about all the Hand in Hand Parenting tools (and is also available as an audiobook): ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/⁠ You can connect with Belynda in Australia at hello@belyndasmith.com.au You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a five star review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

Join all five of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Lara, Kelly, Stacy, Belynda and Alice, for a long-awaited conversation on how connection can change the world! They share how we can build resilience in ourselves and our children, how to define connection and what it looks like in their lives. They also take a bit of a tangent to discuss the idea that as parents we are raising adults, not just managing children. If you want to learn about why defining connection is so tricky, and what it actually is, so that you can build more of it into your life, this is the episode for you. You’ll hear more about: What connection is and why it’s a great idea to raise kids with this as a prime focus, rather than taking a more behaviourist approach. How old each host's children were when they started using the Hand in Hand Parenting tools How we keep learning new things about ourselves and our kids in every stage Disrespect - and why it doesn’t mean what we often think it means Why we might really want compliance but we need to keep working on ourselves to hold the bigger aims in mind! This is a long game - we are raising adults - so we keep returning to the outcomes we want for them Why support for us is vital as it helps us choose connection rather than getting stuck into the power struggles A bit of a philosophical rampage about connection. Join us! If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner, see our previous episode all about this amazing parent support tool at ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/listening-partnerships-the-missing-piece-in-the/id1652623498?i=1000587203616⁠ If you’d like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: ⁠https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8⁠ You might enjoy some of the following resources on connection-focused parenting. ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2017/08/connection-parenting-doesnt-reward-bad-behavior/⁠ ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2022/10/understanding-connected-parenting/⁠ ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2019/02/build-connection-into-your-daily-routine/⁠ Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about all the Hand in Hand Parenting tools (and is also available as an audiobook): ⁠https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/⁠ You can connect with Belynda in Australia at hello@belyndasmith.com.au You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a five star review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

Join us, your Tales From The Toolbox Podcast team for a free invitation. Transform Family Life with Listening is a ten day challenge to help you dive deeper into the principles and practice of listening, the Hand in Hand way. In this special bonus episode we talk more about why we wanted to run this challenge and what you can expect from it. We’ll support you all along the way while you learn tools to transform your family life with listening. Click on this link to join the challenge: https://talesfromthetoolbox.ck.page/1d9a8032a5 Follow us on Instagram: @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast Subscribe to get updates on new episodes. Season 2 – coming late July! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this episode, join all five of the Tales from the Toolbox Team, Lara, Kelly, Stacy, Belynda and Alice, for a spirited conversation on how to set limits playfully. They share how this combination of two Hand in Hand Parenting tools, Playlistening and Setting Limits, is so powerful for bringing co-operation and joy. If you want to learn about why playful limits are not permissive and how they actually help to dissipate the tensions that drive challenging behavior, whilst also bringing more laughter and joy then this is the episode for you! You’ll hear more about: And, if you are interested in finding a Listening Partner and would like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 You might enjoy some of the following resources on playful limits. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2018/09/setting-boundaries-on-behavior-with-humor/https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2018/03/set-limits-laughter/https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2018/01/improve-manners-with-playful-parenting/Listenhttps://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this episode join Alice, Lara, Stacy and Belynda for a fun filled conversation about the Hand in Hand Parenting tool of Playlistening. We discuss how this tool is all about laughter and the amazing benefits that brings, from increased cooperation to less arguing and, most of all, an increased feeling of fun and connection in your family. You’ll hear more about If you want to learn how to approach tricky moments with play, find some ideas for games, and the kinds of situations where this tool can really help, this is the episode for you! And, if you are interested in finding a Listening Partner and would like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 Some other resources on Playlistening you might enjoy: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2019/03/get-past-power-battles-the-fun-way-a-playful-parents-guide-to-discipline/Listenhttps://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/https://www.handinhandparenting.org/?s=playful+ways&id=23456Playful Parenting The Art Of Roughousing You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. belynda.smith@meerilinga.org.aualice@warmheartedparenting.comlara@handinhandparenting.orggrowingoodness@gmail.comkelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

Setting Limits Introduction In this episode join Belynda, Kelly, Lara and Alice for a thoughtful conversation about the Hand in Hand Parenting tool of Setting Limits. We share our own stories around how we’ve used it and report on some of the challenges we’ve had in our families with this useful and nuanced tool. We even manage to find the funny side of things... not always easy when our children dig in and seem like they are never going to cooperate! You’ll hear more about If you want to learn how to set limits with love, laughter and kindness, and a rock-solid sense of confidence, this is the episode for you! And, if you are interested in finding a Listening Partner and would like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group, please complete this form and we’ll email you the details: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 Some other resources on Setting Limits you might enjoy: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/how-to-set-limits-in-three-easy-steps/https://www.handinhandparenting.org/product/setting-limits-building-cooperation-online-class-2/Listenhttps://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this episode join Lara, Alice and Belynda for an earnest conversation about the Hand in Hand Parenting tool of Listening Partnerships. They share their adoration for this tool (again!), discuss how it has helped them and enthuse about how life changing it has been for them. You’ll hear more about: If you want to learn about how finding a supportive listener can transform your parenting and give you the fuel to play wildly, connect with empathy and be with your child through all of their feelings, this is the episode for you! If you are interested in finding a Listening Partner and would like to join the Tales from the Toolbox WhatsApp Group for Listening Partnerships, please complete this form and we’ll email you a link to join: https://forms.gle/DjjbTBxfTat1EMLE8 For some other resources on Listening Partnerships you might enjoy This article - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/listen-launch-post-what-is-a-listening-partnership/ or this one - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2020/04/this-weekly-ritual-is-one-of-the-best-things-you-can-do-for-your-parenting/ This online self-paced course - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/product/building-a-listening-partnership-online-class/ Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore (which has a whole chapter dedicated to Listening Partnerships AND is also available as an audiobook) - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ Join the Hand in Hand Community on Mighty Networks: https://join.handinhandparenting.org/feed You can continue the conversation with us at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com or you can follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast We’d love it if you would subscribe to our Podcast on your podcast platform, and if you could leave us a review that will help us reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting, and thanks for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this episode, join the Toolbox team for a rich conversation about how they have learned to listen deeply to their children’s feelings and the impact this has had on their families. Topics covered: be with You’ll also hear some really helpful practical suggestions: For some more resources on Staylistening try these links: Staylistening - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/how-does-crying-help-you-and-your-child/ Chapter 4 in the book Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore is a great place to learn more about Staylistening (and is also available as an audiobook) - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ Here is a link to the article Belynda refers to: Backbone and Bounce: Building Resilience https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2013/08/backbone-and-bounce-building-resilience/ What to say during Staylistening: https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2013/08/what-to-say-during-staylistening/ You can continue the conversation with the toolbox team at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com Follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast To help reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools please leave a review. Also remember to subscribe to this podcast on your podcast platform for all the latest episodes. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting. Thanks for listening. • You can connect with Belynda in Australia at belynda.smith@meerilinga.org.au • You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com • You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org • You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com • You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this episode join Lara, Stacy, Belynda and Alice for a joyful and jubilant conversation on the Hand in Hand Parenting tool of Special Time. We share our children’s love of this tool, how it is structured in our approach, and why it is so powerful for impacting the trajectory of the parent-child relationship. You’ll hear more about Listen in if you want to learn about why Special Time is different to other forms of play, and how to make this tool a cornerstone of strong relationships in your family! For some other resources on Special Time try these https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2020/03/special-time-live-with-patty/Listenhttps://www.handinhandparenting.org/listen-five-simple-tools/ You can continue the conversation with the toolbox team at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com Follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast To help reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools please leave a review. Also remember to subscribe to this podcast on your podcast platform for all the latest episodes. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting. Thanks for listening. • You can connect with Belynda in Australia at belynda.smith@meerilinga.org.au • You can connect with Alice in Shetland at alice@warmheartedparenting.com • You can connect with Lara in London at lara@handinhandparenting.org • You can connect with Stacy in California at growingoodness@gmail.com • You can connect with Kelly in South Africa at kelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

In this first episode of Tales from the Toolbox, join Belynda, Kelly, Stacy, Lara and Alice for a warm and welcoming chat introducing Hand in Hand Parenting. They share how the podcast came to be, and why they want to share the Hand in Hand Parenting approach with you. You’ll hear more about Listen in if you want to learn more about Hand in Hand Parenting and get an idea of the passion that drives Stacy in California to get up at 5am to connect with Alice in Shetland, Lara in London, Kelly in South Africa and Belynda (pushing past her bedtime) in Perth to record each episode. Some introductory resources on the Hand in Hand Parenting tools you might enjoy: Staylistening - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/how-does-crying-help-you-and-your-child/ Special Time - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/listen-launch-post-special-time/ Setting Limits - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/how-to-set-limits-in-three-easy-steps/ Playlistening - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/listen-launch-post-what-is-playlistening/ Listening Partnerships - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/listen-launch-post-what-is-a-listening-partnership/ Five Types of Difficult Behaviour and Why They Happen - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/five-types-of-bad-behavior-and-why-they-happen/ Aggression - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2016/08/are-secret-fears-driving-your-childs-aggression/ You can continue the conversation with the toolbox team at talesfromthetoolbox@gmail.com Follow on social media @talesfromthetoolboxpodcast To help reach more parents with these practical and supportive tools please leave a review. Also remember to subscribe to this podcast on your podcast platform for all the latest episodes. Wishing you lots of connection and joy in your parenting. Thanks for listening. belynda.smith@meerilinga.org.aualice@warmheartedparenting.comlara@handinhandparenting.orggrowingoodness@gmail.comkelly@consciousconfidentparenting.co.za --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/talesfromthetoolbox/message

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