In episode 112, we’re talking about getting back into D/s and BDSM after you’ve been away for a while, whether it’s been a year or a decade. In this episode: Maybe you stopped because of break up You might have hated the drama in your local community or where you were online Maybe you had […]
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In episode 111, we’re showing Dominants a bit of love and attention. After so many messages and questions from big Ds who worry they might not “really” be dominant, we thought it was time to clear things up. Just like there are different types of submissives, there are different types of Dominants. In this episode: […]
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This week we’re back with an episode that might sound like it’s just for new kinksters but it’s a reminder for everyone. Sex might be a part of your D/s relationship, but that’s not actually what it’s about. It’s about an exchange of power. Sex is just one of the many potential details you negotiate […]
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The show goes live on Black Friday, and we hope everyone who celebrates it had a wonderful Thanksgiving! Tis the season for shopping, and we can think of nothing better to buy yourself or your partner than a sex toy. If you need recommendations and maybe even a discount, check out our favorite sex toys […]
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Thanksgiving is just under a week away, and we’ve personally got a lot to be thankful for – our audience, our friends and family, and each other. Gratitude is necessary in every relationship – and yes, that includes D/s relationships. In this episode: Gratitude is necessary for any relationship. No one should feel taken for […]
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This week we talk about how to handle the end of your D/s relationship when you’re the one choosing to walk away. We don’t spend a lot of time on the reasons why you might end a relationship but we do share our thoughts on different ways to handle and take care of yourself in […]
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In episode 106, we discuss that moment a Dominant says no – whether for the first time or the 100th. It’s a big responsibility for both partners and requires communication, trust, and honesty – and a lot of integrity from both of you. In this episode: Kinky denial is different than a no meant to […]
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In light of the outpouring of love and interest we received – and to get back to normal by Friday’s episode – we decided to publish a special bonus episode all about the wedding. If you come here for the information and to learn something new, episode 106 will be out on Friday. But for […]
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We treated this week’s episode like a big bonus episode – meaning there’s a lot of rambling. At the request of some of our “crickets” and because our wedding is Saturday, October 28, 2017 – here’s our origin story. In this episode: The November livestream schedule is ready for Kinky Fuckery members! Check your email […]
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This week, in episode 104, we’re addressing a concern that several people have come to us with – what do you do when there’s drama in the BDSM community and it makes you not want to participate? We don’t have a step-by-step list to fix an overly dramatic situation, but we try to provide solutions, […]
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We’re a little bit ranty this week, but it’s all for a good cause. A new-to-us red flag appears to be submissives being “tested” on their D/s relationship without knowing it, without consenting to it, and without cause. Are there ways to prove yourself to each other in a D/s relationship? Definitely but not the […]
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In episode 102, we’re talking about the idea of equality in a D/s relationship. We each come at this in different, but not opposite ways. Are the people in a D/s relationship equal or should they have balance? Or should it be a combination of both? We don’t claim to have all the answers but […]
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This week we’re talking about something we’ve mentioned in dozens of episodes but never really focused on before – understanding bad tapes (yours and your partner’s) and how they impact your life and your relationships. We also talk about to deal with bad tapes and ideas to help overcome them. In this episode: Our 100 […]
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We’ve finally made it to the 100th episode of Loving BDSM! Woohoooooo!!!! And how the heck did we get here? With a little help from a few good episodes and all our amazing listeners. To celebrate, we’re counting down our top ten episodes of all time (so far). No, we won’t re-do the topics in […]
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We refuse to call this the 100th episode. It’s more like 99a or 99 and a half but not the 100th episode. With so many people reaching out to check on us because of Hurricane Irma, we wanted to give everyone an update. The short version: we’re fine. Want to hear us ramble about it […]
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This week we’re talking about collars and collaring ceremonies. We don’t tell you whether you should have a collar or not, or what type to get. Like everything else we do in kink and BDSM, collars and how people feeling about them exist on a spectrum. In this episode: Our giveaway winner is Rye or […]
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This week, we’re talking about BDSM scenes again but this time, the focus is on what happens when good BDSM scenes go bad and how to prevent most problems before they happen. In this episode: Check out our Redbubble shop for Loving BDSM merchandise especially if “Coffee is your love language!” Not every BDSM scene […]
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In episode 97, we bare our souls a bit to share how we started coasting along in our D/s relationship only to find we’d coasted in separate directions. We caught it in time, but not everyone does. Hopefully, our struggles with not paying enough attention will help someone else help your own D/s relationship. In […]
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In episode 96, we talk about transitioning your relationship from vanilla to kink when the submissive leads their Dominant partner – at least in the beginning as they’re learning. In this episode: Enter our 2 Year Anniversary giveaway! What does it mean when the submissive leads the transition to D/s Leading is not topping from […]
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This week, we’re back to normal for episode 94, and we’re discussing something that doesn’t get a lot of attention – positive reinforcement. Punishment gets all the glory but positive reinforcement is a kinder, gentler method that can be highly effective. In this episode: What is positive reinforcement? How is it different from punishment? It […]
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