Start with Small Steps

223 - Advice from Silly Places This episode explores how surprisingly profound life advice can be found in unexpected places—like cartoons, comic strips, movies, TV shows, music, and even bumper stickers. Drawing from a wide range of pop culture references, this episode reveals the timeless truths hidden in the most playful and unconventional sources. Cartoons with Character and Wisdom Classic animated characters like Tweety Bird, Bugs Bunny, Road Runner, and Wile E. Coyote aren’t just entertaining—they offer insights about thinking ahead, handling frustration, and staying true to yourself. Even characters like Yosemite Sam and Elmer Fudd show what happens when anger goes unchecked, while Bugs Bunny reminds us that wit often wins over brute force. Philosophy Through Comics: Calvin and Hobbes This beloved comic strip is full of wisdom disguised as childhood curiosity. From grappling with fairness and creativity to reflecting on friendship, imagination, and life’s meaning, Calvin and Hobbes present simple truths with emotional depth. Song Lyrics That Speak to the Soul From “Let It Be” to “I Can’t Make You Love Me,” the lyrics of popular songs are filled with lessons about love, patience, heartbreak, and resilience. Whether uplifting or sobering, these messages hit home with their honest reflections on the human experience. Wise Words from Television and Film Iconic lines from shows and movies like Rocky, The Lion King, Parks and Rec, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, The Mandalorian, and Buffy the Vampire Slayer provide motivation, emotional strength, and perspective. Quotes like “Just keep swimming” or “Tomorrow is another day” remind listeners to push forward, appreciate the present, and keep hope alive. Takeaways: Life’s best advice doesn’t always come from books or lectures—it often comes from the unexpected corners of pop culture. Cartoons teach resilience and wit, comic strips bring philosophical insight, music speaks directly to the heart, and films show how to endure and grow. Whether it’s inspiration from Rocky’s determination, comfort in Dory’s persistence, or humor in Homer Simpson’s honesty, wisdom is all around. Sometimes, all it takes is listening closely to the world we already enjoy. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/223-advice-from-silly-places/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

222 - The Two Buckets: A Simple Way to Solve Life’s Problems Hi everyone, it’s Jill from the North Woods! In this episode, I’m sharing one of the biggest life lessons I ever learned—the concept of putting problems into two buckets: things I can change and things I cannot. This idea, rooted in the Serenity Prayer, has helped me navigate everything from growing up with an alcoholic parent to financial struggles, career changes, and even weight loss. I’ll take you through the history of this powerful mindset, from ancient Greek philosophers to modern problem-solving techniques, and share real-life examples of how shifting my focus has made all the difference. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of how to tackle life’s challenges, this episode is for you. The Serenity Prayer and How It Shaped My Thinking I first learned the Serenity Prayer in my teens while attending Alateen, a support group for children of alcoholics. This simple yet profound message helped me reframe my struggles, allowing me to focus on what I could change instead of feeling powerless over what I couldn’t. The Long History of This Wisdom The idea of separating problems into what’s within our control and what isn’t has been around for centuries. I share insights from historical figures like Epictetus, Solomon ibn Gabirol, and Shantideva, all of whom recognized the power of focusing on what we can control. Real-Life Applications of the Two Buckets Approach -Growing Up with an Alcoholic Parent – I couldn’t stop my dad from drinking, but I could create a full, active life outside of that challenge. -Politics & Global Issues – I can’t change everything, but I can vote, volunteer, and contribute where I can. -Financial Stability & Retirement Worries – Social Security’s future is uncertain, but I can prepare by saving more and making smart financial decisions. -Weight Loss & Health – I once thought my weight was out of my control until I found new solutions and the right support. Re-Evaluating What’s in Your “Can’t Change” Bucket Sometimes, we assume a problem is out of our hands when it’s really not. I share examples of creative problem-solving—like how a simple change (adding mirrors) made people stop complaining about slow elevators. The key is to step back, get a new perspective, and challenge assumptions. Takeaways: ✅ Put problems into two buckets: Can you change it or not? ✅ Focus on action instead of worrying about things beyond your control. ✅ Re-evaluate your buckets over time—something that seemed unchangeable might have a solution you haven’t seen yet. ✅ Seek outside advice when you feel stuck—sometimes an expert or a fresh perspective can make all the difference. ✅ If something is in the "can change" bucket, take the first step today. This mindset shift has helped me reduce stress and solve problems more effectively, and I hope it helps you too. Now, I challenge you—think about a problem in your life right now. Which bucket does it belong in? Let me know what you think! Email me at Jill@startwithsmallsteps.com, comment on my channel, or share this episode with someone who might need it. Thanks for listening, and have a great week! https://startwithsmallsteps.com/the-two-buckets-a-simple-way-to-solve-lifes-problems/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

221 - Don't Let Anyone Push Your Buttons In this episode, I share one of the most powerful lessons I ever learned—from a book I discovered as a child. Wayne Dyer’s Your Erroneous Zones completely changed how I saw emotions, reactions, and the way people try to manipulate us. This book helped me navigate a tough home life, stand up to bullies, and, most importantly, stop letting others control how I felt. I explore the emotional traps that keep people stuck—anger, worry, guilt, insecurity, and perfectionism—and how to break free from them. The biggest takeaway? No one can push your buttons unless you let them. Learning this truth gave me the confidence to take charge of my emotions, and in this episode, I’ll share how you can do the same. The Book That Changed My Perspective I was a little kid in a chaotic home when I first saw Wayne Dyer on PBS talking about Your Erroneous Zones. Something about his message clicked. Even as a child, I realized that emotions weren’t just things that happened to me—I had control over them. The Emotional Traps That Keep Us Stuck Dyer identifies five major thought patterns that hold us back: Anger – Letting frustration control you instead of responding calmly. Worry – Stressing over things that are outside your control. Guilt – Staying stuck in past mistakes instead of making amends and moving on. Insecurity – Constant self-doubt that keeps you from taking action. Perfectionism – Thinking you need to be 100% ready before you start something. I share how I struggled with these emotions and the small steps I took to overcome them. The Most Life-Changing Lesson: No One Can Push Your Buttons This was the biggest revelation: people only have power over you if you let them. I saw firsthand how my father emotionally manipulated my mother. But when I learned to control my reactions, he stopped targeting me. If someone is making you feel bad, it’s because you’re giving them permission to do so. How to Take Back Control of Your Emotions If you struggle with reacting emotionally to situations, try these strategies: -Pause Before Reacting – Take five seconds to ask, Is this worth my peace of mind? -Reframe the Situation – Most people’s negativity is about them, not you. -Use Humor – Responding with a joke can take the power away from insults. -Practice Inner Silence – Sometimes, the best response is no response. -Find Compassion – Understanding why someone acts a certain way can help you detach. Takeaways: -Your emotions belong to you. No one else can make you feel something unless you allow them to. -Taking action is the antidote to fear. Perfectionism, insecurity, and doubt all shrink when you start moving forward. -When life squeezes you, what’s inside of you comes out. If you don’t like how you react under pressure, it’s time to work on what’s inside. -The more you control your emotions, the freer you become. People lose their ability to manipulate you when you stop reacting. ] If you’ve ever felt like someone else has control over your emotions, it’s time to take that power back. By shifting your mindset and making small changes, you can free yourself from anger, worry, guilt, and insecurity. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/221-take-control-of-your-emotions/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

220 - Stop Playing It Safe In this episode of Start with Small Steps, Jill from the North Woods shares a powerful lesson learned from playing chess with her father: the best way to improve is to challenge yourself against stronger opponents. This principle extends beyond the chessboard and applies to personal growth, career development, fitness, and creative pursuits. Jill explores how surrounding yourself with skilled people, finding the right level of challenge, and embracing discomfort can lead to transformation. She also discusses the role of AI as a learning tool and the importance of applying what you observe from others. The Power of Playing Against Stronger Opponents Jill’s father never let her win at chess, and this tough love approach taught her to embrace challenges rather than seek easy victories. Whether in work, hobbies, or personal goals, true growth comes from learning from those who are ahead of us. The Right Level of Challenge for Improvement Growth requires finding the right balance—not too easy, not too difficult. Jill explains how to assess what level of challenge will push you forward without overwhelming you, whether it's in writing, public speaking, or fitness. Using AI as a Learning Tool (Not a Replacement) Jill shares how she uses AI to refine her writing rather than replace it. She discusses the importance of maintaining personal effort while leveraging AI for insights and efficiency. Learning from "Secret Mentors" Sometimes, the best mentors aren’t the ones we formally ask for help, but those we quietly observe. Jill explains how watching skilled colleagues and analyzing their methods has helped her improve in various areas of life. The Importance of Embracing Discomfort If something feels uncomfortable—whether it’s public speaking, learning a new skill, or pushing past fitness limits—it’s often a sign of growth. Jill encourages listeners to lean into discomfort as a necessary step toward mastery. Applying What You Learn It’s not enough to listen, read, or watch others—you must put what you learn into action. Jill provides practical steps for tracking progress and continuously improving through observation, reflection, and practice. Takeaways ✅ Challenge yourself by learning from those ahead of you. Staying in your comfort zone won’t lead to growth. Seek out opportunities to be around people who push you to be better. ✅ Find the right level of difficulty. Growth happens in stages—too easy, and you won’t progress; too hard, and you may give up. Identify challenges that stretch but don’t break you. ✅ Leverage AI and technology as tools for improvement. AI can help refine your skills, but real learning comes from effort and practice. ✅ Observe and learn from successful people. Whether it’s a mentor, coworker, or expert in your field, analyze their techniques and apply them to your own journey. ✅ Embrace discomfort as a sign of progress. If something feels difficult, that means you're learning. Stay persistent and celebrate small wins along the way. ✅ Take action. Don’t just consume information—apply it. Growth only happens when you put knowledge into practice. Challenge for You This week, put yourself in a situation where you are the least experienced person in the room. Whether in a meeting, a class, or a fitness session, find someone who is better than you and learn from them. Write down what you observe, practice what you learn, and reflect on your progress. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/220-stop-playing-it-safe/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

219 - No Choice Is A Choice Have you ever avoided making a decision, hoping things would just work themselves out, only to realize later that doing nothing made everything worse? I know I have, and in this episode, I’m talking about how no decision is still a decision—just not one you control. I share personal stories about how my own indecision has impacted my career, relationships, and health, sometimes in ways I deeply regret. I also talk about the hidden cost of avoiding choices and why small, intentional steps can put you back in control of your life. For a long time, I thought that if I didn’t make a choice, I was keeping my options open. But I’ve learned that when I fail to act, life steps in and makes the choice for me—and it’s rarely the one I would have wanted. When I graduated college, I couldn’t decide what path to take, and instead of making an intentional choice, I drifted into a job out of necessity. Years later, I realized I had closed doors to other opportunities simply because I hadn’t been proactive. The same thing happened in my health. I spent years trying and failing to lose weight, pushing off real action because I wasn’t sure what would work. Eventually, my health suffered, and I was forced to take action, but by then, I had fewer choices available to me. One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that inaction has real consequences. Not deciding doesn’t protect you from failure; it often makes things worse. When I ignored problems with my house, I ended up with water damage that could have been avoided. When I stayed in a comfortable but stagnant job, I watched my retirement savings fall behind. It’s easy to think we’ll have more time later, but time moves fast, and before we know it, years have passed without progress. I also understand why people avoid making choices, because I’ve done it too. Sometimes we’re afraid of picking the wrong option, so we convince ourselves that waiting is better. Other times, we don’t want to take responsibility in case things go wrong. And then there’s the belief that we have all the time in the world, but that’s an illusion. The truth is, the longer we wait, the fewer options we have. Takeaways What I’ve learned is that even a bad decision is often better than no decision at all. When I finally started taking control of my career, my health, and my finances, things didn’t change overnight, but they started moving in the right direction. The key is to stop waiting for the perfect moment and just take one small step. If you’re stuck in a job you don’t like, start by updating your resume. If your health is suffering, make one simple change today. If a relationship isn’t working, have that hard conversation. I challenge you to think about one area of your life where you feel stuck. What’s one small action you can take today? It doesn’t have to be huge—just something to move you forward. I’d love to hear from you about the choices you’re facing. You can email me at jillatstartwithsmallsteps.com or leave a comment on YouTube. Remember, doing nothing is still a choice—so why not choose to take control? https://startwithsmallsteps.com/219-no-choice-is-a-choice/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

218 - Solve the Right Problem In today’s episode, I’m sharing something that completely changed my life—learning to solve the right problem. For years, I kept hitting the same roadblocks, whether it was with my weight, finances, or personal goals. No matter how much effort I put in, nothing seemed to work. And then I realized—I was solving the wrong problem. Instead of focusing on what really needed fixing, I was throwing solutions at the wrong issues. Buying gym equipment didn’t solve my weight loss struggles. Cutting back on small purchases didn’t fix my income problem. It wasn’t until I stepped back, got clear on what the real issues were, and tackled them head-on that I finally started making progress. If you’ve ever felt stuck—trying everything but never seeing results—this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through practical steps to help you figure out what’s really holding you back and how to finally move forward. 1. The Trap of Solving the Wrong Problem I share my personal experience of spinning my wheels for years, fixing surface-level issues instead of the actual root cause. I use the example of fixing the brakes on a broken-down car when the real issue is the engine—no matter what you do, you won’t get anywhere. 2. Defining Your Problem Clearly One of the biggest mistakes people make is setting vague goals like “I want to lose weight” or “I need to save money.” That’s too broad! I talk about how breaking problems down into specific, actionable pieces leads to real solutions. 3. Using the Five Whys to Get to the Root Cause Ever feel like you’re treating symptoms instead of the real issue? I explain how asking why five times can reveal what’s actually stopping you from making progress. This method helped me understand that my struggles with exercise weren’t about needing gym equipment—they were about my habits and motivation. 4. Identifying Patterns That Keep You Stuck I used to think my financial struggles were because of big expenses, but when I started tracking my spending, I realized it was small, recurring purchases that were draining my bank account. I talk about how identifying patterns—rather than focusing on one-time mistakes—can help you see what’s really going wrong. 5. Focusing on What You Can Control I can’t control my genetics or my past financial mistakes, but I can control what I eat, how often I move, and how I budget my money. In this section, I help you shift your focus toward the things you actually can change. 6. Testing Small Before Going All In Before making a big commitment, test a small version first! I share why I should have tried a short-term gym membership before buying expensive equipment. The same logic applies to career changes—if you want to start a business, try freelancing first instead of quitting your job overnight. 7. Tracking Data Instead of Relying on Feelings I used to think I barely spent any money, but my spending journal told a different story. I also thought I wasn’t overeating—until I started tracking my food. I explain how keeping a journal or log can reveal the truth behind your habits. 8. Imagining Future Consequences One of the most powerful exercises I use is asking myself, What happens if I don’t solve this problem? If I don’t start exercising now, will I still be able to hike and travel when I retire? If I don’t fix my finances, will I have enough to live on later? Thinking about my future self has helped me prioritize the most important changes. 9. Learning from People Who Have Been There I didn’t figure all of this out on my own—I learned from others. Whether it’s books, podcasts, or mentors, I talk about how studying people who have solved similar problems can help you fast-track your progress. Key Takeaways: ✔️ Define the real problem – Get specific instead of setting vague goals. ✔️ Use the Five Whys – Dig deep to find the root cause of your struggles. ✔️ Look at patterns, not just one-time mistakes – Track your habits to see what’s...

217 - We’re All Walking Contradictions Hey everyone, it’s Jill from the Northwoods! In this episode, I’m sharing one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in life: every strength has a weakness, and every weakness has a hidden strength. Understanding this has helped me navigate relationships, improve my leadership skills, and find more balance in my life. I’ll take you through personal stories—like how my ability to build strong teams made me a great leader but held me back in tough negotiations. I’ll also break down common traits like confidence, empathy, ambition, and adaptability, showing how they can either work for us or against us. And, of course, I’ll share practical strategies for self-awareness, personal growth, and embracing our full selves. 1. We’re All a Coin – Strengths and Weaknesses Are Connected I’ve learned that no trait is entirely good or bad—it all depends on context. Confidence can turn into arrogance, perfectionism can cause procrastination, and empathy can lead to emotional exhaustion. Recognizing this has helped me approach life with more balance and understanding. 2. The Hidden Cost of Leaning Too Hard on Strengths I share a personal experience from my tech career where my leadership style worked well—until I had to handle tough contract negotiations. I was great at team-building but struggled with standing my ground in business. Learning to reframe my perspective helped me find a way to grow in an area that didn’t come naturally to me. 3. Finding Balance in Our Strengths and Weaknesses We all tend to overuse certain traits, but self-awareness can help us adjust. I’ll share some of my favorite strategies, like journaling, seeking feedback, and partnering with people who complement our weaknesses. 4. Giving Grace to Ourselves and Others It’s easy to get frustrated with people who think differently than we do. But when I started seeing people as complex individuals—with both strengths and flaws—it changed how I approached relationships. I’ll share how we can extend more understanding and patience to ourselves and those around us. 5. Practical Steps for Growth Identify patterns in your own behavior – What strength do you overuse? Where do you struggle? -Seek feedback – Ask people you trust to help you see your blind spots. -Train the opposite skill – If you’re overly cautious, practice small risks. If you’re a perfectionist, challenge yourself to start before you feel “ready.” -Surround yourself with people who balance you out – A team or friendship built on complementary strengths is powerful. Takeaways -We all have strengths and weaknesses, and they are often two sides of the same coin. -Self-awareness is the first step to growth—journaling, reflection, and feedback help us adjust. -Context matters—sometimes a strength can be a liability if used in the wrong way. -Giving grace to ourselves and others makes life and relationships a lot easier. -Growth is a process—no one is perfect, and that’s okay. Your Challenge This Week Take a moment to reflect on your own strengths and weaknesses. Ask yourself: What’s a strength I rely on too much? What’s a weakness that actually benefits me in some way? How can I find better balance in my life? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Email me at jillatstartwithsmallsteps.com or leave a comment. And if you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it! 🎙️ Thanks for listening—I appreciate you, and I’ll see you next week! https://startwithsmallsteps.com/217-were-all-walking-contradictions/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

216 - Feeling Overwhelmed? Start Small Big goals are intimidating. But breaking them into smaller steps makes them achievable. Here’s how: Start With the Simplest Action Instead of thinking about the entire project, focus on the tiniest, easiest step. If your goal is to clean your house, don’t aim for perfection. Just throw out the trash. If you want to start exercising, do one push-up. The key is to start so small you can’t possibly fail. Use the Snowball Effect Once you complete a small task, you’ll feel motivated to do another. This builds momentum. When I cleaned my childhood home, I started with the bathroom because it was small. That small success encouraged me to keep going. Make It a Habit Small steps aren’t just about getting things done—they’re about forming habits. Productivity expert BJ Fogg recommends starting with "tiny habits" so small they become second nature. For example, if you want to floss daily, just start by flossing one tooth. Once the habit is established, it naturally expands. Adjust Based on Your Life One of the best things about small steps is that they fit into any schedule. When I was busy with school and caregiving, my steps were extra tiny. During summer, I could do a little more. The key is consistency, not intensity. Stack Small Steps Over Time Over time, small steps compound into big change. When I started focusing on weight loss, I didn’t immediately jump into an intense fitness routine. Instead, I started walking more, eating slightly healthier, and making gradual adjustments. Now, I’m in a much better place—because I built my success in layers. Why Small Steps Work for Every Part of Life The beauty of small steps is that they apply to anything: ✅ Health & Fitness: Couch to 5K programs work by gradually increasing running time. Small steps make exercise sustainable. ✅ Cleaning & Organization: Cleaning one small area at a time prevents burnout and keeps spaces manageable. ✅ Work & Productivity: Tackling one email, one meeting, or one task at a time creates steady progress. ✅ Mental Health & Personal Growth: One mindful moment, one journal entry, or one deep breath can make all the difference. Life keeps moving while you take small steps. You don’t have to put everything else on hold—you can still enjoy hobbies, family, and rest while making steady progress toward your goals. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/216-feeling-overwhelmed-start-small/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

215 - What Not to Do with ADHD In this episode, we explore what not to do when managing ADHD—whether it’s your own or that of someone you love. From handling distractions to avoiding harmful self-talk, this conversation is packed with practical strategies and insights. Learn how to set realistic expectations, build ADHD-friendly routines, and foster healthier relationships through understanding and collaboration. The Scottie Method for Time Management Inspired by Star Trek, the Scottie Method encourages you to overestimate the time a task might take. This approach helps reframe successes as wins rather than failures, especially when projects take longer than expected. Eat the Frog or Eat the Cake? We break down the difference between tackling hard tasks first (“eating the frog”) versus starting with easier wins (“eating the cake”). The best strategy depends on your energy levels and when you’re most focused during the day. Managing Distractions ADHD and distractions go hand in hand. Learn how to block time-wasting websites, create a focused workspace, and find stimulating yet non-distracting ways to stay engaged. Building ADHD-Friendly Routines Routines may feel stifling, but they reduce decision fatigue and free up mental energy for more important tasks. We discuss how setting small daily habits can lead to greater productivity and stability. Supporting Someone With ADHD We delve into the importance of understanding and patience when supporting someone with ADHD. Criticism, unrealistic expectations, or piling on tasks often backfires. Instead, focus on collaboration and leveraging strengths. Takeaways —Set Yourself Up for Success: Use tools like timers, focus apps, and checklists to combat forgetfulness and stay organized. —Avoid Perfectionism: Aim to complete tasks rather than striving for perfection every time—it’s about progress, not flawless results. —Ask for Help: Don’t be afraid to lean on others for tasks that don’t align with your strengths. Collaboration can improve both productivity and relationships. —Limit Overcommitment: Learn to say “no” when needed to avoid burnout and spread yourself too thin. —Understand ADHD Strengths: ADHD brains bring creativity, problem-solving, and energy. Embrace these qualities while finding systems to manage weaknesses. A Note for Caregivers and Loved Ones If you’re supporting someone with ADHD, take the time to ask questions, offer help in areas they struggle with, and celebrate their strengths. Building a supportive relationship creates a foundation for growth and mutual understanding. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/adhd-survival-guide-what-not-to-do/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

214 - Unlocking ADHD Superpowers In this episode, I’m sharing how I’ve learned to see my ADHD not as a struggle, but as a set of superpowers that help me succeed in life. Growing up, I faced a lot of misunderstandings about what ADHD really is, but over time, I discovered that the way my brain works gives me unique strengths. From hyperfocus to creativity and resilience, I’ll talk about the positive sides of ADHD and how I’ve learned to lean into them. If you've ever felt like ADHD was holding you back, this episode is for you. Hyperfocus – My Secret Weapon for Productivity One of the biggest strengths of my ADHD is hyperfocus. When I’m interested in something, I can tune out the world and get lost in it for hours. Whether it's working on my podcast, organizing my YouTube channel, or diving into a creative project, my hyperfocus allows me to accomplish a ton in a short period of time. But I’ve also learned that it’s important to direct that focus towards the right things—something I still work on every day. Creativity – Thinking Outside the Box My ADHD brain is always bursting with ideas. Whether it’s finding new ways to solve problems, coming up with creative content, or brainstorming fresh approaches, I see the world differently. This creativity has helped me stand out in my career and personal life, and I’ve found ways to harness it by writing down my ideas and revisiting them when I need inspiration. Resilience – Bouncing Back from Challenges Living with ADHD means constantly facing obstacles, from forgetfulness to impulsivity. But over the years, I’ve developed a level of resilience that helps me push through and keep going. I’ve learned how to adapt quickly and find solutions, even when things don’t go as planned. This ability to pivot and stay flexible has been one of my greatest assets. High Energy – Embracing Enthusiasm I have a lot of energy, and when I’m excited about something, I go all in. My enthusiasm helps me tackle projects, connect with people, and stay motivated. Whether it's work, hobbies, or new challenges, I bring a level of passion and excitement that keeps me moving forward. Of course, I’ve learned to manage this energy by balancing it with rest and mindfulness when needed. Emotional Awareness – Understanding People on a Deeper Level While ADHD can sometimes make me seem distracted, I’m actually very intuitive and emotionally aware. I pick up on subtle social cues and care deeply about the people around me. My ability to connect with others and offer support has become one of my strongest qualities, even if I don’t always show it in conventional ways. Takeaways: -ADHD comes with incredible strengths like hyperfocus, creativity, and resilience. -Learning to work with my ADHD instead of against it has been life-changing. -Finding the right balance between energy and focus is key to success. -Support from friends and understanding my own needs has made a big difference in how I manage ADHD in everyday life. Join me in this episode as I celebrate the superpowers of ADHD and share tips on how you can harness yours too! Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

213 - ADHD Roadmap to Victories In this episode, I share my personal journey of managing ADHD and turning its challenges into strengths. From my chaotic childhood to my organized adult life, I discuss the tools, habits, and strategies that have helped me succeed. Along the way, I highlight the importance of small steps, incremental change, and embracing ADHD as a unique way of thinking. Whether you’re navigating your own ADHD journey or supporting someone who is, this episode is filled with practical insights and encouragement to help you thrive. Recognizing ADHD Struggles I talk about how ADHD affected me growing up in a disorganized home with minimal support. From procrastination to time blindness, I highlight the key challenges I faced and how they shaped my early approach to school and life. The Power of Small Steps Breaking big tasks into smaller, actionable steps changed everything for me. I explain how focusing on one step at a time helped me tackle overwhelming projects like research papers and big deadlines. Tools and Technology That Changed My Life From Todoist to Notion, I dive into the digital tools that have brought structure and clarity to my life. I share how I use time blocking, color-coded notes, and multiple reminders to stay on track. Managing Emotions and Impulsivity I explore techniques I’ve used to handle emotional responses and impulsive tendencies. Whether it’s pausing before reacting or waiting before making a purchase, these strategies have helped me gain control over my decisions. Turning ADHD into a Strength Instead of seeing ADHD as a limitation, I’ve learned to use its unique traits, like hyperfocus and creativity, to my advantage. I discuss how reframing ADHD as a strength has improved my work, relationships, and overall happiness. Takeaways -Small Changes Make a Big Impact: Start by making one or two small adjustments, like organizing your workspace or adopting a digital task manager. -Experiment with Tools: Find apps, routines, and strategies that work for your lifestyle, and don’t be afraid to tweak them as needed. -Leverage Your Strengths: ADHD comes with unique advantages, such as creativity and energy. Recognize these and use them to your benefit. -Embrace Accountability: Tie your goals to others, whether it’s a friend, coworker, or coach. Accountability can keep you motivated and on track. -Be Kind to Yourself: Managing ADHD is a journey. Progress takes time, but with persistence, it’s possible to thrive. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/213-adhd-roadmap-to-victories/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

Living with ADHD: My Journey to Understanding In this episode, I open up about my personal journey with ADHD, a condition that’s been both a challenge and a unique part of who I am. From my restless childhood to my career as an adult navigating deadlines, relationships, and responsibilities, I share the ups, downs, and surprising discoveries I’ve made along the way. ADHD isn’t just about being distracted or hyper—it’s about learning how to manage a brain that works a little differently. I’ll take you through what it’s like to live with ADHD, what I’ve learned about myself, and how I’ve found strategies that actually work. - What ADHD Feels Like from the Inside: I describe what it was like growing up with ADHD before I even knew what it was. From constant fidgeting to disappearing into my "happy place," I share how these traits shaped my childhood and how I learned to navigate them. - Hyperfocus, Inattention, and Time Blindness: ADHD isn’t just about being easily distracted. I dive into how hyperfocus and time blindness have impacted my life—sometimes helping me achieve big things and other times making me feel stuck. - The Emotional Side of ADHD: The frustration of being labeled “lazy” or “unfocused” when I was really trying my best weighed heavily on me. I talk about how those feelings affected my self-esteem and how I’ve worked to reframe my relationship with ADHD. - Tools and Strategies That Changed My Life: I share how tools like planners, apps, and external accountability helped me find structure in the chaos. These strategies didn’t just make my life easier—they helped me embrace my strengths. Takeaways: 1. You’re Not Alone in This: ADHD looks different for everyone, but the struggles are real and shared. There’s no shame in seeking help or finding creative ways to cope. 2. Small Steps Lead to Big Changes: Whether it’s setting up a simple to-do list or finding a supportive community, small actions can create meaningful progress. 3. Focus on What Works for You: From embracing technology to leaning into what motivates me, I’ve learned that it’s about finding solutions that fit your life—not trying to mold yourself into someone else’s idea of “normal.” Closing Thoughts: I hope my story inspires you to rethink how you approach ADHD—whether it’s your own or someone else’s. It’s not about “fixing” yourself; it’s about finding what works and creating a life that fits you. If you’d like to share your story or ask me questions, email me at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com. Let’s navigate this journey together! https://startwithsmallsteps.com/living-with-adhd-my-journey-to-understanding/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJillday https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

211 - Why Scrooge’s Transformation Resonates Today In this festive episode, we explore the timeless themes and moral lessons of Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol. From Ebenezer Scrooge's dramatic transformation to the significance of generosity, community, and self-reflection, this story has much to teach us about living meaningful lives. Join us as we break down the pivotal moments of the tale, reflect on its modern applications, and celebrate the enduring charm of this holiday classic. The Story of Ebenezer Scrooge We unpack the journey of a man who transforms from a cold-hearted miser to a generous soul after being visited by three spirits. Scrooge’s path from selfishness to selflessness serves as a powerful reminder that change is always possible. The Three Ghosts and Their Symbolism Discover the roles of the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Yet to Come. Each spirit challenges Scrooge to reflect on his life, confront his choices, and consider the legacy he wishes to leave behind. Dickens' Social Commentary Learn how Charles Dickens used A Christmas Carol to address social issues of Victorian England, from poverty to the plight of factory workers, and how these themes resonate in today's world. Applying the Lessons to Modern Life Whether it’s embracing generosity, fostering relationships, or reflecting on our own lives, the lessons of A Christmas Carol remain profoundly relevant. We discuss actionable ways to carry the story’s spirit into our daily routines. Takeaways: -Redemption is always possible. Scrooge’s transformation shows that with self-reflection and effort, we can change our lives for the better. -Generosity is a gift that multiplies. Helping others enriches not only their lives but also ours, fostering deeper connections and purpose. -Time is precious. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones or using our days to make meaningful contributions, A Christmas Carol reminds us to value the present. -Ignorance and want must be addressed. Dickens’ warning about societal neglect remains crucial—education and support for the vulnerable are more important than ever. Closing Thoughts: This episode highlights why A Christmas Carol continues to inspire readers and viewers after nearly two centuries. Its message of compassion and transformation reminds us that the true spirit of Christmas—and life itself—lies in kindness, love, and redemption. Let the timeless story of Scrooge encourage you to embrace the joy and generosity of the holiday season, and carry that spirit with you all year long. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/211-why-scrooges-transformation-resonates-today/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

210 - Turning Lemons into Success In this episode, we dive into the inspiring ideas presented in Zach Friedman’s book, The Lemonade Life: How to Create Success, Create Happiness, and Conquer Anything. We explore how self-awareness, resilience, and purposeful action can transform your life. From breaking free of the comparison trap to experimenting with new ideas, Friedman’s insights provide a fresh perspective on building a fulfilling life. If you’ve ever felt stuck or unsure how to achieve your goals, this episode offers practical steps to help you move forward. Escaping the Joneses Trap One of the first lessons in The Lemonade Life is breaking free from the cycle of comparison. Trying to "keep up with the Joneses" often leads to dissatisfaction, as we rarely see the full picture of others' lives. Instead of chasing external validation, Friedman urges us to focus inward and align our actions with what truly matters to us. The Importance of Self-Awareness Friedman emphasizes the critical role of self-awareness in achieving happiness and success. By asking ourselves questions like "What makes me happy?" and "What unique talents can I share with the world?" we can create a life that feels authentic and rewarding. This section of the podcast discusses practical steps to cultivate self-awareness and align it with your goals. Life as an Experiment Success rarely follows a straight line. Friedman suggests treating life as an experiment, where failures and missteps are opportunities to learn and grow. We explore how trying new approaches, analyzing results, and adjusting your strategies can pave the way for personal and professional breakthroughs. Navigating Life with a Compass Instead of relying on rigid plans, Friedman advocates for using a compass to guide your direction. This metaphorical compass helps you stay true to your North Star—your values and long-term goals—while adapting to life’s inevitable twists and turns. In this segment, we discuss how a compass-based mindset encourages flexibility and resilience. Committing to Plan A One of Friedman’s boldest ideas is abandoning the safety net of Plan B. While this doesn’t mean taking reckless risks, it emphasizes the power of fully committing to your primary goal. We discuss how focusing on Plan A allows you to channel your energy and creativity into making your dreams a reality. Key Takeaways: -Stop comparing your life to others and start focusing on your unique path. -Self-awareness is the foundation of success—discover what truly matters to you. -Life is a series of experiments; embrace failure as part of the process. -Use a compass to navigate your journey, focusing on direction rather than a fixed path. -Commit fully to your primary goal and avoid diluting your efforts with fallback plans. Final Thoughts: The Lemonade Life isn’t about reaching a perfect destination—it’s about enjoying the journey, learning from challenges, and celebrating small wins along the way. Take a moment to reflect on your personal compass. What’s ahead of you? What lessons have you learned from your past? What inspires you, and what holds you back? If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, share it with friends, and leave a comment. For questions or feedback, reach out to us at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com. Let’s keep turning life’s lemons into success and happiness, one step at a time. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/210-turning-lemons-into-success/ https://www.zackfriedman.com/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

209 - The Lemonade vs. Lemon Life We’re diving into the idea of turning life’s lemons into lemonade, inspired by Zach Friedman’s book, The Lemonade Life: How to Fuel Success, Create Happiness, and Conquer Anything. We’ll explore how to shift from a passive, “Lemon Life” mindset to an empowering “Lemonade Life,” where you take charge and thrive. I’ll also share personal reflections, practical tools like the PRISM framework, and insights into overcoming common personality pitfalls that hold us back. Get ready to learn how embracing risks and building the right mindset can transform your life! I break down what it means to live a Lemon Life, where you’re reactive and stuck, versus a Lemonade Life, where you’re proactive and intentional. We all have the power to choose how we approach life’s challenges. The PRISM Framework Perspective, Risk, Independence, Self-Awareness, and Motion—this is your roadmap to creating happiness and success. I talk about how each of these elements can help you reframe setbacks and take meaningful steps forward. Recognizing Personality Pitfalls Are you an External Excuser, Steady Settler, Daring Disruptor, or Change Chaser? I discuss how these tendencies can hold you back and share tips to overcome them. The Power of Happiness and Teamwork Happiness isn’t something you wait for; it’s something you cultivate first. I also highlight the importance of finding your “wolf pack”—the supportive people who help you succeed. Learning from Failure Failure isn’t the end of the road. It’s a stepping stone to success. I share personal stories about how setbacks shaped my journey and why risk-taking is essential to growth. Takeaways: Start shifting your mindset today—what challenges can you reframe as opportunities? Figure out which personality type might be holding you back and take small steps to change those habits. Don’t wait to find happiness. Start by building gratitude and joy right now. Surround yourself with people who challenge and inspire you, and make sure you’re supporting them too. Embrace failure as part of the process—it’s the best teacher for long-term success. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/209-the-lemonade-vs-lemon-life/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

208 - Simple Ways to Feel at Home in Any Place In this episode, we explore This Is Where You Belong by Melanie Warnick, a book that examines how to create a sense of belonging no matter where you live. The host reflects on her own journey to embrace her town, which has never felt like home, and Warnick’s practical advice for fostering connection, appreciation, and engagement within one’s community. The Illusion of “Elsewhere”: We often believe we’d be happier in a new place, but the reality is that happiness depends more on our perspective and community than location. Warnick’s insight helps dismantle the myth that a move will “solve everything.” The Power of Knowing Your Neighbors: Engaging with neighbors creates a feeling of community and security. Building connections can be as simple as a friendly hello or lending a hand. When neighbors help each other, a town feels much more like home. Exploring the Local Scene: Discovering the unique offerings of your area—parks, markets, eateries, and historic spots—provides a fresh view and appreciation for where you live. Even if you’ve been in the area for years, Warnick suggests there’s always something new to explore. Volunteering and Community Involvement: Engaging in community work helps you feel part of something bigger and more invested in the local area. Volunteering or joining a club can be transformative for both you and the community. Developing a Routine: Frequenting a favorite coffee shop, park, or walking route creates familiarity and a sense of belonging. Finding small routines that connect you to the place can make any location feel more comfortable and “yours.” Takeaways -Feeling at home is often about mindset more than physical location. -Building local connections and engaging in local activities can help transform a place into a beloved home. -Seeing the uniqueness of a place—the people, traditions, and sights—fosters a genuine appreciation for it. -Small efforts to connect with others and engage in the community can make you feel rooted no matter where you are. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/208-being-at-home-where-you-live/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

207 - Transforming Overthinking With A New Soundtrack In today’s episode, we explore John Acuff’s Soundtracks: A Surprising Solution to Overthinking. Acuff dives into the idea that we are the stories we tell ourselves, and how these internal "soundtracks" can either propel us forward or hold us back. We discuss the importance of recognizing negative soundtracks, retiring them, and replacing them with positive ones. Whether it’s perfectionism or fear of failure, Acuff’s advice offers practical steps to stop overthinking and start achieving your goals. Identifying Broken Soundtracks: Acuff explains how negative soundtracks are often so ingrained in our minds that we don’t even notice them. We explore how to identify these self-sabotaging thoughts and why they are so destructive. Neuroplasticity and the Power to Change: A key concept in Soundtracks is neuroplasticity—the idea that our brains are capable of change at any age. This gives us the ability to rewrite our mental playlists and adopt more positive beliefs. Taking Action to Overcome Overthinking: The episode highlights how taking even the smallest action can disrupt the cycle of overthinking. By focusing on what we can do, rather than what we fear, we build confidence and momentum. Takeaways: Your thoughts shape your actions: Negative soundtracks can hold you back, but recognizing and replacing them is key to overcoming overthinking. Neuroplasticity empowers change: It’s never too late to rewire your brain and adopt healthier thought patterns. Action disrupts overthinking: Start small, take action, and watch your confidence grow. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/207-transforming-overthinking-with-a-new-soundtrack/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

206 - Meet New People and Build Lasting Friendships In this episode, we explore how to make new friends and build lasting relationships in a world where social connections have become harder to maintain. Inspired by Start With Hello by Shannon Martin, we discuss how small steps can lead to big changes in your social life. Whether you’re looking to rebuild connections lost during the pandemic or find new ways to meet people, this episode offers practical advice on how to start. The Power of Hello: How something as simple as greeting your neighbors can create opportunities for connection. Conversation Starters: Turning everyday events like buying a new car into ways to meet new people. Joining Clubs or Hobbies: How participating in group activities or hobbies helps form connections with like-minded people. The Challenge of Social Endurance: Recognizing that not every attempt to make friends will succeed, but persistence is key. The Importance of Vulnerability: Authenticity and openness are crucial in building strong, lasting friendships. Takeaways: Start Small: Meeting new people doesn’t require grand gestures—just saying “hello” is often the first step. Be Consistent: Building friendships takes time and requires patience and endurance. Not every interaction will lead to a lasting connection, but some will. Be Genuine: Friendships are built on authenticity, so approach new relationships with openness and curiosity rather than a need to impress. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/206-meet-new-people-and-build-lasting-friendships/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

205 - Harnessing Military Brat Lessons In this episode, we talk about Harris Faulkner’s book Nine Rules of Engagement, where she shares life lessons gleaned from growing up in a military family. Faulkner reflects on how military values such as resilience, teamwork, and integrity have shaped her approach to personal success. These principles are not just for soldiers but can be applied to everyday life to achieve success, overcome challenges, and develop inner strength. Trust in Your Potential: Faulkner emphasizes how military life fosters a sense of self-reliance and potential. Boot camp is more than just physical endurance—it’s about pushing mental and emotional boundaries to discover your true strength. Building Your Special Forces: Surrounding yourself with trusted individuals—your own "special forces"—is critical for overcoming life’s battles. Faulkner encourages finding people who have your back and nurture mutual trust. Overcoming Demons: Faulkner's rule on dealing with personal demons stands out. Whether they are habits or internal struggles, facing them head-on is essential for growth. She shares personal stories about how confronting her own shortcomings led to progress. Takeaways: This episode underlines the importance of personal integrity, readiness, and teamwork. The key to success lies in understanding your mission, staying ready to act, and always maintaining strong personal relationships. Tune in to learn how Faulkner’s military upbringing can inspire and guide your personal journey to success. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/205-harnessing-military-brat-lessons/ https://www.harpercollins.com/blogs/authors/harris-faulkner https://abcnews.go.com/US/book-excerpt-harris-faulkners-rules-engagement/story?id=56245142 Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com

204 - The World Through the Five Senses In this episode, we read about the fascinating world of senses based on Gretchen Rubin's book Life in Five Senses. We explore how being more mindful of sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch can profoundly change how we experience life. Sight: Vision is more than what meets the eye. Our brain fills in the gaps, making sense of incomplete or ambiguous images. We also learn how perception changes based on context, like hunger influencing our view of objects as food. Sound: Rubin talks about the contrast between city noise and natural quiet. Even silence has its own "noise" if we listen closely. She explores how focusing on everyday sounds, like the hum of traffic or the chop of vegetables, can offer new insights into our surroundings. Smell and Taste: These senses are strongly linked, guiding our food choices and triggering memories. Rubin reveals how scents like freshly baked cookies can create emotional responses, even influencing decisions like buying a house. Touch: The pandemic made us realize how much we crave human touch, whether it's a hug or a pat on the shoulder. Touch extends beyond physical connection, including the vibrations of a car or the feel of soft fabrics. Takeaways: -Becoming more aware of our senses enriches our experience of the world. -Small steps, like focusing on one sense at a time, can deepen mindfulness. -Rubin encourages us to journal our sensory experiences to enhance memories and appreciation for everyday life. https://startwithsmallsteps.com/204-the-world-through-the-five-senses/ https://gretchenrubin.com/books/life-in-five-senses/ Jill’s Links https://abetterlifeinsmallsteps.com https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsJill https://affiliate.notion.so/NorthwoodsAI https://www.youtube.com/@startwithsmallstepspodcast https://www.buymeacoffee.com/smallstepspod https://twitter.com/schmern Email the podcast at jill@startwithsmallsteps.com