RAD Parenting Podcast

Come join us for this month's episode where Tracey talks about taking breaks as a parent and how important it is to protect your patience wo you can be a RAD parent! Connect with Tracey: Visit http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/ for more information or to schedule a consultation LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

With back to school season in full swing, Tracey and Jena share some things you may want to think about when entering this new school year. Connect with Tracey: Visit http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/ for more information or to schedule a consultation LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

In this episode of RAD Parenting Podcast, we delve into the topic of children's behavior: Does your kid have ADHD or is it, hypervigilance, screen time, and sleep deprivation. We explore the fine line between normal childhood exploration and behavior that may indicate ADHD. Excessive screen time is highlighted as a potential disruptor of focus and a contributor to anxiety, depression, and ADHD symptoms. The importance of considering various elements, such as diet, exercise, outdoor activities, sleep, and screen time, is emphasized in understanding a child's behavior. By examining these factors, parents can gain valuable insights into what might be influencing their child's actions. The episode stresses the significance of parents acting as the guardians of screen time, encouraging limits and the cultivation of other forms of entertainment and creativity. It is argued that excessive screen time can hinder a child's ability to daydream, be creative, and allow their brain to rest and regenerate. Reading, on the other hand, is presented as a powerful tool that enhances creativity, empathy, and engages the brain in a manner that promotes neuronal growth. Ultimately, the episode raises concerns about the short-term dopamine spikes associated with excessive screen time and the potential negative impact on cause-and-effect thinking, potentially leading to risky behavior choices. By focusing on alternative activities, maintaining a balanced lifestyle, and fostering a love for reading, parents can help their children develop healthier behaviors and cognitive patterns. Connect with Tracey: Visit http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/ for more information or to schedule a consultation LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

Welcome to the Reactive Attachment Disorder Parenting Podcast where we help give you information to turn your RAD kid into a family kid. In today’s episode, we embark on a discussion of Mother’s Day and parenting dynamics. We unravel the mysterious triggers lurking beneath this seemingly innocent holiday and question the peculiar notion of fathers being reduced to mere "babysitters" rather than equal partners. Our hosts kick off the episode with a lighthearted jab at the societal norms that have pigeonholed fathers into the babysitter category. Through clever analogies to professional childcare providers, we expose the underlying biases and assumptions that perpetuate this misconception. It's high time we redefine fatherhood and celebrate their invaluable role as dedicated and involved caregivers. Moving on, we delve into the trials and tribulations faced by mothers, who often find themselves bearing the brunt of parenting responsibilities. From the pursuit of picture-perfect, well-behaved children to the unintentional holding of new learning and information, moms can find themselves trapped in a comedy of resentment, guilt, and frustration. Creating a nurturing and supportive environment for both parents can be a tricky balancing act, but it can be possible with a few tweaks here and there. Prepare for laughs aplenty as we take on the legendary "dishwasher syndrome," where moms feel an irresistible urge to swoop in and "fix" their partners' attempts at domestic chores. But fret not, for we offer practical guidance on goal-setting, managing expectations, and celebrating even the quirkiest steps toward parenting triumphs, even if they come with a touch of dad's unique style. Communication takes center stage as we uncover the power of seamless transitions between work, home, and the countless demands of family life. Our hosts serve up clever strategies, suggesting moments of downtime to recharge, and introducing the concept of "strong sitting" or designated decompression time, injecting a dose of humor and relief into the daily whirlwind. In recognizing the challenges faced by families with children from difficult backgrounds, we delve into the significance of honoring the profound act of mothering and teaching children the art of reciprocating love and appreciation. We drive home the idea that relationships thrive not on a strict tally of give-and-take, but on a delightful dance of mutual support and understanding. Join us for this captivating episode as we navigate the chaotic yet endearing realm of Mother's Day (even though this applies to pretty much all holidays), revamp parenting dynamics, and arm you with practical tips to foster a loving and joy-filled environment where both parents can thrive. Get ready to chuckle, learn, and embrace the adventure of parenthood with open hearts and a playful spirit! Connect with Tracey: Visit http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/ for more information or to schedule a consultation LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

In this episode, we’re continuing the conversation about interracial adoption with Jena and her daughter. There really are so many little things happening that we don’t think about when blended families come together. Finding and building community with others who have a similar ancestral background as the adopted child is very beneficial though. Most importantly, we need to make sure the child’s needs are being met. That may mean seeking out additional support, asking for help, and being an active listener to really understand your child. Adoption is an incredible thing, but it’s very parent-centered, and not very child-centered. Adopted children may feel gratefulness and happiness one day, and sorrow the next day. No matter the age they are when they come into their adopted family, children will feel loss, and like they are grieving, which is totally okay. As adoptive parents, it’s vital to allow your kids to have their feelings, and share their story in the way they want to. Finding a therapist who specializes in trauma and loss, and can also help them get to a place of contentment (however that looks for the child) will go a long way. Learn more about Be the Bridge Organization: https://bethebridge.com/ Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

In this episode, we’re talking about interracial adoption, and what that experience has been like for Jena and her daughter. We’ll be sharing some helpful information from a wonderful organization, Be the Bridge, that is working to empower people and culture toward racial healing, equity, and reconciliation. If you’re considering adopting and becoming a transracial family, it’s important that you understand everything that entails-not only for your family, but for the child you are bringing into your family too. Racial mirrors are beneficial in this situation, because they’re someone you and/or your child can build a solid relationship with. Ultimately, you should be acknowledging your child’s ancestral background, no matter what age they came into your family. There will be some kind of void there, and it’s important to not let a big disconnect come into play. As adoptive parents, it can be easy to let your pride get in the way when you’re taking care of your child, but please-don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it! Learn more about Be the Bridge Organization: https://bethebridge.com/ Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

When it comes to therapy at Full Circle Family Counseling, your participation, commitment, and willingness to attend sessions are so important. This really makes or breaks how much success will take place for you and your family. I am not the miracle cure, and I cannot wave a magic wand and make everything better. Unfortunately, a lack of progress WILL show up when you’re not putting in the effort on your end. In this episode, I’m sharing more about measuring success, and how that looks for you and your child when utilizing therapy. If you’re not seeing a deeper connection with your child, I’m happy to tweak the treatment plan to suit your family better. FCFC offers a variety of options-in-person therapy, telehealth, and even in-home visits from me. We are about healing the heart to heart connection at FCFC, and my job is to guide and support you with the best tools possible. I want you to remember that time and consistency are key in all of this, and you must be taking care of yourself along the way too. You don’t have to feel alone on this journey! Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

As we move into 2023, I want to talk about what you can expect from therapy when we work together. At Full Circle Family Counseling, you won’t find ‘traditional’ therapy that is solely client-driven. Instead, the entire family is very actively involved, because everyone is being affected by what’s happening in the home. It's really important to be committed to being fully involved in therapy. It’s also perfectly okay to have really hard feelings about what’s happening in your home too (that’s why you’re here after all). In this episode, I’m sharing more about the therapeutic process I help my families with, as well as how parents can develop better communication with their RAD child. Things will most likely get worse before they get better, and even if your child’s behavior doesn’t change, your perspective will. I want you to help your child remember they have always been (and always will be) lovable. No matter what challenges are happening, you’re an awesome parent and you’ve got this! Episode Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

The holiday season can be fun, but it can also be a busy and stressful time for so many of us - especially as parents. If you feel like you need to relax and decompress after the holidays, I have a guided meditation to help you do just that. In this episode, I want you to close your eyes (or at least soften them), take in some deep breaths, and really notice how your body is feeling. As you begin paying attention to your different senses, give yourself permission to simply take note of what’s going on around you, and really take it all in. You’re here for a reason, and you have a God-given purpose; don’t be afraid to welcome and embrace your higher self. Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

Christmas is just days away, and if you’re like many of the parents I’ve worked with, you may just be ready to get it done and over with. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and really over this time of year, one of the best things you can do is to take care of yourself. Take things one step at a time, and try to have fun along the way (I know that may be easier said than done though). In this episode, I’m sharing simple advice for you to help your RAD children during Christmas with all of their emotions, as well as how you can empower them, no matter what they’ve been through. I also want to stress the importance of self-care during this time of year. It’s more than okay to step away, take some time for yourself, and refill your love tank! Episode Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

With Christmas right around the corner, you may be questioning what to get your RAD child for Christmas. What gifts do you suggest your extended family give your child with reactive attachment disorder? More than likely toys will get destroyed and instead of feeling appreciated, your child will become overwhelmed. In this episode, I provided tips for determining what your RAD child wants and what they actually NEED. From sensory objects to indestructible toys, tune in to learn all about what to get the RAD child for Christmas or any other time of year! Episode Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

The holiday season can be a lot, and pretty stressful for most of us. When you have children with developmental complex trauma in your home, it can feel even more chaotic. Did you know that you can handle the holidays with a little more grace and ease, and actually have fun though? I want to help you be more prepared when it comes to handling the extra stress this season can bring, because I know it’s challenging. In this episode, I share advice for navigating this time of year with children who have traumatic memories of the holidays. You don’t need to pack in every single holiday activity possible. Instead, pick one or two that are really important to you as parents, and just take it one moment at a time. I also provide ways for you to regulate your own nervous system and reinforce boundaries with your children so no matter what, they always know they are loved, safe, and secure. Episode Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

You’ve asked your child to do something, but they just absolutely refuse to do things your way. Does this happen more often than not? As a parent, it can be very frustrating when your child absolutely refuses to follow your direction. In previous episodes, we’ve touched on the importance of having our child do things right the first time. But what happens when you feel like your child is incapable of doing that? In this episode, I share advice for WHY your child is refusing to comply. It’s important to understand that there is a reason for this behavior. I also provide strategies for HOW to handle these power struggles when they do arise. Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

As a parent of a RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) child, it is no surprise to feel overwhelmed during the holiday season as you plan time with extended family. What do you tell your in-laws, grandparents, aunts and uncles, or siblings that may not give you the support you need? In this episode, I share advice for making your holiday run much smoother by educating your extended family as well as helping your RAD child feel safe and secure. This will allow your child to be able to move throughout the busy day while confidently having fun with the family. Timestamps: Connect with Tracey: http://www.fullcirclefamilycounseling.com/getting-started/LinkedIn: Tracey Turner-Keyser Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullcirclefamilycounseling/ **The information and advice given in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for seeing a licensed therapist. If you are involved in therapy or under medical care, please consult with your care provider before making any changes to your regime or engaging in any exercises mentioned.

Children to bullying others are not feeling good about themselves, maybe sarcastic, have passive/aggressive behaviors. They usually pick on kids who have traits that they feel they are lacking and may be jealous of that child. Its okay for parents to check into their kids phones, computers, backpacks, etc., just to make sure things are okay. Whether being the bully or being bullied, most times the child doesn't feel able to talk with their teachers about the problem; so parents need to be watchful for both issues.

Quick Tip for Shame vs Guilt in a Child Symptoms of a child experiencing shame vs guilt are discussed. Parent communication tools and effective responses for helping a child are covered.

Moving kids from destructive and shameful thinking into a more temporal and opportunistic feelingn of guilt attached to specific actions, not to thier entire person.

A great explanation of the varying types of trauma.

Typical symptoms and challenges of PTSD are discussed and the need for increasing coping skills, reframing and creating new narrative, restoration and the development of support systems for the entire family.