Attentive While Oblivious Podcast

This podcast deals with why people want to control you and how not to let them. Rachel and I go through quite a few reasons why people want control of you and us. Sometimes just a simple no can be a remedy in most circumstances. Discussions of: Mic dropGuilt is a subfactor of controlBoundariesI don’t like the lunch lady in the lineI am the boss of myselfGenerationalNarcissisticNo with no explanationYou care about yourself more than others feelingsRachel is a people pleaserTouch lovePosition holderYou can be a healer and not be a suckaElectric shock therapy We feel that the only one that should control you is you. Make it a point to set simple boundaries at first and go from there. Good luck with your journey!

Why are we always waiting for the shoe to drop in certain situations? We discuss that thought process and others just like it. We found that it is amazing how many times in our lives we have destructed things and/or circumstances for no reason except for our paranoia. Topics of: Scooby snacksP.F. Flyers and Buster BrownsThrow the show out the windowEven a squirrel gets a nutAnticipating anxietyRule of threesFolkloreBoth the kettle and pot are blackLand of the LostSpeak it into existenceGenerational cursesStress can cause physical ailmentsSh!t sometimes happens that you can’t control The ‘other’ shoeSo, we decided that waiting for a shoe or even the other shoe to drop is basically a waste of time and you can use that energy for positive thoughts or deeds. Taking control of the ‘shoe’ is paramount for living a better life.

History - it is so important to give us a relative point. Repeating it can be a good thing or a bad thing. We humans are supposed to learn from our positive and negative histories. But, sometimes we don’t good a good job. We discuss the topic of history and it interplays in our lives. Topics of: Rachel is a helper to a faultTheir shoes don’t fit meWe don’t set enough boundaries with friends and/or familyYou have to recognize the destructive patternsYou got to give no f*cksThe title flows like butterHistory repeats itself until you change itGroundhog DayPatience and love will get you only so farYou can’t live someone’s lifeSage sprayBe gone demonsActions speak louder than wordsI’m not a doormat or a rugYou can distance yourselfThrowing clotsYou only stubbed only your toeYou have to search for your happinessBecoming the a$$hole can be a good thingIt can be ok to be the villain in someone’s storyBottom line - you gotta take care of yourself. Or you can’t take care of others. Pay attention to your history and adjust your life from there. Good Luck!!

Well, this is the first podcast in the Attentive While Oblivious Podcast and it is a doozy. We were going to get to it eventually with Rachel’s semi-road rage - and our other bitches and gripes generally. Topics of: People driving slow in the left laneCalm down by podcastingLack of respect, no work ethicLearn your patience levelChildren can be feral and parents can be a$$holesPick your battlesTall all the steps to calmCOVID has helped things get worsePatience and kindnessDriving Mrs. DaisyYou don’t walk in other people’s shoesWhere is the safety for the teachers and kidsOverly stupid niceKnow your communication limitsNot everyone mixes Text your work bestieCommunicationwhen did a$$hole be an option as a childIn your nose and out mouthLet it goPens don’t drive in the left laneWe all need to be more patient and kind. The world would definitely be a better place. We will try to do our part and you need to do yours too!

Between the two of us we could talk about the subject and our sometimes disdain for our healthcare system. It is because of COVID, many people just don’t care, there are not enough professionals, and the bottom line becomes the key to approving or not approving certain treatments, or maybe just a total realization of lack of a better word - empathy. This podcast could have gone for hours discussing a few of those problems. Topics of: Nursing shortageThe healthcare system is overtaxedThe squeaky wheel gets the greaseEither see my daughter or see the policeSelf-careWe need to hold insurance companies accountableDon’t be an a$$hole to the nursesYou have to advocate for yourselfNo practical experiencePeople getting out of the healthcare systemPatience and fortitudeWe need to do betterStarts with one person at a timeHaving a toothache vs having cancer, treatment time!We don’t subscribe to having the answer to the problem, but we think it starts with patience, respect for others, and self-love - things we preach on both podcasts. We hope it gets better than worse. Prayers…..

This is a continuation of our Divorce Devil Podcast #121, where we discussed divorce, divorce recovery and religion. So, we thought is necessary to extend the subject to 15MOGNF Podcast! It’s almost a never-ending battle of good vs. evil with the role and importance of religion in our daily lives. Discussions of: Who is the favorite child?You can’t save the world, but you can help someLetting go of the absolutesCatholic guiltFree willYouth group homiesThe golden rule, is don’t be a f*cking a$$holeNo deity would want you to hurt yourselfLack of respectWhat would Rachel do?Find two eggs and go drinkJust eat the ears off the chocolate bunnyBe ready to actively listenIf you’re religious or not, we stress just being a good human being and respecting others even if you don’t agree with them. We are so divided now. Just listening to start some conversations is a great way to create a more positive world. Enjoy.

One of our favorite podcasts so far, handling fear and progressing forward. Once again, the most common denominator with all our 15MOGNF Podcast is self-love. We think that the strength of letting go of fear comes through self-love. Topics of: You get more flies from honeyWe are neutralReal HousewivesFear of dying, fear of not knowingA threesomeNo one is listeningLearning not to hurtTrusting your gut and processing with your brainTake that step outside of your comfort zoneAdult Big WheelDon’t live in fearWe do think that a little bit of fear is good. Respect your fears. Having no ‘ regurts’ is part of moving on from fear. It is a process with lots of baby steps!

Chasing your dreams and/or aspirations is something that all of us have thought of more than once. What holds us back from doing that? We discuss all the factors that may or may not deter us from achieving those dreams. Topics of: Life gets in the wayWe are legitOnly Fans and dirty socksDon’t neglect your familyAll the teeth are playdough2% and the squeaky wheelBacon and bitching lipsWhat do you want to be when you grow up?Prioritize your lifeWork ethicDo a good job even if you hate your jobHelp the worldHeal from murder?Dream big but live biggerVision boardsThink out of the boxSometimes it is just taking the first step in order to get to your dreams. Just realize, others have taken that first scary first step and survived, and you will move forward too.

Once again, we broach the premise of the show. Time and time again we have all been disappointed with people in our lives disrespecting us. Keeping it real and discussing topics of: I have a friend, and his mom is mad at himRespect should be mutualSet boundariesSelf-love is the key that keeps up groundedRemove you from my spaceThat sh!t can boil and boilPractice boundaries soonerTalk calmly and succinctly… that’s the bestDon’t engageClean your room right nowOur family knows our triggersLow-maintenance friends are the bestIf it comes back, kill it, stomp that sh!tEventually, the mule kicks backIt’s almost that we can't stress this topic and solution enough. We both go through it almost daily. We hope this shed a little more light on your journey through the hills and valleys of life. Take care and practice some of that self-love more and more each day! Music: Out of Flux, CHONKLAP, Artlist.io

What a barn burner. This is definitely one of our favorite podcasts in the 15 MOGNF Podcast space. You know it can get a little crazy and we do not disappoint! Discussions of: Choose the family you want in your lifeSelf-love is the foundationSquirrel and ADHDQuality vs quality of friendsHamburglarSquirt colaJust the tipKissing cousinsBe your own happy selfStay in your laneSet your phone to vibrate and pull to the sideYou don’t have to be a victim of your surroundingsAs usual, it does get a little crazy but that’s what it is all about. Our ‘nutty’ ride talking about our views on friends and family is definitely unusual. What are your views? Hummmmm?

Well, we went ahead and kept the crazy intro just to show you what usually happens when we start a podcast just after another one. Once I figured out what I was doing, we both dove right in with our friend theories. Topics of: Not all your friends mixSarcastic and cynicalNo emotion with textingToss the salad - the cucumber saladGirl crush on introGone through hard times togetherEveryone is not supposed to be your friendMean GirlsDon’t blame the gator even if you look like chickenBackstage passes like a groupieSometimes people are in your life for that space and timeBig guys are never wrongAll or nothing from JerseyLearn from itWe realized that sometimes we are a friend to a fault. It takes time to get ‘unstuck’ and we understand you can’t change overnight. It is a process. Just watch out for the gator in the pond!

Pardon the less-than-stellar audio. Apologies. This podcast should have been broken into two shows. What to do with the people in your life that don’t listen to you\? Good luck with that! Topics of: The asshole thresholdTaint no one listeningDon’t hide the pastThe huge divide between the haves and the have notsWe all want to be heardBe willing to learnGenerational - good and badTeach meRead a bookThe curtains and the drapesEvery group gets a beatdown somewhereAgree to disagreeNeed more actively listeningPeople are so impatientAll we can say is to be patient with your friends and family. And once again, good luck with that! Enjoy!

Friends, foes, and/or family will suck the life out of you if you let them. This podcast deals with the methods and mindset of not heading down that path and the art of becoming more selfish with your time for your own sake. Topics of: Do what you loveFill your own love bucketInternal monologueSelfish vs selflessNot all your friends mixGet a hobbyQuiet quitting?Asking for forgiveness rather than permissionIt’s not about being an assholeHave some personal momentTaking time for yourself is paramount in life. We always say, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t adequately take care of the ones you love. Be selfish!

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, we decided to do a 15MOGNF Podcast on love and loving. Straight off DD113, we dive into giving boundaries and expecting manners while dealing with love. Topics of: Teach you manners, teach you loveEverybody has experienced some type of dramaTeach a man to fishIf your love tank is empty, you can’t spread loveYou must be equally yokedRealize when your friends suckShe is a no longer…A side friendThe pattern of loving yourself more over timeThere’s a Judas among usStart to right the wrongs by loving yourself firstEmpty parking spacesThe most important person you love is yourselfBrain ImodiumThis episode is pretty special due to the fact that at the end Rachel has some pretty big knowledge to drop - and has a brain fart. We have them all the time and usually edit them out, but to show our authenticity we left it in to show that we are real and actually human. We are looking forward to un-farting that brain and getting that knowledge in the next episode. Enjoy

“Always trust everyone to be themselves, but trust in the fact that you can see them well. It takes too much energy to not trust someone. Trust a snake to bite you. Trust a liar to lie to you. Trust a thief to steal from you. Trust them to be them, BUT know them when you see them!” DMX I saw the above quote on my Facebook page from my friend Adrian Abeyta. Hence the topic of our podcast today. Thanks, Adrian. Trusting people in this social climate is hard to do. But, you need to know how and when to cut bait quickly if things go down the rabbit hole. Topics of: When people show you their true colors, believe themHope cancels it allDon’t try to fix themFixer-uppers are for HGTVIf you don’t like people, then don’t do customer serviceJersey vibe and coffee talkControl backspaceKarma is a bitchTrust it, accept it, deal with it, and move alongSee how they talk to their kids, friends, family, and coworkersPodcast songsYou get one shotWe live in a selfish societyYou don’t know what better is if you’ve had sh!tty all your lifeCharm SchoolWe hope this podcast shines some light on your iffy relationships and to act accordingly. Good luck with that. Peace…. Music: Out of Flux, CHONKLAP, Artlist.io

Fresh off the Divorce Devil Podcast #111, we borrow the subject of having hangovers in life. They usually happen after some type of negative event so you don’t have to have been drinking to have a life hangover. Giving no fucks is paramount in handling life’s hangovers. It puts them into perspective. Discussions of: Each hangover is differentThree nunsSulfites in wineInsecurities can screw up a relationshipGet past her arm spanKeep it moving Self-care and happiness are not overratedHolidays were her liquorThe small stuff mattersJealousy is a negative emotion in any amountA pain, a death, or a divorceYou can look at the menuOne of the most important things we presented in the podcast is that you fight the cynicism of not totally giving a fuck by actually caring a little. We don’t advocate totally not caring about things, but not caring enough to exhibit some type of self-care. Enjoy. Music: Out of Flux, CHONKLAP, Artlist.io

Rachel is on the back end of COVID. Since we are not in the studio together we decided to continue our Divorce Devil Podcast #113 into 15MOGNFP013. Trying to heal from any sickness, let alone COVID, is tough when you have other entities pulling you every which way. You can’t physically take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself. Discussions of: You have to give no fucks about the world around you when you are healingIn sickness and in healthThe airplane is going downPhone a friendDanish Christmas cookies from the tinReach out to your tribeOne step at a timeMartyrs suck - they are always tiredMen having babiesBetty David eyesUse your own lifelineYou have to be ok with being sickOne key component we agreed on was you have to take care of yourself. Getting well always involves some type of selfishness. Stay safe and well during this cold and flu season! Disclaimer: This podcast is not intentionally making fun or lessening the seriousness of COVID. We are mainly talking about sickness in general. Thanks. Music: Out of Flux, CHONKLAP!, Artlist.io

This is our first attempt at doing a part two on 15MOGNF Podcast. Rachel, Jodie, and I are still hanging in there grappling topics of: Where did Jodie get her potty mouth from?Targeted use of profanity to ease painProfanity can reset the brainJust send the ashes in the mailDear Asshole - prewritten lettersFree therapyBe able to share your story and not be aloneDoing kind things sometimes changes people’s livesWhat does Jodie preach the most? - journaling and exerciseCBT - Cognitive Behavioral TherapyLife’s pearlsFrom a place of passionEat a tub of Ben’s and Jerry’sSometimes commonality can help others find their voiceWe had a blast interviewing Jodie. Thank you for taking the time to hang and talk with us. Her contact and website info is below! Jodie’s Website!

Welcome, Jodie to the mic. She is definitely not your normal Ph.D.-level psychologist. Our podcast was just like sitting down and having coffee. She was very thought-provoking throughout. We discussed: Negative learningThriving on chaosEveryone has a storyWhat’s love got to do with itThe definition of grit and hopeYou can teach grit, it can come from experience and mistakesCall yourself on your own bullsh!tNew book with stories to empower peopleDon’t waste all your f*cks fight the sh!tshowMove On MotherfuckerLevel of AssholeryMommy issuesGivers attract takersWhat is your needy?Learn from what didn’t go wellOwn itBreaking the generational curseSetting boundaries with others and yourselfSwear your way to sanity journalLife is painfulWhat is the sh!tshow?Do you really want to play the role of motherf*cker today?As I planned, we couldn’t get it all in 15 minutes. So head over to part two after absorbing this podcast. We learned a lot from Jodie. We definitely have to get her on the Divorce Devil Podcast one of these days. Enjoy!

Fresh from the Divorce Devil Podcast #108, Rachel, Kelly, and I continue the subject of being your best in 2023 and not letting people crap on you, especially the ones you love! Topics of: Take away your oxygenBernie Mac - kick some kids' assMeaner than a Junkyard DogFight or flightFind your kid’s Achilles tendonLearning life lessonsBrochures for boarding schoolScared StraightPutting in the effortStruggle with being invisibleSetting boundariesThe temperature of the roomListen to your gutRead the roomWhen your own family, let alone your friends, screw you over it is a tough pill to swallow. This podcast deals with all of that to hopefully add that spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down! Lol.. Happy New Year. Thanks, Valerie for our new intro!!! Awesome