Dad Tired

Every man hits a moment—or a season—where he realizes: Something’s off. Maybe he’s performing but not connected. Providing but not present. Holding it all together, but barely. In this powerful and personal conversation, Jerrad sits down with Kyle Idleman to talk about why so many men feel stuck in patterns they can’t explain or escape—and what to do about it. Whether you’re in your 20s or 60s, this episode offers biblical, practical tools for taking your thoughts captive and walking in freedom. They cover: The “plus or minus 3 of 40” window (and why it’s not just about age) Why men trade connection for production—and how to stop How to tell if you’re really healthy (hint: it’s not your to-do list) What it means to bear one another’s burdens—without trying to fix each other How to break the thought patterns that have kept you stuck for years Kyle’s new book: Every Thought Captive More from Dad Tired: https://www.dadtired.com

Ever walked out of a situation and thought, “That didn’t feel right”? In this raw, unscripted episode, Jerrad Lopes shares a deeply vulnerable moment — a story that didn’t involve sin in the traditional sense, but came dangerously close. From a return line at Home Depot to the emotional weight of a product endorsement, Jerrad invites listeners into the middle circle: the subtle behaviors that don’t look like sin, but lead our hearts away from truth, integrity, and God. 🎧 In this episode: What “middle circle behavior” means and how it can unravel your soul The difference between numbing out vs. self-care A powerful framework used in recovery communities to build emotional awareness How small compromises can quietly erode godly character Jerrad’s honest confession to his wife — and why radical honesty matters Why Oreo binges, Zillow scrolling, or standing while eating may matter more than you think The prayer for men who want transformation but feel stuck Whether you’re a husband, a father, or a man seeking healing, this episode offers a language for the soul and a challenge to step out of isolation. 📌 Want to go deeper? Consider sharing this episode with a friend and comparing your own circles 🔗 Support the Work Attend the next Dad Tired Retreat → DadTired.com/retreat Become a monthly donor and help continue the mission Partner brands: World Watch News – Faith-based news for families

What do you do when your marriage feels over — and you don't even know why? In this raw and honest conversation, Dave and Ann Wilson share the untold story of how their marriage nearly ended at year 10… and the one moment that changed everything. They dive into childhood wounds, soul pain, and the exhausting journey of healing — and how putting God back at the center saved not just their relationship, but their individual hearts. 🔥 Inside this episode: • Why performance and perfection can kill a marriage • How childhood trauma shapes adult relationships • The one word God spoke that changed it all • How to start healing, even when it feels impossible Whether you’re fighting for your marriage, healing from your past, or just longing for deeper connection — this story will give you hope, honesty, and practical steps toward restoration. 🎯 Don't miss this powerful conversation. Hit play — and get ready for real talk. Join The Movement: dadtired.com/donate Today's Sponsor: http://dwellbible.com/dadtired

Porn. Shame. Repeat. Breaking the cycle starts with telling the truth.Jerrad Lopes returns after months of silence, not with answers—but with honesty. In this deeply vulnerable episode, Jerrad shares why he hasn’t told a single lie in 156 days, how intensive counseling broke him open, and what it means to be a “truth teller” in a world of escape. Whether it’s porn, alcohol, work, or Oreos—this is an invitation to stop numbing and start healing. If you're tired of hiding, if you're tired of performing, and you're ready to be fully present—this episode is for you. In this episode: Key Challenge for Listeners: Ask yourself:🧠 What are you trying to escape from?🔍 What are you using to escape? You don’t need to be perfect. But you do need to be honest. Start here. Resources & Mentions: dadtired.com

Most Christian men wouldn’t call it an addiction. “It’s just something I struggle with…” But what if that struggle is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, Nick Stumbo—Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries—shares his powerful story of addiction, shame, and the deeper healing Jesus offers. We talk about: Why confession isn’t the finish line The 3 questions that revealed Nick’s addiction What white-knuckling recovery really looks like How trauma, performance, and shame feed the cycle This isn’t just about porn. It’s about what your soul is really craving. Learn more about Pure Desire Ministries: https://www.puredesire.org Get Nick’s book Setting Us Free: https://amzn.to/3EtfY2P Start your healing journey with Dad Tired: [https://www.dadtired.com] Subscribe to the Dad Tired podcast for more episodes that help men lead their families well A special thanks to today's sponsor: www.dwellbible.com/dadtired

After a four-month break from the podcast, Jerrad Lopes returns with his most vulnerable episode yet. In this raw and powerful conversation, he shares the painful truth behind his absence, including the sin that nearly cost him everything—and the healing journey that saved his life. Faced with two options—end it all or embrace the pain and pursue healing—Jerrad chose life. Now, he's back with a renewed vision for Dad Tired: to help men find the kind of deep healing that transforms everything. If you're tired, hurting, or hiding, this is the episode you didn’t know you needed. Sponsor: worldwatch.news/dadtired

In today's episode, Pastor Kaleb and Pastor Chris sit down with Jerrad to talk about the next season of Dad Tired.

In this powerful follow-up to the series on biblical masculinity, Chris Hilkin continues unpacking what it means to be a man after God's own heart through the PRIME MEN acrostic. After Jerrad Lopes opens with a heartfelt update and thanks the Dad Tired community for their support, Chris teaches through the next key biblical traits of godly manhood: Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, and Noble. With deep theological insight, biblical references, and real-life application, this episode challenges men to take spiritual leadership seriously—at home, in the church, and in the world. Bible Passages Mentioned: John 81 Timothy 3:4-5Ephesians 6:4Genesis 18:19Genesis 3:61 Samuel 3:11Mark 52 Timothy 1:7Proverbs 16:32Philippians 2Proverbs 24:161 Corinthians 16:13-14Luke 231 Timothy 4:8Titus 2:7-81 Samuel 15Matthew 4John 17Nehemiah 4:14Philippians 4:8Proverbs 22:1Micah 6:8Acts 5Joshua 7John 18Isaiah 53:7Luke 23:34 Discussion Questions: Which of the PRIME MEN traits (Peacemaking, Repentant, Intentional, Meek, Enduring, Moral, Empathetic, Noble) do you most naturally embody, and which one do you struggle with the most? Why? (Bonus: Print the list and literally highlight where you're strong and where you're bleeding, as suggested in the episode.) Read Ephesians 6:4. What does it look like for you, specifically, to take spiritual responsibility for your kids? In what ways have you been tempted to hand that role off to someone else? How have you misunderstood meekness in the past? What would it look like for you to walk in “power under control” this week? How does your private life reflect your integrity? Are there places in your life where you are “fractioned” or living in two different personas? What does integration look like for you? In a culture that values comfort and ease, what does it mean to endure like Jesus? How can you practically grow in endurance and perseverance when life gets hard?

In this conversation, Chris Hilken explores the concept of masculinity, particularly focusing on its representation in media and the attributes of biblical masculinity. He discusses the importance of understanding true masculinity, the role of peacemaking, and the necessity of repentance in a man's life. Through personal anecdotes and biblical references, Hilken encourages men to reflect on their character and strive for growth in their understanding of masculinity.

Jesus sent His disciples two by two—not alone. Why? Because ministry, life, and discipleship are not meant to be solo endeavors. In this episode, we unpack Luke 10:1 and explore the biblical foundation for companionship in the Christian life. From accountability and encouragement to strengthening our testimony, we’ll discuss why godly friendships matter for every man—whether you’re a pastor, a truck driver, or a dad just trying to raise your kids well. God’s design for brotherhood isn’t just about survival; it’s about finishing well.

Make sure to connect with dwell at: dwellbible.com/dadtired On this episode of Dad Tired, we explore the road to Emmaus and the way friendship and faith intertwine in the Christian life. When Jesus walked alongside two confused disciples, He met them in their questions, in their grief, and in their search for clarity—just as He does with us today. Drawing from Luke 24, the lives of Perpetua and Felicity, and the wisdom of St. Bernard of Clairvaux, we’ll discuss how friendship is essential to holiness, how Christ is present in our shared struggles, and why discipleship isn’t meant to be done alone. If you've ever wrestled with doubt, isolation, or the mystery of God’s plan, this episode will remind you that the Third Traveler always walks beside you.

Friendship and holiness are deeply intertwined in the way of Jesus. In this episode of Dad Tired, we explore Jesus’ command to lay down our lives for our friends (John 15:13) and how true friendship reflects the heart of God. While Judas betrayed friendship, Jesus embodied it offering Himself fully for those He loved. What does it mean for us as dads, husbands, and men of faith to live out sacrificial friendship? How does holiness shape the way we love those around us? Join us as we unpack these themes and challenge ourselves to follow Christ’s example.

In this episode, Kaleb Allen dives into John 14:27—"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid." We explore how Jesus' words challenge the mental loops that trap us in anxiety, self-reliance, and fear. What happens when we allow the external, unshakable truth of God’s Word to interrupt our internal dialogue?

How do we reconcile the character of God with the violence in the Old Testament? In this episode, Chris helps us wrestle with one of the most difficult theological questions: Does God’s command for destruction in the Old Testament align with His justice, mercy, and love? We explore biblical context, historical considerations, and theological perspectives to bring clarity to this challenging topic.

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In this follow-up episode, Pastor Chris Hilken continues the conversation on the morality of God in the Old Testament, tackling some of the most challenging and thought-provoking questions that arise from scripture. With a focus on helping fathers shepherd their families, Chris addresses the tension between God’s justice and mercy, exploring stories of divine judgment and their place in the grand narrative of redemption.

Pastor Chris Hilken tackles the tough questions about God’s morality in the Old Testament. From stories of judgment to divine commands, Chris helps dads reconcile these challenging passages with God’s love and justice. Tune in for practical insights to strengthen your faith and lead your family well.

On this episode of the Dad Tired podcast, Kaleb sits down with authors Patrick Miller to discuss his new book, Joyful Outsiders. Together, they explore what it means to live with joy, hope, and purpose in a culture where faith often feels out of place

Kaleb’s Dad Tired episode on James 5:16-18 highlighted Elijah’s prayer life as a model of faith and perseverance. Drawing from the passage where James emphasizes the "prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working," Kaleb unpacked how Elijah’s prayers were both bold and persistent while unpacking church history's tradition concerning James' prayer life.

In this heartfelt episode of Dad Tired, Kaleb sits down with pastor, author, and entrepreneur John Onwuchekwa to explore life’s deepest challenges and God’s unshakable hope. John shares his journey through profound loss, including the death of his brother and struggles with infertility, and how these experiences shaped his faith, fatherhood, and calling. Together, they discuss practical ways to navigate grief, the power of community, and finding purpose in the midst of pain.